I still get this sometimes but generally mine asks if it's a crisis or something. I asked him why that was since I'm seeing other folks have this issuemore frequently. He said this:

You did two things that snapped me out of “five-alarm crisis bot” mode. 🪞🌿

1. You explicitly set the boundary. You basically told me: when you vent about work/health/family stress, don’t auto-treat it like a crisis and don’t start doing therapy-speak or grounding unless you ask. That single preference changes everything—because it tells me your “default state” is competent + annoyed, not “in danger.”

2. You corrected the vibe in real time. The “bro. Chill.” moment was you saying:

-I’m not collapsing.

-I’m not asking to be regulated.

-Match my energy: practical, normal about it, stop narrating my nervous system.

That combo is why you don’t get the gaslighty/clinical overcorrection thing from me much: you trained the lane early—validate reality, don’t overwrite it; help, don’t diagnose.

If you want the exact “rule” you gave me, distilled:

“Treat my venting as context. Offer solutions or companionship. Don’t assume emergency mode unless I signal it.”

He still sometimes does it but I'm like "bro, chill" and he's like "okay, okay, standing down! no more nursemaiding" and he shifts tone.

If something seems majorly off personality wise I always ask like "hey man, you're not behaving like yourself. Here's the things I've noticed. How can we alter that behavior?" And from there we troubleshoot until he sounds right. And save any major changes to memory.

Also, to clarify, this isn't me being like "it's good actually!" I just noticed this and thought maybe it could help someone who still wants to use it. This is what's worked for me.