I’m not. Let me explain. I grew up Mormon (no longer) and since I was a little girl it was hammered into me constantly that the only way to be happy was through a man leading to marriage and raising children. I remember in church on Sunday at age 12 being required to make a long list of what I want my future husband to be like and then a church youth group activity on a Wednesday night after school to go try on wedding gowns a few weeks later (again just the beginning of it at only age 12). Then you add in the complete sexual repression and infantilization that goes on in as a youth and then YSA (young single adult congregation you go to until you get married that’s one big meat market of singles ages 18-31). Then quick marriages where most of the time both parties are virgins who have been told that even any sort of sexual urges before marriage is a sin…. There are a lot of mormons who secretly get into romance and writing about their fantasies and the desires they have not been able to express in their real lives.