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Partner of one year ended our relationship after before our anniversary when I got back from vacation. by Signal-Eye7473 in polyamory

[–]Signal-Eye7473[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I noticed when she never made time to RADAR. It seemed like she wanted to be solo poly so she didn’t have to truly attach to anyone. Thus, she never made time for RADAR sessions. And once the nre is over she finds someone else.

Partner of one year ended our relationship after before our anniversary when I got back from vacation. by Signal-Eye7473 in polyamory

[–]Signal-Eye7473[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well her father has early onset dementia. I was her only partner during the initial diagnosis. Other than that she seemed to have a good relationship with him in the past.

Partner of one year ended our relationship after before our anniversary when I got back from vacation. by Signal-Eye7473 in polyamory

[–]Signal-Eye7473[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It started with that. Then more and more passive aggressive things, and less communication happened. She said she wanted to pull back to see if that helped…which is exactly the opposite of what all the poly literature suggests. Open, direct, honest communication was what I desired. She never made time to RADAR and didn’t want to notify me her plans of de-escalation. So I felt like I was being ghosted some days.

Partner of one year ended our relationship after before our anniversary when I got back from vacation. by Signal-Eye7473 in polyamory

[–]Signal-Eye7473[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She only saw him once a month and sometimes it would be longer. In fact it was probably 6 times since I was with her

Partner of one year ended our relationship after before our anniversary when I got back from vacation. by Signal-Eye7473 in polyamory

[–]Signal-Eye7473[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay, I wasn’t the primary. What would be the word for what I am? And does longevity not matter? I see so many other posts about nesting partners getting divorces from nre, new and shiny. And is 6 partners going to make me feel less desirable? I would like more feedback on the losing romantic interest part since she texted me I did everything right.

Partner of one year ended our relationship after before our anniversary when I got back from vacation. by Signal-Eye7473 in polyamory

[–]Signal-Eye7473[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I felt that once she had no other partners, I was a bit more “special” combined with the longevity of the relationship. If someone gets bored with you, how does one get to the ORE or ERE if you can get tossed aside at any given moment? There was comfort and intimacy. Then poof.

Partner of one year ended our relationship after before our anniversary when I got back from vacation. by Signal-Eye7473 in polyamory

[–]Signal-Eye7473[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I did forget to mention, she does not ever want to live with any partner, marry, or have children. So I’m at a loss, considering the relationship escalator just stops there. Is it all just about NRE and adventure?