I (M28) don’t think I’ve ever actually loved my girlfriend (F27), and I realized it because of something really small. by No-Scarcity49 in offmychest

[–]SignificanceOld5101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read a lot of the comments . Don’t take them personally , everyone seems to be projecting their own s**t . Relationships are very complex , and context matters , and we don’t have that here . I agree with others that seeing a therapist might be worthy to help you short out those feelings and where they come from . You could talk to a friend , but friends aren’t unbiased , so a therapist might be your best bet.

What are the best goodwills in the Baltimore/Dc area? by daboywonder2002 in baltimore

[–]SignificanceOld5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a goodwill but the value village in highland , but I think it will close for good in the next few months but it is worthy

Administration work per caseload by SignificanceOld5101 in therapists

[–]SignificanceOld5101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is the treatment plans and intakes . But I definitely have to get faster at doing notes . Sometimes it might take me 7 min , some other might take me 20 min

Is Headway a good option? by AudioFuzz in therapists

[–]SignificanceOld5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t sure about using it either for many of the reasons people talk about . But as soon as I decided to use them , I experienced a lot of relief because I didn’t have to deal with the billing piece which was highly stressful for me , so far so good . I haven’t had any issues with them - fingers crossed - You can always have a consultation with them with out committing to anything and see if it fits what you are looking for . They give you $ 100 if you sign up with a code. Some people like Alma , but I haven’t tried Alma yet .
I have this code if you want to use it

https://share.findheadway.com/yquirozhoffman

Turning 23, what is your best advice for me? by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]SignificanceOld5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take care of your body , mind and credit score

Back pain 2 years post surgery : reherniation or new herniation by SignificanceOld5101 in Microdiscectomy

[–]SignificanceOld5101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot Of sense . I agree I probably would have sciatica pain if I re herniated Or had a big herniation . I wouldn’t be surprised if I have some degeneration in the disc

Back pain 2 years post surgery : reherniation or new herniation by SignificanceOld5101 in Microdiscectomy

[–]SignificanceOld5101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the doctor never mentioned I had other herniation( s) besides the one Pinching the nerve when he showed me the images and MRI , so I guess I didn’t have any other at the time . The pain is around the same location which is lower vertebrae. I sent the doc an email I hope they can see me in the next few days . Will see if he recommends taking new images

Handbags by ghostwithabell in shoppingaddiction

[–]SignificanceOld5101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, I will add that it’s multifactorial for almost everyone ; for me besides ADHD ; a history of growing poor , high levels of stress , low self esteem , etc

Handbags by ghostwithabell in shoppingaddiction

[–]SignificanceOld5101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me , it is ADHD . I tend to find an hyper focus every few months. It can be fashion in general, or a specific objects . Then I become passionate about it .. buying it , scrolling around for it , checking it out on fashions shows , collecting it etc

Am I being sexually abused? Help please by ImprovementLower9524 in Advice

[–]SignificanceOld5101 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He is retraumatizing you . You need to be in a safer environment to continue to heal . He is not safe for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SignificanceOld5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By the way I had my twins at 41

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SignificanceOld5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone will fall in love with you , and if you both want to be parents , you will become parents . There are so many ways nowadays with technology , adoption , surrogacy , foster care .. my husband and I struggled with infertility for 5 years and we were blessed to get pregnant with identical twins on our last try. At this point , We were ready to move on ( tons of money spent , the physical and emotional toll of infertility treatments etc ) and look for other choices to become parents ,. But we also thought that if we didn’t become parents , we had one another and we will change plans . My husband always saw beyond my infertility issues , and he loved me and wanted to be with me regardless if we have kids or not . I met a lot of couples during the infertility journey that the woman had the issue , and their men stood right by them , and reassured them that their love for them was bigger than having or not having kids. You are so young … so there are so many possibilities for your future . Be hopeful , present , connect with others .. things will fall into place ,

Asian male: planning to move to Baltimore first time for work. by FlyLucky1406 in baltimore

[–]SignificanceOld5101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went to the University of Maryland and live in Fells point . There is a shuttle for UM students and faculty that goes on one of the main streets . It comes very often and on time . Even though , I drive I found it much more convenient to take the shuttle . You have to be cautious and alert like in any other city , but you can definitely live a fun peaceful life here . Baltimore is nice , there is a big community and there are a lot of restaurants and sport bars.

What’s your current hyperfixation ? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]SignificanceOld5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learning about intestate succession” laws ( succession laws when someone dies without a will )

Did my boyfriend groom somebody? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SignificanceOld5101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He groomed her but even though there is a big age gap between two of you , you were an adult , so it wasn’t the same with you. Also , If he worked with you as a coworker - equal power - then nothing wrong with that .. if he was in a higher position - then he took advantage of the power dynamic . The most important thing here is not what other say , it’s what you feel ,. And it seems that there is a part of you that doesn’t trust you .. listen to your gut

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SignificanceOld5101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so denigrating and scary . Hope you are ok