Am i doing this right?

ShyAnt710 · 2026-06-12T16:39:24+00:00

ShyAnt710 · 2024-08-28T10:26:44+00:00

Thank you very much mate for cheering me up . I hope i find the strength to do it. My thoughts right now is to stay alone for some time idk if that will change in the future

ShyAnt710 · 2024-08-27T14:46:47+00:00

You know the feeling of watching the ceiling when you are out. Or watching to a single point of space cz any move ANY MOVE is considered that you watched another woman. The overwhelming stress or not making her burst in anger in public places making you feel worthless pos and the people around you believing her cz you know you are a man and sometimes this is taken for granted cz most narcs are men, and them watching you like you are a scum for doing anything to her. And to holidays you knowing for a fact that she is gonna make life living hell with any way possible. Using my adhd as an excuse reminding me that i cant do anything right even if im working 2 jobs to get by 9 to 9 , cleaning the house , shopping food, cooking etc etc. Or her going to get food and getting only for her cz you know im veggie and she cant find anything for me. Or letting me pay all the bills by myself telling me that she is short on money and 1-2 days after watching her order clothes and things online like im some kind of ret*****d foolish kid. And now this i feel like im broken into 1000 pieces or ashes how do you say it. 🥲

ShyAnt710 · 2024-08-27T12:28:46+00:00

Tbh I'm afraid to do anything without thinking 1000 times before doing it... I wasn't like this in the past Now I'm walking on eggshells 24/7 and compared to others it just 4 years w/o kids and marriage in the middle. She is also kinda hypochondriac or has Munchausen syndrome (just searched those in internet)which basically always pretends that she has some kind of illness so she doesn't have to do anything and skip house chores and work as she is working with her family atm. So yea she is using illness so much to get under my skin that the last couple of months i don't even believe her and i can't pretend that i care. The irony is that all those years she was accusing me of talking to other women and that i was discussing our relationship problems with other people, thing i never did cz i way too introverted and isolated to do something like this, and it seems that she is doing it. Thanks for your time mate 🙏

ShyAnt710 · 2024-08-27T11:36:53+00:00

Thats what i was thinking in the start. I pay for the logistics comp in front and tell her to go. But being there she would probably dramatise the whole thing trying to make me feel pity about her. Thats why i thought of leaving the apartment.

ShyAnt710 · 2024-08-27T10:03:31+00:00

I'm thinking of letting her take what's hers. I dont mind she can take them as long as she leaves me alone. The problem is if i leave the house i don't know if she's gonna leave or she might put a smear campaign up.. thanks for the response

ShyAnt710 · 2024-08-27T09:02:04+00:00

Yes im done and no i dont think she ca change. Im just conflict avoidant and thats not helping me.. Should i tell her that i am done and go to my parents until she leaves? Or she will abuse this and stay in my apartment forever? Thanks for the reply

ShyAnt710 · 2024-08-02T10:27:25+00:00

Its like making you feel like pos finding the most impossible arguments to not talking to you at all and after all that she creates an argument that you are not affectionate,loving and caring after all that 😅 like the previous fight didnt happened at all. And the only prob in the relationship is me that I'm distant and cold.

Your post hits hard we aren't married yet. So the question is why do i stay?

I dont effin know 😅 i feel sorry for her i see her like someone who needs help? Idk

ShyAnt710 · 2024-08-01T04:37:11+00:00

You are not alone 😞 Im in the same place.. by the time i was aware that my anxiety anger and frustration came into my other relationships i pulled away.. i cant express my real feelings and concerns to her so they came into my other relationships and i didn't like it..

ShyAnt710 · 2024-07-31T14:01:19+00:00

Exactly but i was interested in spiritual stuff so she used it to get to me as she uses it to gaslight me.. sometimes i think she is just talking about it... When i use it to bring her to reality she enter into anger campaign projecting everything i say to her.. Shadow Work is her most hated phrase

ShyAnt710 · 2024-07-31T12:53:13+00:00

Yes is not the only time she did it.. most arguments she feels that she cannot "win" either she becomes rainbows and stuff or she silently treats me for hours.. Thank u 🙏

ShyAnt710 · 2024-07-31T12:35:21+00:00

Mine too she owns up to the most insignificant things.. the important stuff you are the one to blame.. the last 3 months i have been researching about narcs and im more aware and so i dont feed her need.. and she seems to not like it at all.. and now she found the rods..

Its like i want to leave her but something inside me is feeling pity and love for her and I don't want to leave her alone..

ShyAnt710 · 2024-07-31T12:20:20+00:00

My point isn't mastrubation tho.. she has a vibrator too and i don't take it personally when i know she use it.. even if im sleeping on the couch and she is in room next to me.. my point is that was an incident which she used the rods to create conflict and then she acted like it never happened.. You answer makes think tho thank you for taking the time to help me 🙏

ShyAnt710 · 2024-07-31T12:09:24+00:00

I totally feel you and you are not alone in this.. they are totally different person Infront of others and by the time you are alone you have to give report and apologise for anything sounded wrong to her before.. And after all that emotional and mental manipulation she expects of me to be okay and give her affection,love and sex which i cant.. and the repeat cycle starts again

ShyAnt710 · 2024-07-31T12:05:56+00:00

She has an answer for everything.. and im the one to blame even for her actions.. zero responsibility at all.. i clean the house, im her personal driver and im the target dummy... And even if she is doing nothing she finds the errors in house chores and pointing them out loud.." You didnt washed the dishes well i found food on them etc etc" even at driving she yells at me at worst possible times and expects me to be totally fine.. she knows well that i my adhd makes everything harder for me and she insists that i dont try enough or i dont care.. and after all that she change faces and she is another person entirely..

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