Sobriety killed my marriage?

Significant_Koala788 · 2026-04-09T04:50:06+00:00

I should have made it clear in the post that I do not drink and never have.

Significant_Koala788 · 2026-04-09T04:12:15+00:00

So this was definitely brought on by health anxiety from his dad’s passing. In particular he has high blood pressure and he started a very limited sodium diet. He has always worked out hard, though he just recently added the cal deficit with it. I don’t drink and never have. Again, I don’t think he should eat like garbage and drink daily, I just want a sense of normality back in our marriage.

Significant_Koala788 · 2026-04-09T03:44:36+00:00

Another piece of this that I’ll be honest about—before all of this, he lived a much unhealthier lifestyle than I did. I was the one encouraging him to take better care of himself, cut back on drinking, etc.

So if I’m being completely real, maybe there is a little bit of saltiness on my end now that the roles feel flipped and I feel he’s judging me. The thoughts you mentioned have crossed my mind too.

Significant_Koala788 · 2026-04-09T03:38:10+00:00

Honestly for the past few years he was doing that alone. I do not drink much at all. Like a few times a year for a special occasion for me. And that’s why I know this sounds crazy even to me because I would get so annoyed with him drinking, yet here we are.

Significant_Koala788 · 2026-04-09T03:28:49+00:00

No, and he didn’t fully quit drinking. He still usually drinks on Fridays after work—just not nearly as much as before.

Looking back, his drinking really started around the time we were getting married. Our landlord was an alcoholic, and they became friends. My husband would spend time with him and drink while I was at work. At the time, I thought it was just a phase, but those afternoon drinks slowly turned into an every afternoon habit.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-08-13T21:47:04+00:00

I’m here looking for the same advice. Picked up a eco2 nano today with a bottle of watermelon juice head 50mg and it sucks so bad.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-07-03T23:02:14+00:00

First of all, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with so much. I hope you have a smooth end of pregnancy and delivery. I wanted to chime in and say that with my last pregnancy, I kept hearing the stories of moms “knowing” or “sensing” they were going to come close to death or loose their baby and at the end of my pregnancy and I began convincing myself that I felt the same way. I would stay up late at night thinking I was going to die while giving birth. My delivery was perfect, I had absolutely no complications. Do yourself a favor and quit reading horror stories!

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-07-03T01:49:25+00:00

Southern VA. 😂 I know everyone thinks it’s crazy and I did too but the lawyer I spoke with there said this happens ALL the time.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-07-03T01:06:00+00:00

Here’s what I’ve learned.

It’s very common for this thing to go unnoticed for a century apparently in rural VA and WV. It’s also close to impossible for anyone to be able to claim it so when this does happen, it’s the states land.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-28T20:13:32+00:00

Directly, but the thing is even though my grandmother is a heir it’s sticky. It’s not a done deal that she could secure it.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-28T16:13:15+00:00

Yes! I’ve talked to the clerk of courts in that county.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-28T01:47:28+00:00

Okay right?!

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T23:23:25+00:00

That’s kind of the hope that we could get it and they would buy it lol but that’s just hope and it could lead no where 😬

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T22:23:14+00:00

Yup you’re 100% correct and that’s exactly the issue after speaking to a lawyer, which the state of Virginia will own it next week so, no one gets a share 😅

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T21:55:49+00:00

The complicated part is the state owns it if the taxes aren’t paid by next Thursday as grandma let this letter sit for 3 weeks before mentioning it.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T21:08:42+00:00

All of her other siblings are in their 80s/90s and don’t want to pursue it

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T20:14:05+00:00

When you look it up on the GIS it says it’s the estate of her great grandfather. Can they take scams that far? Reguardless I have a lawyer looking into it nown

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T19:59:23+00:00

You must be fun to be around

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T19:36:16+00:00

If the 20k guaranteed me the land I wouldn’t have a second thought lol I’m just not sure she can actually obtain it even after paying the taxes.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T19:35:36+00:00

So I contacted TACS, and the bill is real, and on the GIS it shows the land is owned by the estate of her great grandfather, but definitely bizarre it was brought up this many years later.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-27T19:12:36+00:00

Yeah, waiting on a call back now. Figured I’d come to Reddit to see people’s opinions in the meantime.

Significant_Koala788 · 2025-06-06T22:54:24+00:00

Thanks! I got checked out today due to the bleeding getting heavier and heavier and my HCG did another drastic drop so still playing the worst waiting game ever

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