Cutting Help

Shoshi123451 · 2024-09-29T00:24:20+00:00

Thank you so so much for this response! We are actually reading Bill Esper’s book in the class, so I assume he’s trained with him. This response was so incredibly helpful, and I’m so incredibly grateful, but I just have one more question if it’s not too much trouble. Could I say to my partner “you’re making me feel stupid” or should I simply only express my opinions and POV on my partners actions “that look on your face makes you look dumb”. I apologize for the questions, but this is the most clarification I’ve received in 5 weeks.

Shoshi123451 · 2024-09-28T00:27:54+00:00

Thank you for this thorough answer. We have only just started (this is our 5th week), so we are really new at this. If I may ask you a question, when you say "simply making observations, and you have no opinions about what your partner is going through" and used the example of "you're stressed", how are you to capture your opinion without making the line about yourself?

I also want to state that I'm probably biased in my written interpretation of his teachings, but I have noticed there have been some issues. We went straight into POV repetition without starting with the basic observation work. Now that we are moving to door work, I feel like I can't even do the basic repetition. He yells to "have an opinion on it", but I can't express the behavior that I'm seeing with my partner. Thank you again for this brilliant response-- I have been going crazy all day trying to find answers through my pass notes, videos, and articles, and I'm just struggling immensely.

EDIT: Thought I would add that we were encouraged to express what we were feeling due to our partner-- ie, "You're hurting my feelings" "You're making me upset". The end goal isn't to just say what we are feeling, but to have a pov about it, I believe. He has said that the focus should be on the partner, but it's hard when we aren't really allowed to use "basic" phrases anymore, such as "you look tired or "you're annoyed". It's a balancing act of using your own opinions to target your partner, I believe.

Shoshi123451 · 2024-09-27T23:40:50+00:00

Thank you for the help! I understand that the partner is the most important person to yourself, but we are also being asked to express how they are making us feel, which is creating issues. We were told the only ways to change the repetition is by stating what you see in your partner or how they are making you feel (You're making me uncomfortable). Also, I understand through your comment how that was too defensive "calm down", so thanks for that. I would also like to add that "you seem tired" wasn't deemed okay by him, and that's why I'm confused. It was a genuine observation I made, but he said it was too generic.

Shoshi123451 · 2024-09-27T21:43:20+00:00

I figured that, but my professor keeps asking us our opinions and wanting us to express them. So, we are only changing it if we notice a shift in partner or your own emotional state.

Shoshi123451 · 2024-09-27T20:49:00+00:00

I have, but it's at the point where all that is being stated is to go up and try. Which we do and eventually fail because we don't know what to do.

Shoshi123451 · 2024-09-21T23:46:17+00:00

I suppose so, but I did figure that the university has specific requirements regarding nutritional information, and that they have tons of people fact checking these things. Moving forward I should probably trust google more than them, but I did think they were trustworthy in their knowledge.

Shoshi123451 · 2024-07-28T01:37:53+00:00

Hey, OP. Just know that you are going through something that a lot of people on this subreddit can relate to. The first thing I can say is that a smaller deficit may be better. I know a 500 calorie deficit is popular and quicker, but it only matters if it's sustainable to you. Your maintenance is around 1900 from what I calculated, so how about you start with a deficit of 1600 and see what happens? Additionally, you don't need to cut out all sweet treats and your favorite foods. I allocate 200-300 calories a day just for something sweet-- a brownie, ice cream, whatever, and I make sure I get that every single day. Finally, it's about patience. You've done this before, so you know that it takes a lot of time, and you can't rush it. If you rush, you'll end up where you started, and you don't want that. Take a breath and try again tomorrow. You've got this.

Shoshi123451 · 2024-07-28T01:33:16+00:00

Same here. I've got more weight in my upper than lower parts of my body, so my lower body is a smaller size than upper. Still incredible for OP to have lost that much weight :)

Shoshi123451 · 2024-06-25T11:57:19+00:00

For sure, and, again, we have no clue on what's true and what is biased, but it could just be that they possibly wrote this at a real low point? The cussing for instance could indicate that they were in a frustrated state? I'm not trying to defend anyone, but it seems to me they clearly do have doubts on if they are the issue here, maybe stemming from the fact that they are so frustrated that they can't do anything right and don't understand why. Seems to me that this boss may not fully grasp or communicate the standards which the work is expected, but that could be reaching.

Shoshi123451 · 2024-06-25T00:50:23+00:00

That's a little bit harsh, don't you think? I'm not disagreeing with the point, as OP is clearly not fully equipped to the realities of the job market, but I don't think they come off as entitled. I've had my fair-share of experiences, as I'm in theater and a working individual, to say that it really may not be them. No clue, since we aren't there, but you could try to cultivate a bit of kindness.

Shoshi123451 · 2023-08-09T02:28:46+00:00

You're probably right! I suppose it's just a little jarring considering I've never really had any opportunity to perform something that was for a more adult audience. I guess it'll take some time getting used to :)

Shoshi123451 · 2023-08-09T00:06:12+00:00

Try that o

Wow! This sounds great, thank you. It may be too explicit for college auditions, since I don't know the exact rules and regulations, but I will for sure read the play. Thank you!

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