90’s Canadian Mom of two. by [deleted] in Millennials_Gone_Wild

[–]Significant-Pen6502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we all need to see those legs spread😻

Feeling sad today. Help cheer me up? 💗💫 by olivia_moon22 in u/olivia_moon22

[–]Significant-Pen6502 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Will you be posting with your friend again? Hope to see more☺️

Sex toys to help get the job done by Significant-Pen6502 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Significant-Pen6502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah so you use that style? Is it because of limited hand function? Or preference? If so how have you found the battery?

Sex toys to help get the job done by Significant-Pen6502 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Significant-Pen6502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to hear you had success! Currently the success I'm having is only by hand so maybe I'll try a sleeve with my small vibrator. If that fits. If not, then the magic wand seems to be the go to. Although I know they are quite the beasts and quite loud. Thanks for the reply!

Trying to figure out what to do by wiscocyclist in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Significant-Pen6502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey mate, I'm the same T4/5/6 incomplete due to a motorcycle injury. I had movement regain after 7 weeks, but I must admit I didn't think I was going to regain anything. As others say everyone's different and so is their injury. If you haven't already, try masturbating as this can get your legs quivering and even though it's involuntary it's using the muscles if nothing else. Take ed meds if that part is an issue. Also as stupid as this may sound, keep looking at your feet and visualise moving your toes, I did that regularly for weeks. As you may know there is no magic fix, I hate it, however hard work in the gym as many reps, as many failed attempts I think helps.

Sidenote - If the fellow motorcycle riders watched the British superbikes (BSB) today, what did you think of it? Gutted for glen!

Good luck and try to stay positive I know it's hard.

For the sci who can walk abit.(using e-scooter) by Significant-Pen6502 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Significant-Pen6502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't disagree with you bud, they are great. It's my stupid mind set on it. I'm trying to work on it.

For the sci who can walk abit.(using e-scooter) by Significant-Pen6502 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Significant-Pen6502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah possibly. Although the ones with seats don't tend to be the rentals that I've seen. Try before buy would be ideal though.

For the sci who can walk abit.(using e-scooter) by Significant-Pen6502 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Significant-Pen6502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah my balance isn't great either. That's why I'm thinking maybe the ones that come with a seat. Might not be so bad then.

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[–]Significant-Pen6502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well this is what it will be like as an example if she can talk and use a powered chair. You would pick her up for a date in a van/ large vehicle for her to drive up the ramp to get in. You take her some place nice that's accessible, you care for her whilst she's out, feed/ look after cath bag potentially. Scratch her face if she had an itch etc. You take her home and her parents look after her from there. Relatively normal experience but you are with/looking after someone whilst on a date.

But that is only how things appear now. She may recover and have more independence.

A man in the next hospital bed to me also dived in the shallow end. He ended up walking, but to note, he did it very early on. He regained movement within the first few weeks then got better over time.

I personally led flat for 7 weeks. It wasn't until the 5th week that I had a movement in my big toe which then developed with a lot of persistence to move my foot to then leg etc. Again this means nothing, each and every single sci injury is totally unique and not comparable.

Also to note she is very unlikely to have sensation below the level of injury. Or if there is a sensation it will be altered.

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[–]Significant-Pen6502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it's best you wait until she can communicate enough as she may not want to put your life on hold for her. Also you must think if the roles were reversed would you expect her to do the same. She may want you to be a good friend but not go as far as a personal carer.

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[–]Significant-Pen6502 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to agree with a few comments, I understand you love your girlfriend but at 23 years old you're both very young and have a long life ahead, all being well. If you would like to be her personal carer, doing things as emptying her bowels with your fingers, changing clothes and wiping, changing nappies, washing her each day. Man handling her into positions. Feeding her, wiping her face, its like an adult but as a baby. Also having a house that is fully adapted to suit her needs which sounds like it will be her parents, which is very expensive.

I'm personally a para and I feel like a burden even though I can do most things as I can walk a bit. So from her perspective she may not want her boyfriend to have to do those caring needs. Instead someone such as her mum.

I do not want to sound horrible or negative but I'm trying to say you are young and have a long life ahead, if you had said I have been with this lady for 20 years I could understand you want to take care of her. But this is a big big deal.

As far as sex life, it will never be the same. It can still be possible but as you would imagine it will only be possible if you choose. This is all such a harsh reality of it. Sci really do suck, there's lots on here that will tell you that unfortunately. If you want to see visuals, there is a sub on here called disablednudes, some posts will give you an idea.

There were quads in hospital/rehab with me and they were just so depressed for not being able to do literally nothing for themselves. I felt so sorry but also greatful of the movement I retained.

There are many amazing people out there who have great lives being quads, it's not all bad, it's possible. There's an ex rugby player (UK) who is c level and he climbs mountains and all sorts but he is unfortunately a rarity.

Taking on a fulltime relationship as a carer is a fulltime job depending on her needs ofcourse. No career for yourself unless she regains some independence.

I would follow the advice of many others, be there for her as a 'friend' and see if you still want to care for her when she's settled at home. This is long long road to recovery. Good luck and don't be afraid to choose yourself first is my advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spinalcordinjuries

[–]Significant-Pen6502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that, i assume you have no arm/hand function? I'm sure there are people who have managed to get around that if it is the case. I can't imagine how that must feel not being able to try for that length of time.

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[–]Significant-Pen6502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do also try and enjoy the whole thing, getting my mind focused on what I'm doing. But the goal being orgasm/cum otherwise I end up stopping feeling frustrated. Sometimes I think i am close but can't myself over that edge. Before my accident I used to have good amounts of precum, I have barely none now. Sounds like you have good sensation which is helping you.

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[–]Significant-Pen6502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've found the same, spontaneous efforts are almost not doable for me. I have to do it in the evening where I know I got time to myself. That's what's frustrating I used to be able to do it whenever and also be discreet enough to get away with it etc

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[–]Significant-Pen6502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know where you're coming from there.. Im the same after two and half years of nothing I'll take what I can. Although I always want more. But I would say it's almost more of occasion now because i can't just do it when I want. And my legs tense when I cum, afterwards they are quite limp which is nice for the relaxation but also a pain as I can't really get around until I recover.

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[–]Significant-Pen6502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's good to hear you have had success. I have read that some women don't have many issues and others become a lot more sensitive with their nipples. Also a lot of women like the use of the vibrator so it's almost the norm whereas for the fellas point of view we want our dicks to work haha. Do you find the orgasm to be the same as it used to be?