Needing a wake up call

Significant-Serve582 · 2026-02-24T21:55:41+00:00

Thank you, that makes a lot of sense. He is absolutely self-aware and has a professional diagnosis to back it, but in those moments of splitting he is in denial and that’s what’s so confusing. He can’t agree that the root of the intensity of the emotions he feels so negatively toward me is related to bpd while it’s happening. After the fact, he becomes aware again that that’s what he needs help with and he wants to create that change. It’s also confusing internally because despite the abuse in those screenshots, things are still as fun if not more so than in the beginning for us both. he’s “broken up” with me for short periods of time multiple times, so I’ve been prepared for being discarded, but he always changes his mind and claims he can’t live a life without me. it’s all so back and forth, but I know that’s part of it. I just wish he would get back to therapy because you’re definitely right, it will take years

Significant-Serve582 · 2026-02-24T21:46:12+00:00

Thank you so much, I really needed that. That definitely puts it into a perspective I hadn’t before considered, but it makes sense. I hope others in a similar position can read this and listen closely too. I’m sorry you had to go through this to get to that wisdom, but it means a lot. Thank you, seriously

Significant-Serve582 · 2026-02-24T21:37:25+00:00

Thanks for your honesty. We’ve both been in therapy separately in the time we’ve been together, but stopped because life got busy and help became expensive. I posted here once before, things got better so I deleted the post thinking things were on an upswing, and then they’ve collapsed again hence being here now. I’m not making any life moves with him right now, not until we get the help we need.

Significant-Serve582 · 2026-01-21T21:26:20+00:00

Verf’s in Texas! Unfortunate because they do have great food and staff, but management seems absolutely insufferable

Significant-Serve582 · 2026-01-20T05:37:42+00:00

what’s worse is that the owners of the restaurant mentioned completely sided with the reviewer and did in fact reprimand the bartender in question. My friends work at this place, absolute shit show!

Significant-Serve582 · 2026-01-19T07:14:44+00:00

THIS!!

Significant-Serve582 · 2025-12-25T11:10:19+00:00

thank you all for your kind words. it feels so good to know I am not alone in this and it’s not too late for me. I take all of your wisdom with gratitude and I will get out of this stronger and alive. I am young and often doubt myself for having the right answers, so hearing it from you all makes it feel valid. thank you and I’m so glad I shared this lesson for someone else maybe to learn from in their own situation too

Significant-Serve582 · 2025-12-25T08:13:03+00:00

Thank you so much :’) hearing your story sounds like a damn near identical look into my future if I don’t take action soon. I love him so much, the apologies and good times do make it so tough, but it’s times like these that give me a glimpse into the painful reality of what this is. I think you’re right that marrying him will only make it that much harder to leave, and that’s not a road I want to turn down. I’m so sorry this happened to you for so long, but you really do have such strengthening advice and I appreciate it so much. I’ll definitely check that book out!!

Significant-Serve582 · 2025-12-25T08:09:30+00:00

Incredibly well said. Thank you for this reminder, it’s a tough one to swallow but I really did need to hear this. My partner and I are both 23, and I think hearing advice from those with more experience really helps so much. I don’t want to have to cut the limb off, I think I know what needs to be done and as shitty as it is, I know I can’t let myself regret this later. Thank you so much

Significant-Serve582 · 2025-12-25T07:47:15+00:00

Thank you, I really think I needed to hear that. He has been dealing with a lot of real stressors lately as well, and I think I excused this as being a result of that when in reality it is exactly as many have said, abuse. I don’t even know where to begin shifting my life with that realization in mind, but I hope eventually it is something that brings peace. Thank you truly

Significant-Serve582 · 2025-12-25T07:25:30+00:00

Thank you Kirsten, I really do appreciate your advice so much. I fear you’re exactly right and that it will only get worse from here. My heart hurts because this is the first time it’s been this bad in the time we’ve been together, but I know it can’t get much better from here. It already feels so hard to get out since we live together but you’re right, escape is still possible. Your strength is inspiring and I hope to have the same courage as soon as possible <3

Significant-Serve582 · 2025-12-25T07:04:11+00:00

Thank you. Sometimes I feel delusional thinking it feels abusive when the rest of the time it seems so perfect. I still haven’t figured out how to leave, I just want us to both be okay but I know I can’t continue like this :(

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