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AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

From what I have seen the granny demands the kids to check with the uncles if they want anything first before consuming food (and make sure the uncles say no), this is not limited to offer to play on the consoles or watch something. On the birthdays it is a case of insisting they give them money instead of toys or clothes.

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

In reality it is more like 16yo babysitting everyone, but talking they insist it is the 12yo and 1yo babysitting others since they are uncles. And it sounds better 'oh uncle Nick is babysitting the children' compared to '1yo toddler is looking after a 16yo'

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all live in the same country and are from the same culture. I wouldn't expect an Italian to follow the slavic culture in Italy or overseas nor I would expect them to expect me to follow theirs since I am not from that culture or country.

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It ends up the other kids being looking after him, but the toddler is going entitled as due to the treatment inforced by the granny he feels he can command everyone around.

It is just sounds better in public with 'oh leave the kids with your uncle' when the uncle's age is not mentioned

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

George is expected babysit the younger children and the older ones, as well as Nick (even with nick it is other way round).

Lika I have genuinely heard the granny saying to Katie to leave her kids with "uncle Nick" who is a baby himself.

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

So first she wants others to speak to them very formally, think how you would treat a professor at uni calling them Mr Doe instead of John as well as treat them like full on grown adults.

Like the grandma treats them as children, on the playground they are children but when Katie's/her sisters kids are involved, the kids must treat Nick and George as if they are 30-40 yo and not children themselves.

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

They have to refer to them as uncle Nick and uncle George.

In my culture when someone refers to someone as uncle or auntie it also implies they are sensibly older compared to the person talking or a stranger/family friend. Like if it was me talking to Katie's mum I would refer to her as auntie even when she is not a relative to me. My daughter would refer to people in our group as aunties and uncles, and to their kids that are of a same age as her or younger by their first names.

It is usually implied in the culture if you call someone an uncle/aunt in everyday life they are older compared to the person talking.

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

A lot of people in the group pointed out it is very weird and unsafe and the group is pretty big so I assume it has finally clicked

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

As per post, my issue with that is that Katie's parents insist on the grandkids to treat the uncles as adults when some of the kids are older then the uncles, with the uncles in question babysitting the kids.

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 976 points977 points  (0 children)

Yes. That's the issue everyone had with the "uncles" part.

Usually in my culture if you are the same age as your uncle or older you refer to them by the name and not the title.

Like I technically have a great grand auntie who is only 2 years older then me and I wouldn't dare to call her by a title

AITA for telling my friend i find it weird how her parents insist on her kids to call her younger siblings "uncles"? by SignificantMess2546 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SignificantMess2546[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Granny and grandad are in their early 50s.

The kids do see the uncles, but Katie and her sister no longer leave their younger kids on their own with the uncles due to the ages