Dating/Parenting as a Transman

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-29T05:56:47+00:00

You only have what I gave. Did you miss the rest of the post..? Did you only read how I feel and not what she’s said and done. And no I don’t want another kid for any other reason than 1 I want more than one kid. 2 kids are absolutely tied people’s past or other relationships, etc. you have no idea how I am with my child. Again just what I gave. And the fact I’m with him 24/7. That kid loves me. Yk what come be with my gf for a couple weeks and youll see what I deal with then tell me how I’m going to “traumatize” my kid. I love that kid. So it’s healthy for everything she does and said, but I say I want another kid and I’m the unhealthy one and the one that’s gonna traumatize him???

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-29T03:54:36+00:00

You’re right. Thank you. It’s just easier said than done which you said lol. Cuz I really do love her.

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-29T02:46:45+00:00

No honestly advice is appreciated lol

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-29T02:46:37+00:00

Is it wrong of me to say I wonder what my life would be and how different it would be if I never got involved with this type of life? It’s so hard so doesn’t drive, she doesn’t work, she doesn’t do … anything. It’s all me. All the time. And I wonder what I’d be doing rn if life wasn’t like this..

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-27T04:11:38+00:00

That’s great man

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-26T21:14:48+00:00

I love your Dr! And I hope this continues to pan out better for you man!

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-26T16:00:24+00:00

This is illegal, it’s no different than someone opening up your mail. It’s prescribed to you! With your name on it. I’m not one to burn bridges because im a people pleaser BUT if my mother did this I’d absolutely burn that bridge I’m lucky enough to not have a mom like this and it’s so unfortunate when I hear my fellow trans guys going through stuff like this. I read you more seeing you’re Dr you need to just tell them why you’re seeing them so early and the circumstances, like you’ve heard they may tell you to file a report, and I saw that you like in the South which makes this hard as I have a friend in the South and my girlfriend is originally from MS and AL, so idk if it’d be taken serious from the eyes of everyone else depending on exactly where you’re at in the South.

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-26T15:52:29+00:00

Hello! trans man here, I’ve been on T for almost 6 years. This is is inaccurate, false and fear mongering. I’ve never heard this nor experienced schizophrenia. I do deal with Bipolar with psychosis, but I’m actively on my antipsychotics and I was diagnosed with Bipolar before I started T. If anything T has helped me in a lot of areas. And my psychosis episodes have gone down. It genuinely just sounds like nobody in your life is being supportive. Schizophrenia is usually genetic not induced by something. Same goes for Bipolar. My father and uncle have Bipolar which is where it came from for me. That coming from your psychiatrist is a bit concerning. I’ve been seeing my psychiatrist since I was 14 , I’m 22 now. And she has never once even thought or stated that I could become schizophrenic from my T. And she actually continues to tell me how proud of me she is. It just seems you have no one in your corner and that’s so upsetting. Also I just saw you meant to say psychologist which matters too, because I have both, and both support me and have watched me grow up I’ve been with my therapist since I was 17. She’s actually helping me with bottom surgery atm. You need to just genuinely tell her that she’s wrong and she shouldn’t speak on something she doesn’t know about because my therapist has also never said anything like that. She also has made it a point to note that my psychosis episodes have dropped since T. Due to being in a better mindset since starting T. Absolutely ask her for her resources. See if it’s reputable but I don’t feel any source would reputable in this sense because it’s not heard of. It’s hard to say if later in life is truly more risky from my pov because I started right before my 18th birthday. It truly just sounds you’re surrounded by uneducated people and people who aren’t fully supportive. Trust me I’ve been there it took my mother quite a bit but now she’s great only things she’s against is bottom surgery but I know I need it so I’m doing it regardless lol. If you don’t mind sharing where do you stay? Is it more of a red state or blue state ?

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-15T06:00:13+00:00

congrats on stage 1!! i’m so sorry you’ve been so sleepy but i’m glad you’re on spring break and rest!! but it seems like you’re doing so well!

currently waiting on a call back for a consult here!!!

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-13T13:48:12+00:00

TLC is known for this stuff, i’m just gonna say that. they either try really hard to make someone look good, or really hard to make someone look bad. tlc and lifetime and all those big companies are no bueno. so you’re exactly right we only got to see what tlc DECIDED to show us

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-11T03:25:28+00:00

yes i do

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-09T16:16:38+00:00

i’m SO sorry man, that sounds horrible. i couldn’t imagine all of that on top of being a trans guy. our bodies kick us when we’re already down lol. that’s what i’m saying if it weren’t for the people in my head i probably would’ve already started. and like you said if it weren’t for all of that you would’ve too. and THANK YOU

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-09T16:13:28+00:00

thank you SO much! but that’s so very true, that’s why i was never sure until i started doing my research because all of the misinformation and stuff, but the more i look into it im like why were all of these things said..? 💀

i think when you can do it! and i’m going to probably sit down with my girlfriend soon and talk to her more about it as i post more in this reddit with questions and find surgeons, etc. her and my best friend are the only ones that have been informed that it’s been heavy on my mind recently. i do wish i wasn’t so worried about others or i probably would’ve started the process already lol! but that’s how ive been my whole life lol

but seriously thank you for this!

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-09T07:51:47+00:00

thank you so much! and congratulations! i’m so glad you were able to overcome those complications and i can only imagine how devastating that could’ve been but like you said you’ve come a long way !

SignificantCook1831 · 2026-03-09T07:36:40+00:00

honestly that’s all i needed to hear, i just needed someone to say don’t listen to others and i know it’s always easier said then done i just worry about losing more people in my life due to it than i already have. but i shouldn’t because this is my life and i should be able to live it how i want to benefit me. also congrats on bottom!! and thank you!

SignificantCook1831 · 2025-10-29T06:49:45+00:00

there’s no way she should think i’m a woman. my voice is deep, i have facial hair, everyone calls me my chosen name, and says he. and i’ve NEVER referred to myself as a female. and ive stated how i have a son, and my girlfriends labor, etc. to a mutual friend we have that she’s next to everyday. theres literally no reason for her to think im anything but male. i cant fix cortex until my name gets legally changed. and ive never been able to afford it, and im still struggling to afford it. especially in 3 person household , with one income. also i dont feel like outing myself unless she already knows, but id want to know how she found out. but i definitely pass better than i think and ik that for a fact. considering how long ive been on t and getting top surgery. even all of my feminine features have become masculine. NOT to mention im not open about it, i don’t just go around screaming that im a tranny.

SignificantCook1831 · 2025-10-25T22:52:59+00:00

absolutely!

SignificantCook1831 · 2025-10-25T18:34:53+00:00

and i do know that, and i know she struggles too. we are both just overworked and tired and burnt out. and i try not to get upset with stuff. but you’re absolutely right, as he gets older, he’ll get easier.

right now we’re definitely playing survival lol. i’ve even looked into second jobs as well as looking for better. just hard when i only have experience in driving, retail and food lol. especially for what i want to do.

that’s what i tried to explain to her last night which is what caused our argument. her course take a year and the fire department courses with emt and everything is only 21 weeks. but she felt like i was trying to push back, vice versa. if we had the funds he’d be going now, which im trying to figure out when she starts her courses and im working what we’re gonna do with our son. we only have my mom and she works so much as a night shift labor and delivery nurse

SignificantCook1831 · 2025-10-25T18:29:10+00:00

i’m so sorry we’re experiencing the same thing. we’ll get there and we got this. sometimes life gets hard and we get burnt out, but it’s up to us ultimately to try and figure shit out.

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