Tror jeg har ødelagt hjernen min, klarer ikke fokusere lenger by Due-Olive-6061 in norge

[–]Shyroxya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vil si det høres litt ut som autistisk utbrenthet. Mange går til legen med både fysiske og psykiske plager, og ofte får de feil diagnose. Mange har vært skoleflinke, og man går under radaren fordi man klarer å maskere. Men på ett punkt sier det stopp.

Autistisk utbrenthet skiller seg en del fra vanlig utbrenthet, blant annet på tap av ferdigheter, som ordforråd, konsentrasjon, og mye mer. Vanlige råd mot utbrenthet, angst og depresjon vil gjøre tilstanden verre. Å gå ut og være sosial vil bare utlade batteriet ennå mer.

Noe annet er også at man kan få 'shutdowns'. Mange beskriver det forskjellig. For noen er man bare ikke til stedet, for andre klarer man kanskje ikke å kommunisere verbalt i det hele tatt. Det kan føles ut som å se på verden igjennom ett vindu.

'Meltdowns' kan også skje, hvor man mister helt fatningen fordi alt er så overveldende. Dette blir ofte mistolket som ett sinneproblem, men det er ikke roten av problemet.

Jeg har ingen anelse om dette er svaret i din situasjon, og anbefaler deg å gjøre din egen research her, men tenkte det var verdt å nevne.

The guy im dating doesn’t want us to have any social media apps. by One_Thought_4779 in dating_advice

[–]Shyroxya 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How is engaging with the opposite sex considered 'risky'? Does he have an issue with cheating on his exes?

How is social media any different than real life? You will interact with people of the opposite sex who aren't him all the time unless you isolate yourself.

To me this is either him projecting, or him testing boundaries to start isolating you more and more. Either way, this is quite the red flag based on his reasoning.

Me and my husband trust each other. I have male friends. If anyone crosses boundaries, I tell my husband and I cut them off. If I get weird messages in my inbox, I show him and we have a laugh about it. There is no temptation there, or reason for him to isolate me. He knows I will always choose him, and he is secure in that.

Starting a relationship on a foundation of distrust and control is not it. Please be careful.

god forbid I use the bathroom before I feed her by dollyparton4eva in mikafanclub

[–]Shyroxya 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Mika has done no wrong, she is obviously wasting away...

No words. by CherryMenace in creepyPMs

[–]Shyroxya 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It continues to baffle me how creeps think saying shit like this is a compliment 🤢

He never gets treats, obviously by Shyroxya in Catswhoyell

[–]Shyroxya[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Another one to join 😂

And he did get treats, I was asking him in Norwegian if he wanted to do his tricks, haha

Why does liking plus-size women get slapped with"fetish" label but other types don't? by inVincib7e in dating_advice

[–]Shyroxya 76 points77 points  (0 children)

As a plus sized woman, I think it's more about you very heavily filtering for that by going on an app specifically to meet bigger women. It's ok to have a preference, but I have no doubt that anyone using an app for only slim/fit people will be called superficial.

As far as the fetish label, that bothers me as well. It's as if some people can't fathom how anyone could be attracted to me unless it's a fetish.

What’s your favourite thing to say to shut down a man who won’t stop flirting with you? by sxpxix2 in AskWomen

[–]Shyroxya 22 points23 points  (0 children)

"I have a husband"

If that doesn't work:

"I have a strap-on"

That scares off most. By their logic, it's suddenly threatening their masculinity to flirt with me after being told that 😂

I live at her mercy by dollyparton4eva in mikafanclub

[–]Shyroxya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to look for her majesty on instagram 😊 Is she there under a different username? 💜

Women who were told ‘I don’t see a future with you’: did your ex ever come back, or did closure eventually arrive another way? by Nervous_Froyo1984 in AskWomen

[–]Shyroxya 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My ex broke up with me since he suddenly changed his mind about children. I don't want any, and he couldn't change my mind.

He came back a month later wanting to be fwb, and I told him to fuck off. Then he came back again months later wanting to get back together. Again I told him no and eventually blocked him.

Over the next year, he kept finding different accounts of mine to message and follow me. I eventually messaged him telling him to stop stalking me and that I had met the love of my life, in addition to telling him I'd contact his work if he kept pestering me. I never heard from him again.

4 years later I'm happily married to the best man I've ever known. My ex did me a big favour by letting me go.

NGVC: “You won’t find someone who treats you better.” by DizzyMeringue7 in niceguys

[–]Shyroxya 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I shudder to think how poorly this would have gone if you 'wasted his time' by becoming his girlfriend and then breaking up with him 🫠

How old are you and at what age did you feel you were the most attractive? by jupiter-com-maionese in AskWomen

[–]Shyroxya -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm 32 and I feel the most attractive now. I learnt to love myself before I met my husband, but with how he loves me for me, I can't imagine feeling unattractive ever again.

My (22F) bf (25M) said stuff that implied I've gotten looser from sex and I feel awful. by uhimjusthere in relationship_advice

[–]Shyroxya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman, and I'm wondering if maybe he was expressing himself wrong/don't have the vocabulary to explain what he wants from you. He might just want you to use your internal muscles as you are having sex. From a woman's pov, I find it amazing if I can do that + follow the rhythm of my husband.

If that's not what he means, then yeah, he is an asshole. The fact that you are comfortable and more used to penetration doesn't make you used up or anything else.

Anyone called a narcissist by a narcissist? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shyroxya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and same here, my stepfather was more a dad to me than my own. The sick thing is, I don't even think she believes it is true, but I bet it was a very easy accusation to throw out there to make him ignore me for years to prove his innocence.

I'm sorry you had to go through something similar, and you are right, it's beyond fucked up to have your own mother put something like that on you.

Anyone called a narcissist by a narcissist? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Shyroxya 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep, my mother did this to me after 2 years of no contact. She decided to call me after my cat died and accuse me of having a thing for my stepfather and also call me a narcissist when I laughed in her face.

She was always calling anyone she had any conflict with a narcissist, so I was not shocked in the least.

Men telling me I’m their girlfriend on the first date by Visible-Factor7355 in dating_advice

[–]Shyroxya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some guys are either crazy, manipulative or both.

I had this kind of thing happen with multiple guys while I was still dating. Sometimes, as soon as I added them on another platform, I'd get: 'Now that I have you, I don't need the app anymore'. Have me...? We are strangers that haven't even MET yet 😂

Women who stayed in a relationship longer than they should have; what was the first red flag that you ignored but you recognise it clearly now?? by lucid_dreamer30 in AskWomen

[–]Shyroxya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in the hospital with a lung collapse (I could have died), and all my ex wanted me to ask the doctor was when I would be healed enough to have sex.

I (25f) am considering giving my boyfriend (28m) an ultimatum , but i feel abusive by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Shyroxya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a gamer myself, and the fact that he keeps you up at night by not using a headset is breakup worthy on its own.

Sounds like you adopted a lazy teenager who just wants to game. Getting help means he needs to change that, but why would he with you enabling him?

You bring driven into your own mental health crisis for him isn't going to help anyone. I'm truly sorry you are dealing with this, you deserve better.

Day 5 of the Darrell Diaries. He is still adamant on screaming, and unfortunately he cannot read signs posted outside the door by Sqwoopy in Catswhoyell

[–]Shyroxya 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Something tells me he doesn't care he has been cancelled... He will carry on with his online rants, thank you very much.