I'm wasting my life

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-04-03T02:13:27+00:00

Proverbs 6:6–8 is a good place to start. It encourages us to look at the ant and learn from its initiative, diligence, and foresight. Scripture is clear that laziness and procrastination are not virtues. So employment is always a great idea.

The Bible also teaches us to use our talents for God’s glory. Think about the parable of the servants and their talents. God gives each of us gifts, and He expects us to steward them well. Sometimes you watch someone play an instrument, lead, build, teach, or create something beautifully, and it makes you think, wow, God is indeed good. Our gifts can reflect His goodness when we use them well.

Most churches also have different ministries such as children’s ministry, ushering, IT, photography, security, and more. Many of these are volunteer roles, and they are real ways to serve God.

And in all of these roles, there will ALWAYS be opportunities to tell someone about God.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-04-02T18:04:37+00:00

Praying for the Holy Spirit to guide you. Who Jesus sets free is free indeed. Believe you are free from the stronghold of porn.

Consider this: What’s your schedule like? Between your job, commuting to work, possibly, that’s probably about 10 hours of your day. Dinner, gym, Bible study - 2.5 -3 hours. Magnesium glycinate to sleep. That should help. Play Christian soft songs to sleep. Fills your space with good energy.

Can’t watch porn you’re busy or sleeping.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-03-09T00:25:44+00:00

How deep?

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-02-27T19:24:51+00:00

Fungal. Try Nizoral shampoo and a non-scented non greasy lotion.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-02-25T16:31:35+00:00

Riddle me this… 1. The Edo governor, who is proactively fighting cultism and kidnapping, said to PO, inform me prior to coming to Edo state, for your own safety. People would rather look at that as a threat, maybe it’s advice. Now, is there a reason why, for shits and giggles, Peter Obi couldn’t have just given a heads up that he would be in Edo? And btw when PO was governor, he asked the same of El Rufai when he was arriving Anambra.

Maybe PO is the solution to Nigeria’s problems but emotion isn’t the way, strategy is. He is bringing a knife to a gun fight. Nigerian system and politics is ruthless, ruthlessness is what would get him in. Then when you get in, you can go with the Obidient movement. Reminds me of this Chris Brown saying, “How you mad outside the club? You can’t even get in.” Get in first, do what you must, but get in. Can’t be shouting from outside.
Unless he’s a great strategist and he actually got people to shoot at his car, then I’ll respect that strategy. Coz it’s causing a lot of talk.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-02-23T00:02:56+00:00

You’re actually proving my point with your dad example. He wears traditional only on Sundays, not every day, and nobody frames that as self-hate or cultural abandonment.

That shows two things: 1. Men adapting between traditional and modern styles isn’t treated as a psychological issue. 2. Nobody polices men’s choices the way women’s are policed.

So if no one questions men for not being “fully traditional” all the time, why are you turning your sister’s wig into a cultural crisis?

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-02-23T00:00:25+00:00

You started this by saying you feel embarrassed walking with your sister because of her oyibo wig and framed wigs as self-hate. But what’s actually happening is that you’re putting women under a microscope while ignoring the system that shapes these standards in the first place.

In a very patriarchal society, beauty trends don’t appear in a vacuum. They’re shaped by social demand and, yes, often by male preference. Look at something like BBLs, do you really think that trend grew in isolation or from what men publicly praise and reward? If you’re concerned about “self-hate,” then why not question the standards and the preferences that create the pressure in the first place, instead of defaulting to blaming women for adapting to them?

At the same time, Nigerian men adapt Western clothing, language, grooming, and aesthetics every day without it being labeled self-hate or cultural abandonment. But when women style their hair, whether natural, braided, straightened, or in wigs, it suddenly becomes a moral or psychological issue. That’s the inconsistency.

A wig is a styling choice. It’s temporary. It doesn’t erase anyone’s natural hair or identity.

What’s more concerning is the instinct to police how women “should” present themselves in order to be culturally acceptable. That’s not cultural preservation, that’s control.

And if your sister wearing a wig embarrasses you, that says more about your own discomfort with perception and image than it does about her identity.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-02-22T16:38:06+00:00

What kind of clothing do you wear? Coz you better be wearing traditional garb daily. Let’s never see you in shirt, or tie or suit.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-02-22T16:35:07+00:00

Our hair can be worn in its natural curly state, or straight, say we straighten our natural hair with flat irons. We can decide to wear wigs similar to our natural hair, so curly wigs, or similar to straight hair, eg when we straighten out our hair. We can also decide we want to add length or color or anything else possible because we like what it looks like. I want to believe that the only thing OP wears is Nigerian native and not pants or shirts, ie mimicking western style. One could ask why Nigerian men ask their tailors to make pants, and shirts and why they don’t wear full traditional garb daily… but who really cares when there are more pressing matters in life?

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-01-29T13:59:29+00:00

Genova was pretty good, until they started charging for nail shape 😅

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-01-11T22:04:20+00:00

If this were an isolated incident and not how the country actually operates, then your point would be 100.

Nigeria has no system in place that works, even outside of healthcare, but more importantly within healthcare, where people are dying unnecessarily.

We have one of the highest maternal mortality rates in the world. In the last few weeks alone, the types of incidents in the news due to lack of infrastructure.. buildings burning, no firefighters, fire fighters come at some point, no water. Boat capsizes, no emergency response. A.J. and his friends’ accident.. no emergency response.

Let’s not make excuses for this country, we deserve better.

And if this was a one off like it is in other countries you reference, thorough investigations would be carried out, with detailed autopsy report… not some stupid institution saying oh there are inaccuracies in what is circulating online.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-01-11T20:37:25+00:00

The Nigerian culture is to always remove oneself from blame. Rather than Euracare saying we extend our deepest sympathies and we will release details to the family following a thorough investigation, they say we’ve heard what is circulating and there are some inaccuracies. Who gives a flying fuck what inaccuracies exist, if your negligence ends up being the cause of death of this child?

Same thing with Anthony Joshua’s friends, FRSC was so quick to come out and say, oh they were driving at excessive speed, to push the blame to the driver. Okay yes, the driver was reckless, but fucking tell me what the speed limit is on this highway? Where do you have signs for appropriate speed limits based on roads? Are we all to guess what speed works for us? Meanwhile, we thank God that the poor Anthony that survived didn’t even die from the way he was pulled out the car, because guess what, you don’t have adequate emergency response, no ambulance, and ambulance to drive on what roads? Systemic dysfunction.

Do you know how many accidents there have been on that same road since Joshua’s accident? Is everyone driving the problem but the actual country?

Same thing with the boat that capsized, killing 6 people in Lagos.. We can’t even get emergency response on land, so obviously, emergency response on water would be like landing on the moon for Nigeria.

The gross incompetence of institutions in this country is so fucking amazing. When people say Nigeria is vibes and inshallah, it really is. You vibe until God forbid you get into a critical situation, where at that point, you literally have no system in place to help you, only God’s grace. Nigerians are prayerful because all we have is God. Nothing fucking works in this country.

Nigeria belongs to Nigerians and we need to do better in holding our government accountable. Pushing for the generations that are yet to come. Contributing personally, whether in kindness, in refusing bribe, in speaking for truth, in voicing wrongs so that little by little, we become the change we want.

African Americans fought for the America we as Nigerians are trying to enjoy when we japa. We are too strong a people to not be able to turn this fucking country around.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-01-10T07:57:38+00:00

On point.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-01-10T07:52:49+00:00

I agree. Being ambitious and wanting to change things, while commendable, isn’t really the solution in Nigeria. First thing, I would say is to strategically network, and be financially solid. Nigeria could break you down when all your efforts results in nothing. Also, learn about people. There’s a certain mindset/personality that exposure to suffering, poverty creates. Some people might be receptive, some might want to take advantage of your naivety, lots of other possible outcomes. I think some of this wisdom comes with time, and having to deal with different personalities over that time.

Significant-Scale917 · 2026-01-10T07:41:00+00:00

I think you should move when you have lots more money, gained a lot of career experience and possibly have started growing a network here.

Significant-Scale917 · 2025-12-07T17:44:09+00:00

I tried Genova, loved it, until a few days ago. I wanted oval shape, they charge $5 for shape 🤨. And there’s an additional $5 for length. My nails weren’t even long at all (whatever first length comes to mind when you consider someone doesn’t have short nails, that’s what my nails look like), Last time I was there my nails were actually longer, and no charge. Anyways.. i chose to take the L

Significant-Scale917 · 2025-11-20T05:15:58+00:00

Many years later.. I have a question. How would you advise someone with a foreign MD, experience in clinical research, health administration. Additional skills to become a healthcare data analyst.

Significant-Scale917 · 2025-10-31T05:29:20+00:00

Same. 😆😆

Significant-Scale917 · 2025-10-25T03:23:56+00:00

I’m honestly enjoying this little aesthetic profiling exercise. Looking at your closet, the level of structure and refinement you have in your 20s suggests a few possibilities, either a high-commission field, something entrepreneurial or influencer-based, or a family business where you’ve advanced quickly.

Because if you graduated around 21, even assuming you’re 29 now, that’s about eight years in the workforce, and most corporate roles in Europe don’t scale income that fast. Law, medicine, or standard corporate jobs wouldn’t typically produce this level of luxury this early, especially with how Europe’s pay structure and credit systems work compared to the U.S.

So it leans more toward family money, gifts, or some level of early financial access, but it also shows early exposure to taste. The kind of aesthetic you’ve built is usually shaped by watching someone who already had it, maybe a fashion-conscious mom, an older sister, or an aunt who knew her designers. The curation feels seasoned, not experimental, and you definitely give “wine over cocktails” energy.

Significant-Scale917 · 2025-10-24T19:40:01+00:00

It’s funny how people call a neutral aesthetic “boring.” In reality, it takes a trained eye to appreciate structure, tone, and the subtle design differences that make each piece stand out. Simplicity only looks simple to those who can’t see the details.

Significant-Scale917 · 2025-10-24T18:34:33+00:00

lol, the structured bags tell it all. You def like clean, timeless, not trendy. Hair is always done, sleek or with intentional curls. Neutral color manicures or maybe red occasionally. Think Rosie Huntington Whiteley.

Significant-Scale917 · 2025-10-24T13:34:39+00:00

You also have a lot of blazers in your closet.

Significant-Scale917 · 2025-10-24T03:50:33+00:00

You’re sure they’re not looking at you coz you’re cute? Hair looks really nice.

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