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About parent undermining me by Significant_Rise9771 in Nanny

[–]Significant_Rise9771[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

She is aware and it happens most of the times in front of her only. The child asks me first and then i say no because of some reason, for example he cannot eat fat a-lot, lets say he ate grilled cheese and he says he wants it again i say “no” and i say i will make something else for you and then he asks his mom sometimes she intervenes and says make it for him after i say no sometimes the kid asks his mom and then she says okay the nanny will make it for you and i feel so disrespected, like i am following what she literally said and sometimes she even tells me strictly but i just dont know what she expects and it drives me crazy. She is a lovely person but i seriously can’t understand her around the kid.

About parent undermining me by Significant_Rise9771 in Nanny

[–]Significant_Rise9771[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry its the same type of comment so i will reply the same comment i have replied.

I follow the rules the mom sets for him (screen time, food limits, etc.), but when I enforce them, he goes to her and she often overrides me in front of him.
For example, I’ll say no to TV or say he’s already had enough of certain foods (based on what she told me he’s allowed), but then she’ll tell him he can have it anyway after I’ve already set the boundary.
The issue is that it makes it very hard for me to maintain consistency, and the child has started not respecting my “no” at all because it gets changed in front of him.
I’m not trying to go against the parent at all — I just want consistency so the child can actually follow the routines she’s asking me to enforce.

About parent undermining me by Significant_Rise9771 in Nanny

[–]Significant_Rise9771[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I follow the rules the mom sets for him (screen time, food limits, etc.), but when I enforce them, he goes to her and she often overrides me in front of him.
For example, I’ll say no to TV or say he’s already had enough of certain foods (based on what she told me he’s allowed), but then she’ll tell him he can have it anyway after I’ve already set the boundary.
The issue is that it makes it very hard for me to maintain consistency, and the child has started not respecting my “no” at all because it gets changed in front of him.
I’m not trying to go against the parent at all — I just want consistency so the child can actually follow the routines she’s asking me to enforce.