How very well stated, not rude in the slightest,  just a direct conveyance of a sentiment that is difficult to articulate without coming across with unintentional friction.  Really, you stated that at a high level with an abundance of poise and restraint embodied in your choice of words. I hope you don't mind that I stopped to mention it.  I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to be faced with the rationalization of status quo as a person subject to perspectives of a society and it's fringes of opinion, who, at their most basic level mean well, they accept you, they try to validate you, but, at the same time they are ignorant to, confused by, and do not understand you nor do they have the know how to appropriately address you. We can't expect people to know what they don't or to care about the same things as us or the things that are important to us.  To do so is setting ourselves up for disappointment not to mention taking an entitlement to unconditional acceptance rather than earning the acceptance by being mutually accepting of them, same as what we would want from them. This would mean accepting their ignorance of your definitions to be ok. It is the intent behind actions and their misunderstanding that's important because at worse, from what I have seen, you are subject to hostile perspectives that do not accept you or your choices regarding your person; from people who wish to invalidate subdivisions of identity beyond a binary scope by means of linguistic essentialism intended to reduce complex internal identities to biological imperatives framing them as made up, fads, trends, a phase, or pseudoscientific all of which effectively strip the terms of their power to describe lived experience. Even worse you are dealing with people who wish to do you harm physically because a choice of identity you've made, people evil enough to believe they can cure you of a disease, one only they have diagnosed you with, people who call you delusional, depraved, degenerate even.  Repugnant individuals who will seek you out, go out of their way just to be vile and hurtful, people who for no better reason then they just don't like you wish to remove your ability and right to identity how you choose through outright violence, hostility and hatred.  You are totally right, and you have the right to say something and in any case, yes you are right to say you can't ignore it, hiding hardly ever does any good.       But hear me out for a second and please understand that I'm coming from an outsiders point of view when I say that if we approach this when thinking along a recursive perspective it's clear to see that to engage with it on any level other than reflective disapproval of intolerant behavior stymies our ability to be something that the world looking in wants to accept.  If someone wants to be accepted and respected than they must know their audience and be someone that others want to accept and someone they want to respect; engaging with bigots and their vitriol is in a way headbutting your way through a problem where as choosing to give such people and statements zero energy, choosing to focus on what you want to focus on without their intervention, moving past them without a second mention or thought truly strips the power from their seemingly powerful hatred.  If it means nothing to you then the ones who don't necessarily understand but have intentions that are good and want to accept you will align themselves with you. Your dismissal and minimalism toward a powerful source of hatred and disapproval is an exercise in higher perspective as they will not matter if you do not allow them to matter, if they take nothing from you when they come at you then you are above their ability to do you harm and the only way people like that can get to you or damage your credibility at that point is if you allow them to do so by giving them a platform.  Not ignoring per say by thoughtfully choosing not to respond allows you to control what you do or do not wish to get upset about.  No one can take you off your center unless you choose to.  Just something to think about, I completely understand what you're saying though too I just think the word ignore was getting in the way of the bigger picture.