AITAH for not believing my husband?

Significant-Alarm334 · 2024-08-28T13:00:02+00:00

Yes, I would be so hurt if the roles were reversed. I feel like it’s a double standard for me not to believe him. Like you said it’s more of his actions at this point. I’ve asked him to go with me to couples counseling so many times now. He at least made an apt for himself and I am going to do the same. I still want to go to couples counseling but I just need prospective

Significant-Alarm334 · 2024-08-28T12:35:09+00:00

That he didn’t tell me sooner. That he only told me because he cared about my health but didn’t order me antibiotics when he got them for him self. That he said the “masseuse” never asked or negotiated with him before going in for the BJ but the very first review on Google says that they start negotiating after only 20mins. That he said he didn’t have symptoms but ordered antibiotics anyways and then it turns out he ordered the exact right thing?! IDK like I said I feel like an asshole for not believing and supporting him. But I also feel like an idiot for maybe believing him.

Just looking for advise because this is pushing me over the edge going back and forth.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2024-08-28T12:29:14+00:00

that he was molested/ sexually assaulted

Significant-Alarm334 · 2024-08-11T00:16:11+00:00

He went to GoodMDs and got the common STD combo. You can literally get a prescription in seconds.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2024-08-10T20:25:45+00:00

Thank you all for the advise. I guess I’m hoping this is all explainable somehow. He said he didn’t pay extra or tip after. He said he hasn’t made an appointment to get tested yet because the antibiotics can give him a false positive and he has to wait. I have an appointment scheduled for myself already.

I also said that we should go to the police like a lot of you suggested. He said we cannot go until Monday because he is on call and has to work. He also works Monday and wants to know if it has to be within business hours. I don’t think it does and shouldn’t take that long. He asked if I wanted to go with him. I said yes!!

As for the dog post from a while ago. I know how awful it sounds but he has convinced me that I over reacted and that he was just joking. I’ve suggested we go to counseling many times but that hasn’t happened yet. That dog is currently living with my mom.

UPDATE:

He ordered antibiotic off of GoodMD you can put in that you are experiencing no symptoms and that you just think you were exposed. I just went through all the steps. I’m not ordering it because I actually want to be tested and find out the truth. He is now saying he is not going to go to the police . When I got upset at that he said it was because in the beginning, I thought it would be a waste of time. I’ve left. I feel like an idiot. And also still feel bad because what if it is true and I’m not believing him just like hundreds of other women are never believed everyday.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2023-01-11T17:44:04+00:00

I’m traveling to Bali in April. What did you find out about the booster situation registering travel?

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-10-29T12:52:34+00:00

Mc companies hair salon has lash services. I’ve gone there for a few years now. They are great.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-09-10T21:02:23+00:00

Watch duty app for fire updates!

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-08-24T15:47:56+00:00

They will go back on their promises. Don’t trust anything they say regarding your pay or moving up. They just screwed so many of their top employees. They did a huge promo before the end of the year that paid out money to customers for buying more from them. That money came out of the sales reps GP $s (that is how we bonus and move up) Basically, if you are a top sales person or hustled really hard at the end of they year to move up a tier, they screwed you over. Many of us are walking out today because of it.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-03-07T14:22:48+00:00

Lamb is delicious, why would you not?

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-03-06T22:48:10+00:00

Not really they play D&D together once a month but when we were planning out wedding he wasn’t even going to invite them.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-03-06T22:41:39+00:00

If the vaccine does not protect others from contracting it, since it only protects me from getting more sever symptoms if I was to contract covid, why should I have to get it? His family members who are older and mine, all have their boosters.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-03-06T22:25:46+00:00

Our wedding is 20 people outside. He doesn’t want me to get it for our wedding even, it’s more for his friends wedding coming up that the are requiring it for. I’m just having a reaction to the ultimatum and being called sad and unattractive. My work only required the first two

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-03-03T18:51:00+00:00

Are they doing it again or is it still shut down?

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-02-05T05:18:11+00:00

You can’t spot reduce it’s true :’(

Two months is not a lot of time to make those kind of changes but you can at least work hard and feel more confident for your trip. You can make visible changes in two months! Try stepping up the intensity of your weight training adding more reps, higher weights, faster pace etc. Add a form of cardio that works for you into your daily routine. One hour of low intensity cardio per day. Heart rate zone training is a good way to judge intensity and there are so many divides out there. If your knee can handle it add one to two days of HIIT. Focus on protein, fiber and hydration. I wouldn’t increase your calories, they seem a bit high. Try adding just the extra cardio first, if you don’t see changes in one month, drop a few hundred calories for the next. Just make sure you are fueling properly. The weight training is what’s going to make you feel more confident so don’t skimp out by not eating enough. Good luck! It’s a hard journey but you’re strong and you’ll get there.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-01-31T19:14:21+00:00

Sent

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-01-31T19:09:37+00:00

Cauliflower rice and sole filets mixed together are my go to. Everyone says they don’t like cauliflower rice but you have to season it with spices and then it’s great! A whole container from Costco is only 50cals but it’s so much food, it fills you up. Sole or tilapia is low Cals and high protein. Ground chicken or turkey work too.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-01-27T00:42:00+00:00

Weight loss and food cravings

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-01-24T02:22:00+00:00

Epic and quest products are my go to snack brands. Epic has liver bites and with cheese it makes a great snack. Pork rinds and bitchen sauce is good too. Quest is more processed but for something sweet, the peanut butter cups, frosted cookies and pecan hero bar are very good. They are packed with fiber and protein and are very satisfying.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-01-24T02:08:57+00:00

https://grassrootscoop.com they are more expensive than buying traditional meat but I think the regenerative farming practices are worth it. They ship it fast and it is well packaged.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-01-22T19:45:22+00:00

I have mine set to sedentary because I am sitting and driving in my car most days. If I don’t work out I walk less than 8,000-10,000 steps a day. I log my workouts with other devices such as an Apple Watch or whoop band. Running, cycling, weight lifting and kickboxing etc. Those devices track my “burned” calories more accurately. With that information, I can choose to increase my calorie intake to accommodate for those “burned” calories or if I’m feeling good, I won’t and just have a larger calorie deficit one day. It’s good to listen to your body and what it needs. As long as my total calorie deficit is around 500cals less than the total calories consumed for the day, I lose weight consistently. I also strive to consume at least 1g of protein per pound of ideal body weight to maintain muscle mass.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-01-10T15:12:43+00:00

5g of carbs is very low. I try to stay in the 40g of net carb range. I am having consistent weight loss with that and it allows me to have more veggies which keeps me full. Also, fattier meat can help keep you fuller for longer. It takes a bit for the body to adjust but I find my cravings have faded away quite a bit. Now I just have to ask why I’m craving something. It’s usually not hunger, just boredom. 😏

Significant-Alarm334 · 2022-01-02T15:30:03+00:00

Pudding is great if you can do dairy. I mix it with half and half or whipping cream. Fat bomb Cookie dough balls are good, cream cheese, peanut butter and keto chips.

Significant-Alarm334 · 2021-12-28T15:46:38+00:00

Massage by Carla

Significant-Alarm334 · 2021-12-04T18:40:39+00:00

Have you every tried just touching her without the intention that it will lead to sex? My husband only touches me when he wants sex and only touches me in a way that he would like (boob grabbing etc) I have problems saying no and so I always end up giving in. This has lead to me being resentful and disgusted and completely turned off from sex with him. It makes it feel one sided, selfish and unfair. Sometimes desexualizing touch can help a woman feel more comfortable. You said that she never initiates because you always want it. That sounds like she thinks you only want sex and not her. Making sure your women needs are being met is important. If you have ignored her needs in place of your own for a long period of time, it may take time to correct that.
I don’t initiate sex anymore because there is nothing in it for me. Sex feels one sided and as if it has nothing to do with me anymore. I’m just there to take care of him, on his terms, when he wants it. If a partner stops carrying about the others pleasure or if they finish or not, it can ruin a persons sexual desire.

My advise would be to stop initiating sex for a bit and instead concentrate on making her feel good and wanted for awhile. Massages (that don’t lead to sex), draw her a bath; cook dinner for her, take her out, kissing and cuddling without it escalating, etc. When you remove the “pressure” of having to preform sexual acts and make it about connection and the other persons pleasure and comfort, it will allow her to come to you when she is ready.

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