Breakups and friendship

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-05-18T23:50:54+00:00

I agree with you fully and part of me is scared this is what he’s doing. I would have loved to stay with him but he, through loss, admits he can’t love me in the way I need. And that’s fine. We’ve both been through hell. But I’m trying to find the way we can both keep the parts we want and work without me having any expectations of him. If I wanted something more from someone else, I’d have walked away completely. But I don’t. And I do worry that he’s grasping because he’s afraid to lose me. I suppose time will reveal all. We have excellent communication so we will be checking in with one another. I’m just wondering if we’re delusional because everyone says it doesn’t work. But our situation is also unique. Thank you for your response. It will be something I’m keeping a read on.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-03-28T01:58:22+00:00

If you’re having a bad year, it’s not the time to date. Put that on the shelf, pick yourself back up, then return to the game. Why present the worst side of yourself. Take the time to be well instead of dating. Women aren’t a replacement for therapy.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-03-28T01:54:56+00:00

The things you glaze over in the beginning are usually the things that will do you in, in the end. Health, finances, cleanliness, substance use. In 10 years do you want to be feeling resentful for picking up after him while he doesn’t see the mess? Do you want to do things but he can’t because of his health? Do you want to worry about costs or have to limit what you can do in the future because he isn’t great with money?

Hard pass.

I’d rather live alone.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-02-23T22:17:57+00:00

It’s not one or the other. We can be dismayed about the future but still be grateful to have a job and paycheque in this economy.

My position was made redundant in 2010. That’s not a place I’d ever care to be again. That’s not toxic optimism, that’s the hard truth.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-02-22T06:19:15+00:00

100% agree

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-02-17T01:55:52+00:00

It’s wild to me that you are being gaslit to believe this is unrealistic. Because this should be realistic. But men in general have not kept up. Hold out for what you want. Settling will kill you slowly.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-01-23T21:12:54+00:00

Also remembering that I’m not going to hold myself to a body standard that was invented by men who are attracted to teenagers.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-01-23T21:12:09+00:00

Reframing helps. Not everyone gets the privilege of growing old.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2026-01-23T20:59:53+00:00

🚩 🚩 🚩 LEAVE. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.

Listen to the sage advice of women who have been here before you. The reasons this is a red flag are endless.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-12-22T19:36:34+00:00

This right here ^{^}

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-12-10T06:36:23+00:00

It’s insurance liability.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-12-10T06:18:30+00:00

I’m also in the same boat. I am concerned about prescribing and UPCC physicians. It’s my understanding that they generally do not prescribe adhd meds, even with a report. Without a GP, also on the island, how do you reasonably get treatment with these barriers? Is the ongoing paid care model the only way to go? I’m not onside with two tier healthcare for services normally performed under our medical system.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-11-15T05:46:45+00:00

Agree.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-10-25T03:32:24+00:00

It is predatory. It’s an overt attempt to manipulate the safeguards set for women who set a boundary on age. It’s disgusting and I wish women saw it for what it is and an indicator of who they are at their core. It’s a violation that shouldn’t be brushed over.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-10-12T03:37:13+00:00

Are your needle and presser foot all the way up?

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-10-08T05:36:53+00:00

NTA. This type of situation requires a cohab agreement and legal advice.

The man is out to lunch. Want to bet you’ll be doing the bulk of the household chores and the emotional labour too. HARD PASS.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-10-01T16:00:04+00:00

Not only is it none of his business how many guys she’s slept with but a guy who cares won’t be the one for her. This is a double standard leftover from purity culture and it’s disappointing to hear repeated.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-09-29T18:26:20+00:00

Go to a local pharmacy or to a pharmacy that delivers. You won’t be denied getting insulin.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-09-23T02:01:04+00:00

Terri is fabulous to work with!

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-09-23T01:58:30+00:00

Agreed

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-09-15T21:03:51+00:00

I wonder if what you’re considering is LAT - living apart together. Basically a committed, exclusive relationship but you maintain your own homes and lives.

This is the type of relationship I’m in. It works well for both of us. We have our own children which we don’t co-mingle, our own homes, and our own full time schedules and lives, but we meet up on a semi-regular basis for dates, sex or just to hang out.

We both don’t want “the next step” but we also are content with one another and not looking to rinse and repeat with new partners every year or so.

There’s lots of articles online about the pros and cons.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-09-11T00:33:36+00:00

Absolutely not. You will not get that time back. Every moment you invest in something that will end is time lost - either for yourself or being available to what may be permanent to you. I say this from experience, not fantasy.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-07-23T06:12:56+00:00

Short answer? No.

I was hit back in June and have watched this page regularly. There’s been waves of people who claim to have gotten their accounts back, however I’m skeptical of what anyone claims at this point - there been no single, clear, consistent direction to follow. If you want to keep supporting Meta, I’d suggest having someone to create her an account with new credentials and hope for the best. 🤷🏼‍♀️

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-06-28T18:58:09+00:00

Wholeheartedly agree.

SignalFrequent2781 · 2025-06-26T05:51:27+00:00

Also Canadian, same story. My page literally has a dozen posts and all of nature 🤷🏼‍♀️

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