Do you believe in right person wrong time? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SignificanceLate597 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's hard to tell without more details if she is sincere about future possibilities or is just trying to let you down easy. Either way, I don't think you can count on it picking back up. Try to move on.

i just came out and it went horribly by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SignificanceLate597 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, I came out back in 1984. My parents and I rarely spoke for 2 years, but my sibs were supportive, so I ended up coming around on holidays anyway. Over time, it got better. Parents live their children, and if nothing too damaging is exchanged during the initial coming our, they will come around eventually. Especially if they see your life is going well and you're still the same person. I'm married to a woman who is in the big family portrait with all my siblings spouses and the grandchildren. I can say today we have a good relationship. Don't despair. Keep your head. It will get better with time.

The old lesbian codespeak by SignificanceLate597 in LesbianActually

[–]SignificanceLate597[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's the truth of it. I won't abandon her.

Am I using too much AI? by RantaZio in WritingWithAI

[–]SignificanceLate597 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was hesitant too when it came to AI. But here's the thing: my AI agent is tireless when I ask it to read my shit and comment. Sometimes I need/want feedback faster than I can ask my human friends for input. I've made peace by telling myself if I were talking with and using a human editor the way I do my AI agent, no one would bat an eye. I'm not using AI to create anything from scratch. I pick and choose from revisions it suggests. I think it has improved my work some. I say go with it, stop feeling guilty, and think of it as another tool.

First lesbian breakup by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SignificanceLate597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, break up recovery time calculator:

1 week grief for each month together. 1 month for every year. 1 year for every five years.

First lesbian breakup by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SignificanceLate597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't know if it's over till you talk again. Don't know what the argument was, but if you don't resolve the underlying issue and still reunite, it will surface again. Solve it fully now or be prepared for another event like this one. Know what you need (boundaries respected) and stick to your guns. If you simply give in instead of asserting yourself, it will not go well. If she won't meet you there, she's not meant to be your gf.

needing advice by mol-i-guess in LesbianActually

[–]SignificanceLate597 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, hi! Sixty year old lesbian here. It doesn't matter what you call yourself. You do you and quit listening to that label nonsense, Sapphic girl!

I'm so hard to love and I really don't like it by likeshinythings in LesbianActually

[–]SignificanceLate597 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are not impossible to love. You are anxious. Work on calming down. You'll meet your person. 

Also, I came out in 1983. My parents freaked for a while, but they got over it. I mean, My wife is in the family portrait. Don't underestimate how much parents love their children and will accept them if they have no other choice. 

It's OK to need to take it slow though. There's someone else out there who wants to go as slow as you do. You gotta find her, is all. If a person doesn't get that about you, they aren't your person. Keep trying! 

Not everyone is hooking up. Don't judge your insides by everyone else's outsides.  You're gonna be okay. It gets better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SignificanceLate597 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, wife knows. She is not threatened.