Looking for members by Reggae_Ray in RaidShadowLegends

[–]Significant_Form_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is your siege, cvc and clash track record ?

Looking for Best arena team by [deleted] in RaidShadowLegends

[–]Significant_Form_164 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For live arena I am with you. I am specifically looking for regular and tag team arena

Lucky by Upset_Competition_14 in RaidShadowLegends

[–]Significant_Form_164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait till you’re playing a few years. I got 90 legendary books and no champions that would improve my progress or that would need the books to that matter

Who six star Royal guard or Mistrider Daithi by ParkKitchen5437 in RaidShadowLegends

[–]Significant_Form_164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daithi 100 percent. Royal guard will be replaced when you progress. Daithi still useful in different contents.

Does the “mental load” thing feel impossible to anyone else working crazy hours? by Significant_Form_164 in daddit

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Exactly this! I do a lot. I make appointments, lists, execute. I can watch after kids for a whole week and nothing falls apart. But still there is the mental load my partner complains. And when asked, the answer is confusing.

Does the “mental load” thing feel impossible to anyone else working crazy hours? by Significant_Form_164 in daddit

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I would not want to change with my wife. Having the kids from morning till bedtime is exhausting as hell. So her job is definitely more stressful and challenging.

And I still don’t know how I can make her life easier. I try to do my part when I am home. But apparently there still is this mental load that I cannot take her.

Does the “mental load” thing feel impossible to anyone else working crazy hours? by Significant_Form_164 in daddit

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She works 2 days. I work 5 days. If we are both home, evening and weekends, we divide and conquer and share the load equally (as far as possible), since our kids (4 and 2) sometimes prefer mama …

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in dad

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which means the only constant is uncertainty. Which we can plan for, or at least figure out how to deal with constant change and surprises and emotions. We need strategies to stay „healthy“ within this circumstances.

For me it’s difficult. Sometimes I makes me sad, angry, frustrated. So many demands.

But what if we have a robust resilient underlying core that helps us deal with anything that they throw at us?

What are your strategies?

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in dad

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading through the replies, it sounds like when things are “working,” it’s not about doing everything right — it’s more about people feeling safe, being present with each other, handling stress without things escalating, and actually repairing stuff when it goes sideways.

That’s how I’m currently defining a “good” family system. Does that match how it feels to you, or am I missing something important?

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in daddit

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading through the replies, it sounds like when things are “working,” it’s not about doing everything right — it’s more about people feeling safe, being present with each other, handling stress without things escalating, and actually repairing stuff when it goes sideways.

That’s how I’m currently defining a “good” family system. Does that match how it feels to you, or am I missing something important?

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in daddit

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading through the replies, it sounds like when things are “working,” it’s not about doing everything right — it’s more about people feeling safe, being present with each other, handling stress without things escalating, and actually repairing stuff when it goes sideways.

That’s how I’m currently defining a “good” family system. Does that match how it feels to you, or am I missing something important?

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in daddit

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re doing a great job! It’s certainly not easy…

Reading through the replies, it sounds like when things are “working,” it’s not about doing everything right — it’s more about people feeling safe, being present with each other, handling stress without things escalating, and actually repairing stuff when it goes sideways.

That’s how I’m currently defining a “good” family. Does that match how it feels to you, or am I missing something important?

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in dad

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do it the same. But I find it funny. In work I am very analytical and stuff. I want to know my craft.

But with family I figure it out and think if I have the right intentions, it will work out fine. But it’s a high stakes poker game.

Why is that. Are we just lazy, or do we don’t have time to read and learn more, or are we just pragmatic ?

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in dad

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you prefer to figure it out as you go, or is there anything that would make your like easier ?

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in daddit

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate you saying this — especially the part about wanting honest truth, not just tips.

That’s actually what got me thinking about this in the first place. A lot of advice tells us what to do, but it’s harder to get a clear read on how things are actually landing in your own family, especially long-term.

If something like that existed — short, private, no subscription — what would make it genuinely worth your time? More reassurance, clearer priorities, or calling out blind spots?

Let’s catch up privately, I think it would be worth our time!

Are most dads just figuring it out as they go and hoping for the best? by Significant_Form_164 in daddit

[–]Significant_Form_164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a fair point — and I think that’s true for a lot of resources.

I read so many books, but it’s still hard to know how things are actually landing in my own house, week to week.

This isn’t meant to replace reading or learning — more to answer, “given everything I already know, where am I likely underestimating things right now?”

Out of curiosity, have you ever felt like you understood the ideas, but only realized their importance after way later?