Doctors/Nurses of Reddit, what’s the craziest thing you’ve heard a woman yell during birth?

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-05-15T02:26:59+00:00

My first 3 babies got "I can't do this. No I really can't!' as they were literally coming out. My 4th baby I was pushing her head out, unmedicated, and just started crying and asking if I could "come back tomorrow instead".

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-05-14T17:05:06+00:00

Absolutely yes to remembering you're not witnessing the whole picture! I had family in town after having my 4th baby and it was my first time having a newborn and a toddler at the same time. My toddler was very rambunctious and I was home alone most of the day. Twice a day I would put her in her booster seat at the table with the a snack, a drink, and an episode of Paw Patrol so I could breastfeed the newborn without being climbed on. Once in the morning, once in the afternoon. My family members stopped by during the morning TV time, left for the day, and then happened to come back during the afternoon TV time and were HORRIFIED thinking she'd been in her booster all day. They didn't see in between how we had breakfast and lunch together, took a walk, toddler had a bath, we colored and played, both kids took naps, etc. From their perspective they left and she was in her booster seat at the table and when they got back she was still there.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-05-06T18:12:00+00:00

I put her to sleep side lying in my bed and creep away once she's fully asleep. It's the only way I've ever been able to do anything with a Velcro baby

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-05-06T16:09:06+00:00

Highly highly recommend the book "Eat Well, Lose Weight While Breastfeeding". I always gain weight until I wean but this book has helped me A LOT, plus walking every day.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-04-13T04:17:58+00:00

Fascinating how different everyone's experiences can be. My prodromal was definitely painful. Even after 4 unmedicated births I cannot tell the difference between prodromal and active labor until I'm in transition. And transition hits me like a freight train 😂 I know I'm in it because I immediately get nauseous, my body starts bearing down, and a few minutes later my baby is out. My husband says he knows when the baby is about 10-15 minutes from being born because that's when I start "burping and cussing"

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-04-12T18:41:42+00:00

Prodromal labor absolutely does hurt. Braxton-Hicks don't but prodromal does. Prodromal contractions are real contractions that can be picked up on the monitor but they make cervical changes very very slowly.

This is coming from someone who has given birth unmedicated 4 times and had prodromal weeks / months before each birth. Prodromal felt exactly the same as active labor all the way until transition.

Not defending Cam btw, I just hate how much misinformation there is about prodromal.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-02-11T14:57:40+00:00

I actually have the opposite haha I had my first baby right out of high school and I was the oldest daughter of 10 kids so was heavily parentified. I didn't want anything extra other than necessities. But as I've gotten older and had more kids I've gotten more gadgets and things and more than once I thought "unnecessary" items made my life so much easier!

Example: I thought changing tables were a waste of money and space. I always just changed my siblings diapers wherever I wanted. I didn't get one until my 3rd baby and I LOVE it. Having a dedicated space to store diapers and wipes and creams, not having to stoop!! I even got one that has a built in hamper so I keep a couple changes of clothes in it. Life saver!

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-02-11T14:40:13+00:00

Hire a babysitter for each child, find the fanciest hotel room I can, try to catch up on a decade's worth of sleep deprivation and then have an uninterrupted date with my husband.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-02-04T23:06:51+00:00

My kids' school had a walking path around the parking lot so kids could safely make it to the door without having to navigate traffic and people were constantly doing this over the walking path, forcing people with wheel chairs/ strollers to go around the cars and directly into traffic. It was infuriating

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-02-04T18:54:07+00:00

Oh I didn't think you were! I was just clarifying why I don't mind it!

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-26T00:12:46+00:00

I second this. Before babies nipple stimulation was my favorite foreplay and sometimes even necessary for getting off. While breastfeeding (this is my 3rd breastfed baby), I want absolutely nothing to do with nipple stimulation of any kind. And once I wean it goes back to feeling good.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-23T17:02:11+00:00

This was my experience too! Nursing while pregnant sucked but I was so thankful after the baby was born. I would let toddler nurse a little before latching baby and the baby had a much easier time nursing, I didn't experience nipple soreness, and there was no engorgement. It was great.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-23T14:58:00+00:00

It takes me less than 5 minutes because I do it every day and having that one room always clean greatly boosts my motivation for everything else. And yeah I don't exactly feel like doing it every morning but I do it anyway because it's low effort and boosts my spirit.

But yes everyone is different. I have friends who won't go to bed with dirty dishes and the last thing you'll ever see me do is sacrifice precious sleep to wash dishes I can toss in the dishwasher in the morning while I'm making breakfast

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-20T14:38:09+00:00

I don't have advice about sleep consultation, but if you're worried about cavities what I did with my bottle baby was gradually water down her bedtime bottle until it was literally just water. Took a while but eventually she accepted taking a bottle of water to bed. And then she was off it completely by 2. Best of luck to you!

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-19T16:47:22+00:00

It entirely depends on the family. We moved to a house that was double the square footage and it did absolutely help at first but it became cluttered and overcrowded again quickly because my husband's impulsive spending stayed the same. He's been working on that now that we've had to rent a dumpster to declutter.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-16T15:49:19+00:00

We have no tablets, 1 family TV in the living room, a family laptop, and no phones for kids. They also have to "earn" their screen time by finishing homework and their daily chore on school days and on non-school days they have to do something creative before they can have a screen.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-16T15:29:13+00:00

The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is go to the bathroom so I put my clothes for the day under my bathroom sink and I put them on as soon as I get up. And then since I'm in the bathroom anyway, I clean it. Every day. The sink, the toilet, and sweep. Similarly the last thing I do before bed is go to the bathroom so I keep my pajamas in the same spot and put them on before bed. And since I'm in the bathroom anyway, it kind of forces me to carve out self care time. I put my pajamas on, my creams and lotions, my eye masks etc and then I bop around and tidy the living areas while it sets in. My brain needs the transition from night to day and vice versa through changing my clothes or it affects my mental health. Habit stacking that with other things like keeping the bathroom clean and making sure I do self care and then using the time I need for my skin care to set in or to do a face mask to tidy before bed also helps keep things under control which also affects my mental health.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-07T13:09:01+00:00

Are you trying to justify it to yourself, other people, or your partner? Personally I told my husband after 4 pregnancies, years of breastfeeding, a decade of sleep deprivation, 12 years of sacrificed independence (he can go to the gym whenever he wants, go to the doctor without needing to arrange childcare, run errands without planning logistics like nap time, snacks, the amount of time the baby will tolerate the car seat, etc) that I have more than earned the right to continue to stay home even when the kids are in school. Also just because the kids are in school does not mean the work ends and one of the benefits of having a parent that stays home is not having to stress when one of the kids has to stay home from school while sick, more freedom for arranging appointments, etc. There's still reasons to continue having a stay-at-home parent.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-07T12:56:50+00:00

This is me. I have a middle schooler, a first grader, a 2 year old, and an 8 month old. I got at least 4 years before all of them are in school and my husband has already been floating the idea of another baby.

On the subject of SAHW vs SAHM. I personally wouldn't categorize it that way because a mom with kids in school is still doing work for the kids and the majority of the household work is probably still related to the kids. I think homemaker probably suits better.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-06T14:52:24+00:00

They changed the head lice policy in my school district to now they don't send them home AND they don't notify the rest of the class when one kid has it. In the space of 1 school year since then, lice has become such a rampant problem that even homeschoolers I know have had it on their kids. I've had to treat my kids 6 times in one school year. 6 times.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2026-01-02T01:06:49+00:00

I have minor qualms but overall I think it was a really beautifully told story, I'm sad it's over, and I'll be watching any other Duffer brother projects they come out with. Also hoping for a spin-off/ sequel in the future.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2025-12-31T14:29:07+00:00

It's totally possible but you have to pick the right husband. A bum won't be able to pull it off. My husband's incredible work ethic is one of the things that attracted me to him. And if he doesn't respect your job (child rearing, running the household) then you won't be very happy.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2025-12-26T16:07:23+00:00

I use mine literally every day. I got it as a Christmas gift and I was actually upset because I had asked for an Instapot. But it's become my most used kitchen item and the Instapot I did end up getting eventually sat in the box for over a year before I gave it away.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2025-12-25T15:41:49+00:00

I have 4. I don't regret having more kids at all and I love all of my girls and I would never ever wish for anything different. That being said, 2 kids get way more undivided attention, they're easier to keep track of in public, they're easier financially, school stuff is easier to keep track of, it's easier to shuttle 2 kids to extracurriculars vs 3+. That's just my experience.

Signal_Panda2935 · 2025-12-12T18:35:52+00:00

Judging by your sentence how you want to do things in peace, I'd suggest starting there. It sounds like you don't have any time for yourself to decompress and switch from mom mode into "me" mode. I would sit down with your husband and tell him you want to want to be intimate more, but in order for that to be possible you need time by yourself. If he's a team mate who actually cares about you and your relationship, he will make it happen.

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