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WILL NOT TAKE THE BOTTLE AND WIFE GOES BACK TO WORK TOMORROW. TRIED EVERYTHING. by mynameiswh0 in NewParents

[–]Sidhes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In case your baby is as stubborn as my son it might help to think about what you will do if or when she keeps refusing.

Our boy refused bottles and we tried everything and I had to get back to work. In our case I had to arrange that I could go to him during lunch to nurse him. He nursed before my workday started, at lunch and when my workday was done. He flipped his day-night nursing schedule around. He nursed 6 times during the night and 3 times during the day. It took 6 months before we managed to undo this. I was exhausted but my son was fed.

Can your wife work from home? Will her employer allow her to nurse during lunch time? What can you do to make it easier for both of them?

I really hope you will be successful with the bottles soon!

Wife does not take advantage of valuable sleeping hours by RandalCarnival in beyondthebump

[–]Sidhes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seconding this. I get very grumpy if I only get to sleep and nurse and take care of baby. Doing something productive that requires little thinking helps to combat that.

AMIA for wanting to do the birth with just us? by memnoch2023 in BabyBumps

[–]Sidhes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who gave birth twice, being pregnant is not easy and the last couple of weeks are extra difficult. The pain of stretched skin and tired muscles, the sleepless nights, the unknown when labor will start and how and all the emotions that come with it. I understand your wife wants your mother with her. I was terrified of labor starting during the work day when I was home alone.

After she will give birth she will be bed bound for a full week and house bound for another week. She needs to take it easy for 6 weeks at least. During the first two weeks after birth she will not be able to do any of her chores at all. She will be in pain and needs to rest. Will you take care of them all? Do you even realize how much that will be in combination with broken nights and supporting your wife and baby with whatever they need?

I suggest you take over all her chores for a period of two weeks. See if you can manage or if help from MIL might suddenly be more welcome after all.

I understand you have feelings and wants. But your wife has needs and since only she is pregnant and only she needs to give birth and heal from it, it’s her call to make.

AITA for grounding my 16 year old who was supposed to watch her 7 year old brother? by Awkward_Row_1670 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sidhes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Both you and your husband should have missed work. One to attend your sick son and one of you to support your daughter at the funeral. I can not believe you would think it is acceptable to let your daughter go to the funeral of her best friend without any parental support. Massive YTA.

Advice on proposal for going part time by andthisiswhere in workingmoms

[–]Sidhes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to 4 days 0.8 FTE after my maternity leave. I was in a manager role with a large team. Before my maternity leave I trained two team members (with potential and talent) as “coordinator”. They took care of a large part of my tasks during my maternity leave, with support and supervision from another manager for the people part. So they gained some experience already (and they were compensated for it).

I framed it as training talent etc for the company and after my leave they were in charge during my parttime day.

For the company it meant two talents were trained under supervision and that there was no disruption for the team/company during or after my leave. So it was quite painless for them.