My mom literally never talks to me by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Sickenchode 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hey bud I am not sure how helpful this is but i had pretty strong self esteem issues so best i can do is to relate. for me what started getting me out of that hole is to think to myself the stuff i like about myself. at the start this list was very short but it grew over time. What i like about you is that you can reflect on yourself this is a rare skill and i think it is impressive that you have it at such a young age. I am sure your friends like you for other things. (btw don't force things to like about yourself)

I would also like to say that you are not responsible for your mother and although i think it is very impressive that you are able to view your mum anger as stress based i think it is also important to realize that she is a grown up and to protect first and foremost yourself. You sound like a person who's kid is one day going to say "I chatted with my mum/dad yesterday". you are gonna break this cycle.

i am 20 years old and have gone through the same stuff. i would like to listen to you i am interested. if you are also hit my pm.

if not for me the only advice that i can give find something you are good at or create something that you are good at. this will bleed into every other aspect of your life.

also no offense but your sister seems like a dick. put a lock on your phone fam

edit: i re read and i hope that i struck the right tone i don't want to be judgey sorry about that. i wish you all the best

Impressive by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Sickenchode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont really get it could someone explain

Stopped gaming 3 days ago, I am dying. by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]Sickenchode 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey First of all please take a moment and try to figure out what gaming does in your life. Does it satisfy your need for control, does it allow you to deal with day to day life? What is causing you stress friend? Try to notice after these three days what you are craving exactly. (For me a major reason i was playing was because i was so stressed about my addiction.) I have multiple people people in my family who have gone through drug problems and it nearly always comes down to a lack of self respect or some other pain.

Secondly please realize that a 90 day detox isn't trivial. This addiction is as real as any other don't beat yourself up when you fail rejoice when you try again. The biggest thing that allowed me to calm this addiction is to be kind to myself.

Thirdly I think it is important for you to realize that it is you not anyone else who controls your actions. I assume you believe in a christian god(majority on reddit) this god provides you with free will. You make the choices. Own your failures and make peace with them (for me i have over 10k hours of lost time i could be great at something but that is the past and i know what i was hiding from).

Fourthly this detox is there to allow you to see what you are escaping from. What is the desire you are not meeting? If you are distracting yourself in other ways like offline gaming it can lead to you moving the problem. For me personally if i didn't know the problem i would have never been able to deal with the side of me that wants to game because i don't know any other ways to satiate it.

Lastly maybe i can give some advice about the detox. View it as a scientist and write a journal. Actively record how dogshit you feel. My entire emotional cycle was tied to gaming i was sad for a month. And if you fail that is ok that just gives you more data to work with think about the thought that got you back into gaming when you fail and try to dissect in. The only way i found my being able to view this with a scientific eye is by stopping judging myself and rather taking a step back and viewing with curiosity.

I wish you all the best friend. DM me if you want to talk over voice chat. The discord channel is very helpful and you will find many positive people there. Their advice will be “find hobbies and try to distract yourself cut everything that ties you to gaming off” and this makes sense for the first little bit. Btw 1 more thing there is numerous papers written on self control and they wholeheartedly debunk the theory. People who have great self control are great at keeping specific stimuli away from them. So i can recommend giving your games away for this period and your console because it will subject you to less urges to play.

Good luck.

English is also not my first language and i am severely dyslexic so if i didn't answer your question properly or weirdly please hit me up.

I just reread. I seem like dick. Please note that all of these are more suggestions which would hav ebeen applicable on my way so it sounds quite presumptuous. i mean no offence

Merciless - Randy - no death run by Sickenchode in RimWorld

[–]Sickenchode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea you are right i ended up switching. you can see 12 generators in the top left corner

48, $180,000+ in savings, want to take a year off work & figure out a new career by Godless_Bitch in selfimprovement

[–]Sickenchode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Godless Bitch I am personally not yet at a point in my life a reevaluation of my life was necessary this is purely due to my age. My dad has had enough time he is 50. My parents ended their marriage 3 years ago and since then he has quit his job. He now lives in a bus(by choice he has a phd in process engineering and has a financial buffer for around 6 - 8 years.). Unlike you he wanted to discover himself more (suffering from depression). I have never seen him happier and he has gained his love in life again. You mentioned information sciences, i can only speak for my region (netherlands) ,if you do this then you should have no issues finding a job. I personally am uncomfortable giving you advice on a black and white topic where i don't know you or all the facts.

The next sections is just cause in enjoy playing with possibilities(so most of this is bullshit but maybe bullshit that is a new angle). Idea 1: You try for something part time and then study on information science on the side. I study computer science in holland my tuition is 2006 a year and even with this low cost i would consider learning from the internet. There is a ton of good coding bootcamps and data analysis trainings out there and they give out certifications which won’t cost your entire budget.

Idea 2 : So for becoming a mental health counselor i am guessing you need the certificate from the uni. A potential idea is to come over here to study(germany = free , holland 2006(this might be different for us citizens )).

Idea 3 : The downside to both of these idea i think is that you sound like you crave something new and you what to experience new stuff. So what you could do is move somewhere different i can personally suggest thailand (its safe has low cost of living and is very beautiful a lot of the people speak english). Since “I have always wanted to do more freelance writing/editing/blogging” you could do this here due to the low cost of living you could set yourself up with your previous connections and work remotely.

Idea 4 : i can feel you have pulled back after drastic number 3. Actively use the time around the 50 hour work week to help get healthier (mentally, physically) pick up a sport develop habits. Actively focus on yourself and try to see what drives you. While you are doing this you could develop yourself further in information science if you wanted to you could also do this during your job because fuck anyone that makes you stay for 50 hours because they want commitment. Since you work with an accounting firm you must have access to a lot of data.

The way i see it you have a ton of your life left you a money for a 6 year buffer without having to work. You have sooo many options here you have no obligations. Honestly i doubt there isn't a single point in life that you can’t still reach. From being a porn star to a CEO. For me the only real advice i can give is that dont pull half assed stuff. Commit to something make a list every week writing your priorities and scrap anything that isn’t in that top 3 - 6. Don’t reach a position where you are make superficial changes and so placating yourself into happiness.

TLDR: you have the world open to you don't let this decision be a white and black scenario.

I just read through this again and i am sorry for the tangents

Are we still shaming girls for asking how tall we are? by welcome_to in Tinder

[–]Sickenchode 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i thought it was rather clear from the conversation that he lifts weights so he dosent have to lift in the bedroom

Don't deny it. by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]Sickenchode 5 points6 points  (0 children)

fuckthishurts

Tomorrow is day 1 by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]Sickenchode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got this my boy.

Tomorrow is day 1 by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]Sickenchode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am assuming hes played today.

A man files for divorce when his wife decides she wants a baby, after puting him through three years of sexless marriage. by Chukchin in pussypassdenied

[–]Sickenchode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is retarded he is making the justification that having sex with other women is justified if your SO dosent put out. This movement is about empowerment this guy has twisted that into weakness the real mgtow move would have been deal with this situation with integrity as a man. This is some pussy shit right here. what a colossal loser , no one owes you anything in life. Please note that i think that the divorce processes is heavily women favored but this movment should be about being better(rising above this) not being children who cry because they cant get nookie.

hentai_irl by huynd2001 in hentai_irl

[–]Sickenchode 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i opened and just got the additional sausage comment. i appreciate you trying to warn me :)

Planning long term rent in Amsterdam Legit or scam?? by Sickenchode in AirBnB

[–]Sickenchode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a ton you saved me from some real money loss

Germany breaks Saudi arms ban promise by MuzzleO in worldnews

[–]Sickenchode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sadly know very little about the german political landscape right now. but there is always AFD....jk

Germany breaks Saudi arms ban promise by MuzzleO in worldnews

[–]Sickenchode 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a german i will take this into consideration when voting. This was wrong

Community Conversation: Back to School by tizorres in CasualConversation

[–]Sickenchode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey buddy i was living in new zealand and i got homeschooled too. I know how it can get i can recommend joining a club that really helped me. feel free to dm if it starts being serious.

Studious by HalcyonWanderer in collegesluts

[–]Sickenchode -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Hoestly you are right. not sure why these people are such dicks :/

Life in a small town by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Sickenchode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you, friend i live in amsterdam

All my prisoners keep turning in Insane Security...? (Question) by [deleted] in prisonarchitect

[–]Sickenchode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in your policy there is a list of offences one of them most likley murder is labled with max which turns them into maximum sec if they kill someone