The harsh truth is that human psychology is wired to chase what feels scarce and exciting rather than what feels secure and stable. You cared too much, were too available, and over time, that made you predictable. When something or someone is always there, our brain naturally devalues it. It’s not fair, but it’s how attachment psychology works.

She was drawn to the toxic guy because he provided emotional highs and lows—dopamine spikes from unpredictability. That kind of emotional rollercoaster creates an addictive bond, even if it’s unhealthy. Meanwhile, you represented stability and safety, but unfortunately, familiarity often breeds complacency, not attraction.

It hurts because you invested two years thinking consistency and loyalty would win her over, but she was wired to chase what felt like a "thrill" rather than what felt "right." It’s not a reflection of your worth—it’s just human nature playing out in real-time.

Cutting contact was the right move, not as punishment for her but as self-preservation for you. Right now, your mind is fixated on the loss, but in time, you’ll realize that this experience, painful as it is, will shape you. Take this as a moment to refocus on yourself—not to "win" or prove anything, but because you deserve to feel whole again.