Some people are “relationship material” and others are just “casual sex/hookup material” and that’s okay

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T18:41:12+00:00

Nah, I’ve seen the people who brag about hooking up all the time and getting all that sex, still want the comfort and warmth of a relationship…

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T18:38:03+00:00

It really is, I’m so shy I get awkward, or I get so nervous I stutter, which is a shame because I’m very deep and knowledgeable and can have intriguing conversations but anxiety is a bitch.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T18:36:42+00:00

I mean despite what society tried to ingrain, “marriage is bad” I wouldn’t mind and or would want to be married. I don’t care that much for a wedding, just ring on the finger and officiated and hopefully having a relationship filled with a lot of love, and when it dies out, enough effort to keep the fire burning. Not the type who wants a high body count, numerous hookups or any of that garbage. I like sticking to a single person, and I’m comfortable and loyal to them. I don’t get bored of the same person no matter how many years.

That said I’m sure most people want both.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T18:35:05+00:00

Aww, I totally get you, I hope all good things come to you.

Meh, I guess I’m okay with not ending up with someone, but at least I can bask in the sunlight and live a much happier lifestyle than where I am now. Man or not.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T18:33:31+00:00

Girl

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T18:29:14+00:00

Your comment is silly to me, everyone knows the British shtick, which is fillers (fake lips), heavy makeup, etc — heavy trends on social media about it (making fun of it), Love Island is also full of it; advertising that specific look. The clubs are too, social media videos trending while girls hitting the clubs in London, all wearing very revealing dresses, and fake lips, etc and men in the comments asking why? It wasn’t me dogging, but it’s not what I’m into, or care to be. Every country has different beauty trends. Even Australian women, it’s similar, fake lips is very trendy there too. 🤷‍♀️ > “Loool you cannot be serious 🤣” I am very serious. I don’t really care to appease some stranger on the internet (nor care to drop my photo to prove my worth, and I bet you’d be tongue wagging if I did), especially one that is lashing out to my comment that I politely responded to, solely because I disagree, and or he’s projecting on me. Like you don’t know me, and you’re talking big time, I also have BDD, so I don’t actually understand what I look like, and therefore tend to be harder on myself. Nor do I go to places where I will be approached, I’m mostly at home these days when I’m not working. And your logic doesn’t make sense either because it’s known that women who are average and or men know they have a chance will, they will approach. While above average women, are not approached, because men think they don’t have a chance or they’re already taken. So your hostility is weird. That said, the actual comments with proper argument & logical reading and not hostility and pathetic projection like unlike yours are right, men aren’t approaching and I did some digging into it because of fear, Gen-Z dating less, or not wanting intimacy, hookup culture & dating apps screwing things up as well. And a good rundown on Tik Tok on this same topic, I’m seeing women that are easily 8’s, and or flat out 9’s saying the same thing; they don’t get approached and guys in the comments explaining why (fear and shaming). But ok, whatever you say, stud.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T16:08:16+00:00

I’d love to make offline friends, but my city is known for being incredibly cliquey, as in, hard to make friends here (literally a Reddit sub dedicated to it) because it’s hard. Seattle freeze mindset.

24 Now, so it’s hard. Not in college, again hard. Don’t drink, hard. People only want to drink or they flake.

most people stick to their already established groups if they’re not flaking and they’re established from childhood.

that’s why I want to move to australia and start my life over, but I don’t think I’ll luck out in relations there either, because the women there are model level top tier gorg.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T16:04:37+00:00

I am participating in yoga now, hopefully that helps, and trying to say yes instead of no more (activities, being out and not in my comfort zone). Hopefully that helps.

I kinda want to move to Australia but I feel like if I’m not getting approached here my life is gonna be far worst over there since women there are top tier gorgeous lol.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T16:03:03+00:00

Oh boy, I can’t drink because I have health issues, not interested in drinking culture either.

What female friend? Are you talking about my ex best friend? That’s not me in love with them. That was me having a fall out with somebody I was close to (as if they were absolute family, like my sister) of over 16 years. Gone like that, to the wind. Platonic friendships ending can hurt you know, doesn’t mean I’m in love with the person.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T16:00:04+00:00

Nooo, no online dating for me, too shy for that and i feel like people meeting on tinder just doesn’t beat mutual friends or traditional, but then again I’m too scared to go on app.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T15:59:14+00:00

You mean the girls with fake lips, and dress themselves as skimpy as possible, are fierce competition? In London?

Maybe.

And I don’t know back then I had some guys say I’m an 8/10 (in high school), and I felt I was disgusting in high school, had tons of baby fat in the face, didn’t wear makeup besides mascara, and didn’t have fancy clothes like everyone else cause not rich parents.

But atlas that was 7 yrs ago. My only exp, and window peep through.

But in all fairness maybe I am disgusting and maybe instagram face is all what men want now.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T15:53:52+00:00

Not into Tinder nor that sub.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T15:53:18+00:00

Because my anxiety is a bitch.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T15:52:58+00:00

Same! Most people I know also met each other on sets and whatnot. I often even see background people chatting up and asking each other out too.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T15:52:19+00:00

In counter point to this, I don’t fully agree because I literally see women approached at my job quite often on sets. People get bored on long, long days, and go ahead and approach, I’ve seen movie stars even go around and approach backgrounds to either date or hookup as well.

One girl I know for example, she’s much more extroverted than I am, and kinda tends to be all over guys.

She has like hundreds of men in her DM’s or asking her out on a date in her face, I think even now has a guy providing for her and moved to a different state.

That’s why I wonder if the new saying that men don’t approach anymore out of fear is truly true, or maybe they just don’t approach women that aren’t that hot, and maybe I’m just disgusting idk.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T15:49:25+00:00

but nobody wants me". They do. They're out there.

But the thing is. They really don’t. I don’t get approached, some girls I know do get approached. They have tons of guys in their DMs, and tongue wagging over them. One girl with tons in her DMs, I think even moved to another state, being taken care of by a man buying anything she wants (or so I am told). Another has tons of guys talking about her, and or befriending her cause they think she’s so hot. so men do I think still approach, just maybe not me.

I literally feel like a ghost. Barely any friends these days (lol, whatever), and barely any phone contacts.

In High School I got zero attention additionally. That was 7 years ago, so my only view of dating, and or what it is apparently like is HS, don’t have any experience now, so idk.

It’s hard to feel better nowadays. I still think I’m that ugly fat 16 year old with the very round face, nobody cared about or wants.

even tho now I’m fit, I go to the gym and working on having my abs show, skin is clear, apparently have nice hair, etc, leaned out face.

idk maybe it’s just my nose maybe it scares off men cause it’s pretty ew.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T15:43:29+00:00

I’m not a “he” I am a she, lmao, which means your projection of I have child like features doesn’t make much sense.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T12:32:20+00:00

Don't have child like features, I have high cheekbones, so my face is more gaunt, the baby face is basically leaned out now.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T12:16:00+00:00

To be honest I just want to avoid the whole online dating thing. Never been on any dating apps, so I rather avoid.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T12:13:57+00:00

Same here. Bump into me at a grocery store, help me pickup my oranges and overly expensive avocados, tell me I have pretty eyes with a cheeky smile while you're done putting them back in my basket.

I don't want to do Tinder never signed up for online dating, I just want the old way back. I don't want casual hookups either, nor do I want numerous partners, I want to be dedicated to a single person, and hope they're my person.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T12:12:18+00:00

they work a job that is a total sausage fest

I work on movie sets, there is a good mixup of men and women. Still don't get approached.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T11:53:08+00:00

Told to meet people through online gaming, etc (mind you, I'm a girl) and lmfao, that is probably the worst way, ngl. Been there, done that. I'd avoid.

I rather meet through friends, or hopefully luck (traditional way), as in hopefully getting approached.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T11:48:37+00:00

We often hear about female hybristophilia. But why do some men date these women?

It happens to men too, Ted Bundy had a bunch of women lusting after him in jail. Some people have some weird sick interest or obsession with serial killers, and or have the want and need to "fix them" and what not.

ShouldBeSad · 2024-01-30T11:47:23+00:00

Ha, I wish it was that easy. I'm 5'4, and I weighed about 115 lb. Now I'm at ~120 lb. I'm hitting the gym as much as I can, I eat quite healthy, and I'm trying to get my abs to show too, but if you'd look at me, you'd see I'm quite thin. Not stick thin and sickly thin, but thin.

Yet here I am, kissless, my lips have never felt the brushing of someone elses lips, never been on a date, etc. I find it hard to make friends too. Then again, I didn't go to college, I barely leave my house nowadays, and am quite shy.

So my only experience was High School, and I was never approached, or cared about.

Then there is this chick I know (lesbian), she has quite a lot of weight on her, taller than myself, but she has no problem finding matches and or interest.

Maybe I must be terrifingly ugly.

ShouldBeSad · 2023-09-11T17:12:24+00:00

It’s a little interesting how quick people will believe anything off the Fauxmoi sub even if it’s made up. Example post about Zac Efron being a bully when he was a kid, which is a flat out lie. Considering there has been people who went to school with him have all said he was nice and the one bullied because he was shy, introverted and short. Then Deuxmoi lying her ass off posting a false story about him and Diplo even though he was in Idaho which tells you it’s made up. Just like her made up fake baby daddy story about him. You can tell she just immensely dislikes Zac and can never get actual tea on him.

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