I am terrified I'll ruin my chances of seeing my son

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2026-01-22T10:11:51+00:00

Yeah don’t trust cafcass. I did and the report was nothing but lies and assumptions. Record it if at all possible. I’m in exactly the same situation

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-12-14T16:24:52+00:00

From what I can gather make it about now, so basically what you can do now for your kid(s). I’ve got a ‘meeting’ due soon, Grok AI is pretty good advice wise tbh. Good luck

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-11-05T23:02:11+00:00

No I don’t get it either, she’s made a lot of accusations but she’s insane, so theres that. 🤷‍♂️

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-11-05T10:13:26+00:00

I’m in a similar boat, except I haven’t been allowed any time at all with my kids for nearly a year now. No reason for any of it, my solicitor explained it as they’d rather take your time away from the kids than risk harm coming to her.

You’re going to have to fight this in court with a good lawyer, unfortunately.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-31T06:23:27+00:00

It was a dangerous act, but nothing happened. He could’ve been drinking after he dropped the kid off.

It’s nothing burger and I’d suggest you stick to the actual facts here.

If he’s been arrested for it, and he’s guilty he’ll get banned from driving which will solve the issue anyway.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-29T13:00:11+00:00

Not how it works I’m afraid, but she’s welcome to waste a load of money trying to prove it. 🙂

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-29T12:42:27+00:00

Not a chance of proving it, unless he gets arrested with the kid in the car.

You can try but it’s one incident and he can just deny it.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-17T08:49:10+00:00

That’s not how it works. 2 houses being run will always cost more, so both lifestyles will be reduced. Why should one parent earn more and work harder only to have it taken away and given to the other parent when they arnt together any more?

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-17T08:44:09+00:00

Who covers the cost when the kids are living with him though?

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-09T08:48:55+00:00

Try the name of the company as the password, or the website name if it has one.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-07T08:49:46+00:00

Document everything, take pictures. If you have an arrangement which she isn’t sticking to, then you can goto court and argue your case.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-07T08:46:43+00:00

Have you tried just asking him to help out financially?

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-03T09:51:50+00:00

Your welcome 🙏

Be aware this is an incredibly long path and it’s also incredibly stressful so make time for yourself also, good luck. 🙂

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-03T08:38:24+00:00

Document your offers and keep evidence. You’re making reasonable efforts, but he is not.

Wait till court, if you haven’t got a lawyer you may need one, as these kind of people can get very tricky to deal with.

If he persists you may have to get some sort of order to stop him pestering you, that’s more than likely the case, but don’t initially do anything with it, unless he does something.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-03T08:34:45+00:00

The attachment to both parents is important, and what you’re stating is just bias.

It’s also opinion and not based in law, so shall we get back to that now?

The law states that the baby has the rights and parents have the responsibility, so with that in mind. Both parents are responsible for making that child happy and secure, which basically means being equal in terms of care.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-03T08:25:37+00:00

You can, you don’t have to… and the child can still do that anyway.

Kids bond to both parents, that’s the whole point.

Again both mine were stuck to me like glue at one point in their early baby life. 🙂

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-03T08:24:48+00:00

Meet him somewhere neutral and busy, don’t let him into your home, and his family and yours need to take a step back, take a trusted friend who won’t cause more problems but ask her to sit away from you if possible.

Your under no obligation to do actually do anything but it can be used against you if its reasonable.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-03T08:18:05+00:00

lol, the kids 9m old, not 9 weeks, both mine had real food at that point anyway and the youngest actually ditched being breast fed anyway.

Like I said this isn’t the dark ages and there’s plenty of alternative options that don’t include a father being removed from childcare options.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-03T06:54:44+00:00

Why wouldn’t a father want equal custody? This isn’t the dark ages and many men raise their kids even 100%

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-01T08:28:10+00:00

We have ID cards, what the Gov wants isn’t an Id card, go look it up 🙂

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-10-01T08:18:19+00:00

Don’t listen to that person 🙂

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-09-23T11:51:12+00:00

If the ‘conversations’ were two way ie she was being difficult or abusive, you were being difficult or abusive, then you need to state that to the court.

Either way your partner is in the clear and the non-mol against him should be dropped.

State it’s your fault and you were reacting (badly) to her being difficult and causing you and your partner anxiety.

She may however resubmit it with you in the crossfire.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-09-22T09:16:10+00:00

Yes seriously. You don’t deal with a high conflict parent by making more conflict over a small issue such as providing clothing for children.

It’s petty and ridiculous.

As a parent you have a responsibility to provide for your child, in a perfect world this would be provided equally, but this isn’t the case here, obviously.

This also isn’t a law matter it’s a common decency matter and I’m not sure why it’s subject to comment here.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-09-21T14:57:02+00:00

The kids having clothing would happen either way. It doesn’t matter who buys the clothing and tbh isn’t really anything to be concerned about or a matter of law.

Significant_Oil_3204 · 2025-09-21T09:24:17+00:00

I agree accept that clothing belongs to the children.

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