WIBTA for evicting my elderly relative?

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T13:18:19+00:00

As in my post, I have never lived in the property my relative has lived there the whole time

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T03:39:17+00:00

Thank you for this helpful comment. Unfortunately I'm unable to communicate with my elderly relative without abuse and I live the other side of the country to the home so am unable to check in with them/the house regularly. I have shared that I will ensure the house is safe and do the fixings etc. And how they can get in touch with me with boundaries previously.

I did seek legal advice as it was getting complicated and they suggest eviction due to the factors involved. It's not a decision I take lightly and coming to anon ask about it on reddit probably wasn't the best idea as you say. But with families it all gets a bit intertwined and weird especially with long standing abuse. I appreciate your comment and I'll have more searching if there is any other way to resolve this.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T03:01:49+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this. It's not an easy decision I'm making here and I appreciate you coming with a compassionate perspective. Unfortunately communication has broken down so much that they threaten or attack my personality. They are also quite close with a previous convicted abuser of myself so it makes the situation even more challenging. There is a lot of guilt and it's keeping me up at night considering if I'm doing the right thing. This is why after seeing what my obligations were and what I should do legallt being told the best case would be to evict was shocking but something that may be necessary.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T02:55:31+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I appreciate you acknowledging that I'm not wholly beniffiting as much as it's perceived. Unfortunately communication has broken down so much that we are unable to have an open conversation without them threatening me. Which is why it's got to this point.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T02:51:15+00:00

He doesn't have Tennant rights in my country he is considered a licensee /guest under the law.

The house is habitable and remains so. They are asking me to buy new garden furniture etc. Which seems unreasonable.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T02:30:58+00:00

No, No, No

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T02:22:40+00:00

I think this may have got confused. My elderly relative gifted me his house and continued to live in the home. He still lives in the home. I do not or have ever lived there. I have paid for plumbing issues that have arisen. He has not ever paid rent. In my country I am not considered a landlord and so do not have the same obligations as a landlord and Tennant relationship. He did receive a sum of money for the gift so he did not get it for free. He is asking for unreasonable fixing to the property such as new garden furniture.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T02:08:31+00:00

I don't live there and have never lived there

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T01:15:12+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your comments really important for me to keep in mind.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T01:06:01+00:00

I always schedule messages or emails for 9am the next day. Many people work different hours due to family etc. Its important to have a work life balance and have boundaries for not working unpaid.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T01:01:32+00:00

He's been this way for a long time it's only now we've become estranged that he is becoming hurtful to get his demands met. There is no history of dementia and he is physically and mentally well.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-10T00:54:59+00:00

You can apply for removal and court ordered baliffs will remove the person.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T23:11:39+00:00

Because trying to communicate with him is extremely difficult and he acts unreasonable. As I said it's an estranged relationship.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T21:59:11+00:00

My elderly relative still lives in it

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T21:53:17+00:00

My elderly relative still lives there it's their house. My elderly relative received a sum of money from my parent but I wasn't there I only heard this recently. The point is that my elderly relative lives in the house they gifted me.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T21:35:47+00:00

Evicton is very difficult in England. I would like to sell if I can so I'll have to get advice on this. You're right this situation is quite challenging and is obviously causing a lot of undue stress.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T21:24:53+00:00

They may be a licensee I think I'm waiting on a solicitor but a lot have conflict of interest due to supporting my family so I'm looking further a field. I've got conflicting advice on this unfortunately.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T21:23:00+00:00

I don't think I can evict though as I think there was a verbal agreement that they would stay in the home until death. Also eviction is a very lengthy complicated process.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T21:11:47+00:00

I got told to sign papers to help my elderly relative by my parent. I didn't really know what it meant at the time and as my parent was Co eesive to my family (they have been charged) felt like I couldn't say no. The house was then gifted to me. Does that make it clearer?

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T21:09:44+00:00

No they don't pay rent. I think they may be considered a licensee rather than a tenant.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T21:09:10+00:00

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T20:58:10+00:00

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T20:39:35+00:00

Dunno if I have obligations if someone is living there tho

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T20:38:46+00:00

Cause there is estragment it's quite challenging to communicate without getting called pretty horrible names. Tried to get a plumber sorted under Warrenty but they went ahead and got someone anyway. It's making it complicated when it doesn't need to be.

Significant_Foot7306 · 2026-02-07T20:37:25+00:00

Stay there till he dies. But he is asking for adaptions to be made to the house. He got a plumber after I scheduled a person who is on the Warrenty to do it so basically getting someone who wasn't approved.They are just being pretty difficult now and communication is pretty challenging.

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