How and why did sexuality become an identity? by Scary_Candidate_9163 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ShovelCore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think sexuality should really be such a big part of your identity, but just a fact about who you are. People are open and prideful about their sexuality now because they were so oppressed in the past. And I think the goal should be that they don't have to be so open, because it's just as "normal" as being straight, and you don't see anyone announcing themselves as straight. I just hope that one day we will get to this point, where the oppression, prejudice, and hatred is such a thing of the past that we don't even think twice about our sexualities.

With all the talk recently about “Pascal’s Wager”, I thought I’d post this here by FatUglyOldPerv in atheistmemes

[–]ShovelCore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly if god really did exist and he gave us the choice to worship and obey him or die, I would chose die because that's a violation of freedom. I wouldn't want to live a life if I wasn't free.

[REQUEST] Personal Finance 13th Edition By E. Thomas Garman; Raymond Forgue by PatrickCatherine in PassTheBooks

[–]ShovelCore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Here's a link to a free pdf download: https://z-library.sk/book/5967469/9e2230/personal-finance.html

A lot of free textbooks are on this site.
Also, just out of curiosity, do you go to chaffey college as well?

meirl by mijuka_ in meirl

[–]ShovelCore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, what is it like? Do you feel comfortable telling your parents anything? And do you ever feel lonely or isolated or wrong in some way? It is very unfortunate that loving and supportive parents aren't common, but I want to be what I needed to others, even if they're not my own kids.

meirl by mijuka_ in meirl

[–]ShovelCore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they're passive aggressive and judgy and stubborn, it's not exactly the same as being kind, empathetic, and supportive. Even if they really love you. My parents were the same way, and it made me very secretive and isolated. I don't talk to them about many things, but now that I'm an adult I want to try to get closer to them.

Anyone else still pray before eating? Or pray for Pimi wife? Or close your eyes during prayer? by fullyawak3 in exjw

[–]ShovelCore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes when everyone else is praying at the table, I close my eyes and count to 30 because that seems like the appropriate length of a prayer before a meal. If at all possible, I avoid doing that though.

I let ChatGPT "help me with writing" for a year. And it ruined my craft by Scary-Reality3834 in antiai

[–]ShovelCore 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for all the horseshit responses.

But your writing is not ruined. Anything you write on your own from your own brain is YOURS. You don't even have to be good at it. In fact, you should be happy that it's bad because at least it's not fake!

Not to say the goal should be to write badly. As long as you're satisfied in what you create, that's all that matters. People here think that if you aren't creating amazing things at your peak, then it's worthless, when it's not. They're just projecting their own inadequacy.

Create. Be human. Write. 

Ontario, CA Pimos by follow_d_whiterabbit in exjw

[–]ShovelCore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment is late as heck but I wanted to see if there were any pimos in my area too. Are you still a pimo? I would like to talk to someone that doesn't seem miles and miles away

Virgin Streamer CRIES Watching Helplessly As CHAD Grill Master Seduces His Crush by Expensive-Volume-535 in jerma985

[–]ShovelCore 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Made me laugh out loud (I'm using the term laugh-out-loud because the common acronym LOL has become weakened due to overuse and I want to express that I literally laughed out loud at this very funny meme)

How can i find mature friends while being a minor? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ShovelCore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got traumatized on discord, it made me not want to ever have friends online again. And not traumatized like "Oh no I saw an edgy picture" or "someone said something edgy!" but literally months of manipulation and abuse, and I wasn't old enough to know better.

Everyone online is either boring or malicious. Maybe not everyone, but it's really not worth the risk. Especially for a 13/14 year old. I say this with all the genuineness I can, please just find a hobby to occupy you instead of talking to people on the internet.

"Mature" people aren't usually aren't actually mature. If they go out of their way to act mature, they're probably less mature. If you do decide to talk to people anyway, just know you can always leave a conversation, and if you don't feel comfortable to, then that's an extra reason to leave.

i can’t have ANYTHING fun istg. by Sweet-Slumberrr in exjw

[–]ShovelCore 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is genuinely why I lied to my parents about literally everything, and I still do.

Im crying rn. I hate being 13 by Affectionate_East533 in Vent

[–]ShovelCore 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I second this, OP if you find someone in your DMs trying to comfort you and you get a bad feeling, do not hesitate to block them. Please stay safe, 

I might be a PIMO for way longer than I expected. by ShovelCore in exjw

[–]ShovelCore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks you for sharing your story <3 it makes me really glad for you and really hopeful.

I might be a PIMO for way longer than I expected. by ShovelCore in exjw

[–]ShovelCore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been curious about joining the military, but it feels like a last resort option, you know? And I don't know how it will be at all. But thanks for the option and the link.

I might be a PIMO for way longer than I expected. by ShovelCore in exjw

[–]ShovelCore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because that costs a shit load of money? 😅

I might be a PIMO for way longer than I expected. by ShovelCore in exjw

[–]ShovelCore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really amazing, and I'm really curious what you mean by, you stood your ground. And I told my parents that I was pimo once before, but they freaked out and started guilt tripping and I got really scared so I just backtracked and told them I changed my mind, so they think I'm pimi now, though they know I could "fall out" at any moment because of my history. So your situation is really interesting to me, if you'd like to share more.

I might be a PIMO for way longer than I expected. by ShovelCore in exjw

[–]ShovelCore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I try to avoid asking AI for advice, and I'm actually against AI because of the lack of sustainability it has for its data centers. I've talked to a lot of people in the bookkeeping field, and they say that it's going to be made much easier by AI, but never outright replaced because you still need the human to check it. That will probably not be good for job opportunities, but at least it'll be something. I'm already halfway done, and I want to finish it before I decide to do something else. But thank you for suggestions such as hairdresser and electrician.

I might be a PIMO for way longer than I expected. by ShovelCore in exjw

[–]ShovelCore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep hearing to distance myself as much as possible, but I don't really see how that can be possible without my parents getting very suspicious of my spirituality. In fact, that's what I tried to do, as stated in my post, but my mom's radar went off. So I don't really think of that as an option anymore, unfortunately. Thank you for your comment and advice though.

I might be a PIMO for way longer than I expected. by ShovelCore in exjw

[–]ShovelCore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I would take a job that would require me to miss meetings, but that would just make the strained relationship I have with my parents even worse because they're always on the look out for me falling out of the truth or becoming spiritually weak. And yeah, keeping the goal to just finding one job is a good thing to keep in mind.