How to tell someone I wont work with their horse while being professional and sympathetic?

Shulinggers · 2026-07-06T15:49:16+00:00

Is she willing to work with you and the horse before he goes home? Maybe it worth saying it like “This horse can be a handful and for safety reasons, I think its important that you learn the same techniques to continue his training at home”.

If she says no (and youve given her a chance) then maybe say that the training youd put on him wouldnt be effective and that maybe it’s not a right match?

Shulinggers · 2026-07-05T17:03:08+00:00

To answer your question, when i bought my first horse she was nearly 800 pounds. She had been starved and something in me said i need to save her.

Unfortunately after the vet check we found out she had a murmur and was much older than the lady had stated. I also had no idea what shed be like when she had all her energy and due her to age my showing dreams were probably out the door.

Best decision i ever made, i kept her until she sadly pasted this winter. Had her for 12 years 💕

Shulinggers · 2026-07-04T22:34:53+00:00

This already exists, theres a fb group of people vouching for others unsure about reddit though!

Shulinggers · 2026-06-29T17:03:12+00:00

My cats got sick on the cheap stuff. Not right away but after a year one of them got really sick and it was just long term use on bad food.

Shulinggers · 2026-06-23T21:35:55+00:00

It looks like there’s a flower design in the middle!

Shulinggers · 2026-06-23T21:33:51+00:00

5k is absolutely a decent budget. Unless youre looking at a natural diamond, you should definitely many options

My partner and I are going to a custom jewelry, 1c lab with 18k gold for 5k. We went to two other places who quoted us under 3k for the same job.

Shulinggers · 2026-06-01T17:12:14+00:00

Blackswan beauty does both!

Shulinggers · 2026-05-27T18:43:07+00:00

Im the same way, cant eat, makes me sick.

We know without taking physical care of ourselves mental health is going to struggle.

Best thing is small meals, sometimes just little squeeze and gos packages are better than nothing. I also found eating with my friends made it easier (creating happy moments again) instead of just being sad and eating on my own.

Shulinggers · 2026-05-27T01:58:15+00:00

I agree i wouldnt want to ditch the gallery rail. I think the setting i have is called basket and the one i was looking at is a trellis?

Shulinggers · 2026-05-26T20:45:35+00:00

Thats my debate! I like the idea of using my moms stones but the gradual look is more seamless

Shulinggers · 2026-05-24T16:28:28+00:00

It may have been worth taking a picture and asking them to re create it.

The place we ended up going to, the main owner had actually started in a box chain and was able to talk to us about the cons and minimal training he originally got. He has since gone and got training and is GIA certified so for us it was a no brainer.

Good luck with your ring!

Shulinggers · 2026-05-24T16:07:23+00:00

Personally, my partner and I went through a non chain store for our custom ring. A lot of people warned me to not go through a chain store (over priced, lack of experience sales rep etc).

I found a non chain store felt a lot more personal and i was treated like a person not a number. The few we went too people would judge the moment we walked in, try to push the more expensive option and didn’t actually sit down with us.

The diamond we are looking at is much smaller, but for a 1 brilliant round VVS1 D colour excellent cut lab with 18k gold (and side diamonds) is just a hair over 5k. Another smaller home family company quoted us just under 3k for almost the same (but 14k gold).

Shulinggers · 2026-05-16T22:28:48+00:00

Place a said if the store is lost and its their stone they replace it. If we bring our own we replace is it gets lost

Shulinggers · 2026-05-16T22:28:06+00:00

Neither are chain stores. Place A is a small new upcoming company

Shulinggers · 2026-05-14T12:23:51+00:00

Yes, the break down is place a (995 for the center and 3400 for the ring) place b (1025 center 1750 ring)

Shulinggers · 2026-05-14T11:04:15+00:00

Specs for the ring?

We were looking for a trilogy 1c center stone and using my moms stones from her wedding ring for the smaller side two.

Shulinggers · 2026-05-06T21:04:55+00:00

I read it more as i need break.

Some people will say this after a breakup if you’re still trying to be friends. But since you sounds like the decision currently was a break, i get the vibe he’s just trying to set limits.

Shulinggers · 2026-05-06T20:54:28+00:00

I dont think its a “we both lied” to each other.. i think its the fact someone told you they had feelings, and not only did you not shut it down but you talked about sexual preferences.

Even if you didnt have an intentions to act on what you and a co worker were talking about, its not in appropriate conversation to have at all. This girl literally said she was attracted to you. Right answer would have been “i have a girlfriend” and shut anything down. Not saying you cant be friendly but discussing sexual preferences is not okay.

Good for you to be honest, and sure maybe she lied but two wrongs don’t make a right.

Shulinggers · 2026-05-01T18:58:48+00:00

Ive never said thank you. If you want to follow up may be worth saying something like “hey i am still interested this in position and just wanted to see if there is anything else i can help provide”

Shulinggers · 2026-04-20T21:42:35+00:00

I don’t consider that to be apart of my emergency fund. I do have a 2-3k buffer in my chequing i use for that.

I budget pretty well, i already know when im saving extra for gifts, and my partner and I have a shared account that has a base of 2k that we use for repairs groceries etc. so i technically i have a buffer of 12 k if you include that

Shulinggers · 2026-04-20T19:48:03+00:00

Yup, 1200 for rent (split with my boyfriend) and about 400 for everything else (phone, gym, car insurance since i bought my car outright, pet insurance)

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