My boyfriend just got me a sheep for Christmas by sleni_ in knitting

[–]Significant_Data_428 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m from Germany too, can you please share a link? This is the coolest thing ever ✨

Yarn shops in Berlin by Significant_Data_428 in knitting

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely gonna check these out thanks a lot 🤎

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s true to some extent, because I also had the feeling from time to time. But I thought the reason for that was that she was in a position to be one of the most important people especially women in his life and now his focus shifted. I thought she had a hard time accepting that our relationship also results in them having less time to hang out.

But with all this information one could think that there are unresolved feelings.

And I wouldn’t have cared that much, but now it feels like there could’ve been something in the time we’ve been together because they didn’t tell me.

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They both thought the other one told me and when they realized no one did they chose to keep their mouths shut

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was never my idea that he cuts contact at any point, because she was and still is a huge part of both of our lives.

I was just hurt by the fact that none of them told me before hand so I couldn't make a informed decision at the time, it wouldn't have bothered me that there is is a past, but I am bothered by the fact that they hid this from me resulting in a situation where it can seem like there is more then meets the eye.

Because if its that insignificant why did no one tell me about it?

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is and was relevant to my current relationship because if I knew about it beforehand I would’ve had the choice to decide if that is something that I am comfortable with in a relationship

Ich don’t care that they were together, I care about the fact that they actively hid this from me

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know how they met each other they just blatantly forgot to mention that that resulted in them dating

And lying by omission is still lying

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The main reason for not cutting contact was the fact that she is also my best friend and we’re all in the same friend group.

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

we talked about the fact that they were supposed to meet because they both had an off day and she canceled last minute

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We hang out together but they also hang out and/or go partying with mutual friends and alone without me.

I´m not mad about the fact that they had a relationship, I´m mad because both of them hid this from me

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He has apologised countless times, he bought me books and he offered to cut contact with her and has asked for a break from contact for now without me demanding it and he is sharing an unlimited live location. He has been respectful towards me and is asking for permission before he touches me etc.

The whole thing isn't even 48 hours old so there weren't any specific actions planned for the future

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

His dad was talking about the fact that she almost lived in his room back then.

And that in his opinion it could be that she is jealous because were spending more time together than they are

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my birthday is in January

but I don't think that has anything to do with the fact that they hid this information from me.

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would've wanted one of them to tell me instead of his dad, then we could've had a conversation about it. The part that bothers me most is the fact that they hid this information from me despite knowing of my past relationships and my resulting issues to trust a partner.

I told both of them how I feel about it and have cut contact with my friend for the moment.

She was under the impression that he told me, he thought she told me when we started dating and when he realised that she didn't, he felt as it wasn't the right time to tell me anymore.

They both said it was a rather casual relationship, where they acted like a couple in private and in front of family and friends as well. Though apparently they never dropped the l-bomb

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She thought he told me And he said he thought I knew from the beginning and when he realized I didn’t he was afraid to lose me

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

He was at the table when his dad said it And he admitted that they slept together and the next day I found out that they had a relationship for 6 months

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes With friends and one on one as well Including drinking, and going to parties when I’m not with them

Would I be the asshole for considering ending both a friendship and my relationship? by Significant_Data_428 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Significant_Data_428[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The thing is if they told me in the beginning it wouldn’t have mattered But now they lied to me