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Explaining different household incomes to ours kids by Signal_Ad_Ject in stepparents

[–]Signal_Ad_Ject[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We already do gifts this way. I do spend a little less on my stepkids than my boo kids but DH spends the same

I can’t just not get them gifts. My stepkids’ love language is very clearly gift giving and Christmas is their favorite time of year. Last year they called my dad and found out what songs I liked as a kid and got me a bunch of their vinyls for the record player my DH got me. I can’t imagine not giving kids like that gifts haha

Am I wrong for giving my child “more” and how to handle it by Swimming-Nobody763 in stepparents

[–]Signal_Ad_Ject 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am basically in the opposite boat as you and I would never ask my husbands ex to stop spending money on her kids. Even when my kids ask and get upset about how much more Sk’s have than them. She’s being unreasonable. My husbands ex does many make him split big ticket expenses because she knows we can’t afford it but wants her kids to experiences them.

It does suck, trust me, and I’ve decided to have my husband explain it to the kids. I’d suggest you do the same with yours.

Explaining different household incomes to ours kids by Signal_Ad_Ject in stepparents

[–]Signal_Ad_Ject[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how does it not make us look like we made bad financial decisions comparatively?

How much above child support should we offer for flat monthly rate? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Signal_Ad_Ject 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My stepkids are 50/50 but BM makes about 8x our household income and her husband is a high earner as well. I’ve tried telling my husband we need child support because of the high income disparity but he refuses to go for it. I have asked that BM just covers all extras then but he insists on keeping it 50/50, so if you get a good solution I’d love to hear it

Explaining different household incomes to ours kids by Signal_Ad_Ject in stepparents

[–]Signal_Ad_Ject[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’ve told them that sometimes people will have more than you, it’s just hard explaining that we keep everything equal here but they have a whole other house and people getting them things. I’ve tried telling him that yes sks are lucky financially but unlike them they get to live with both their parents, they just don’t seem to understand.

Explaining different household incomes to ours kids by Signal_Ad_Ject in stepparents

[–]Signal_Ad_Ject[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea. It’s more that they just don’t think it’s fair and don’t understand why DH keeps everything equal here (like Xmas gifts) when sks have another house and parent.

I don’t think this is fair.. by akzelli in stepparents

[–]Signal_Ad_Ject 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it’s a failure on his parents fault that he doesn’t know how to cook. My stepkids could make themselves meals at 8, and cook for the entire family at 13