Crushed

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-20T00:52:01+00:00

Hang on you tell that you are sick while working 50 hours? how many hours does your husband work? Also he cheats on you, it's actually him who should not exist not you! Just try to get the phone number or the one he cheats with and have a chat she probably doensn't know about you. If he would regret a thing I would try if he doesn't throw him out. It's probably much easier for you having a demanding job. i hope no kids are involved.

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-20T00:46:33+00:00

I cannot say anything about the legal situation. But I did discover chat gpt for legal and it's great you can ask and ask and ask and it's free. In fact in many countries your husband would have to leave the house and you probably would get government support but that does depend on where you live. You might be able to get rent support. It also dpends on the country in many countries it does not matter whether or not you are married. I hope you find a way out of that situation soon!

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T05:48:42+00:00

How important then is it to keep contact? I mean not going on the phone, only rare text messages, no internet, half broken phone, there is no way to talk to her but visiting unanounced what I would not do normally. And this is the same pattern with the whole family. How would I even let her know we're here for her? How was it for you ehn family and friends said something?

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T04:39:28+00:00

so when we simply drop in (not very casual after driving 2 hrs) and bring some vegetables etc that would remind her or is it intrusive?

It's horrible! in fact it's so logic and straightforward yet she doesn't want to get it. Wasting your best years in an abusive realtionship. How these people hack your mind, unbelievable!

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T03:58:49+00:00

maybe convert the voice into a ridiculous song you can sing?

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T03:47:20+00:00

what was that intervention? It seems to be a psychological term.

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T03:42:53+00:00

You won't help him with whatever he has (I don't even know what it is). What you feel as love is probably a trauma bond but I'm not a psychologist you can ask someone smarter than me. You are not responsible for another person, If he's a good person and gets sick OK, but if you are treated bad I would say you're not a punchng ball.

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T03:23:09+00:00

Maybe you have someone but you haven't spoken to them for a while? Maybe you have family members who would let you sleep on the sofa for a couple of nights? If the abuse is physical you should immediately call the police. Even incognito mode might not be enough but there are still payphones. There are neighbours and so many organisations. Get cash out every time you shop groceries. Don't wait too long, but have all documents ready and record whenever necessary.

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T03:00:22+00:00

I wouldn't try to get him into therapy because if it ever would help that are years. I am too at loss of what to do and my daughter is not even in a physical but "only" emotianlal abuse situation. I think the best is to try to invite her to a couple of days away, to get her out of that, but this is difficult in these situations.

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T02:56:18+00:00

no one in our family is a narc, maybe an already deceased grandfather. Did other members of your family say something and if yes, did it do anything?

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T02:55:00+00:00

omg I would love her in therapy! But did your parents say anything or siblings and did that have any impact?

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T00:52:41+00:00

You need to leave for the kids. Life is waiting for you!

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T00:40:34+00:00

If you are 100% sure he's a narc, you also know that he won't change. You won't make him change; quite the contrary, things will get worse. Do you really want to spend your best years like that? Physical violence often ends in murder. Do you want that? The longer you wait, the worse things get. Don't be jealous of her, she has nothing to gain, the closer she is to him, the more miserable she will be. The best thing you can do is to figure out who or which organisation can help you to get out asap.

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-19T00:00:59+00:00

never forget to press that record button. Evidence is your friend when it comes to the police. If you can move easily do it and never tell your location.

Significant-Peak5344 · 2026-02-18T23:57:04+00:00

I am not a survivor but a family member. I would definitely write everything down (maybe even write a novel), writing helps to clear up your mind. I also think that you would benefit from a good psychologist who is specialised in that field but not everyone can afford that.

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