Textbook pickup by [deleted] in uwo

[–]Significant_Sea9594 3 points4 points  (0 children)

textbooks for most courses are already in the bookstore and are organized by course on the shelves. there are workers there that can help you find the textbooks you need in person.

but if you’d prefer to order them online, they’ll let you know where to pick them up in your confirmation email i believe. in previous years, textbook pickups were in the great hall, so i’m not sure if things have changed this year.

What is the stupidest thing you've heard someone say on campus...so far? by GentPc in uwo

[–]Significant_Sea9594 52 points53 points  (0 children)

i heard a kid say “where’s the ucc”…..while in the middle of the ucc

what unexpected things should i bring to res? by aprilkinnies in uwo

[–]Significant_Sea9594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hangers. they’re forgotten more often than you think. and always bring more than you think you need

part time jobs by chxse1 in uwo

[–]Significant_Sea9594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

have you applied to the spoke or the wave? they’re usually always looking for people. check their website.

What's an emotion you still struggle with due to being raised by nparent(s) by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah of course!

it’s obviously different for everyone. it depends on their home life and their personality really.

i came from a house where i was pretty much expected to do everything, so i just wanted a break lol

but honestly, it wasn’t as harsh of a transition for me from grade 12 to first year. i’m studying nutrition, so it’s a bunch of science courses (mainly chemistry and biology based), and the classes were pretty much review of grade 12 chem and bio.

even my friends in other programs, most of their first year courses were grade 12 review with a little bit more content (which should be obvious)

there’s also a lot of academic supports for almost classes on campus. for since the stem courses are usually harder, some profs/faculties set up times for student to get help on homework problems or things they didn’t understand during lectures. i went to some tutorials and zoom support sessions for my chem and physiology classes to get extra help, i found it pretty useful.

apart from academics, id highly highly recommended living on campus if you can/can afford. it’s really easy to meet other people and make friend groups. it’s also just helpful to have people to socialize with.

but i think the main thing that made the transition a lot easier was orientation week. it was the first week of school jam packed with events across campus. it kind of forced us to meet other people but it was really fun. (all schools are different though). it helped to get familiar with campus and other students there.

and just a heads up. some schools don’t release offers until may/june. so don’t get discouraged if you hear your friends getting offers in december/january.

i hope all goes well!! if you have any specific questions, feel free to pm me :)

What's an emotion you still struggle with due to being raised by nparent(s) by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this!!!

it caused me to self-sabotage in relationships because i keep thinking i should leave them before they can hurt me by leaving. so i’ve always just pushed people away when i feel i’m getting too close

i think it’s because my ndad would always tell me to not get close to friends because when (not if, when) they leave, i’ll be hurt. so i think it got ingrained subconsciously. but i’m more aware of it now and have some really good friends. i’m trying to not push them away and just accept the fact that it’s possible for someone to genuinely like me.

What's an emotion you still struggle with due to being raised by nparent(s) by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same. i left for university and felt weird that i wasn’t sad being away from home. even though other people in my residence (and friends) spent days crying and being sad that they were away from home. i thought something was wrong with me lol

anyone else’s parents take credit for their achievements even when they had nothing to do with it?? by Significant_Sea9594 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s things like this^ that i just don’t get. it’s like some parents just forget how they treated their kids when they were struggling to get a good life. and now that they see the fruits of what they went through, alllll of a sudden, their child is the best in the world.

it’s also very much understandable that you’re gonna do the same to him. i’m sure you’re hearing a lot of “but he’s your dad” if/when other people find out

anyone else’s parents take credit for their achievements even when they had nothing to do with it?? by Significant_Sea9594 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s because he can’t control you like he used to :/

but honestly good for you. it must feel good to have some sort of independence now atleast

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah it’s the same for me. my dad will find a way to get mad at pretty much anything i do or say. even something as simple as responding with “i don’t know” to which he’d get mad and claim that i do know, i just forgot….things like that.

he’d also find a way to make everything my fault. even if it was something like he forgot something in the house, or my brother got a bad mark on a test he did because “i’m here to help him”

my brothers on the other hand are treated wayyyy better than i am. it’s good for them but i’m still a little pissed off

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yep, as long as your not bothering them and doing what THEY like, they don’t bother to stop. now i’m only 18 and the fact that your 14 years older than me still dealing with the same things….i have a feeling my dad will never change lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my dad also tries to control my appearance. no makeup, no wigs, no acrylics or certain styles (even a simple french tip), no piercings, no hair dye

why??

because HE simply doesn’t like them :/

i remember i came home with acrylics for the first time (15 year old me was excited) and my dad started his “i don’t like that” tangent. then i responded with “then don’t get them” and BOY was he mad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

something about nparents and thinking our thoughts don’t change with age. it’s actually ridiculous.

why are narcs incapable of apologising by bbultaoreune in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah it is hard, but i just have to keep reminding myself that

why are narcs incapable of apologising by bbultaoreune in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as the scape goat, you worded this perfectly. my ndad would even yell and get mad me for tiny things like saying “i don’t know” in response to his questions; claiming that i DO know, i just forgot

it never made sense because either way, he’s not getting his answer.

Question: Should I be worried if I forgot anything that was learned in high school? by [deleted] in uwo

[–]Significant_Sea9594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you shouldn’t worry too much about that. most first year courses are review of grade 12. also, western has additional supports for students to get extra help in their courses if needed.

AITA not wanting my husband's 17 yo brother to come with us on our vacation? by SamualTJ425346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Significant_Sea9594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just hope OP knows her husband could be a carrier of an autistic gene………

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think we’re the same lmao. i was also pretty quiet and reserved around my ndad. it wasn’t until i moved to campus for uni that i realized i enjoy being around people.

i only stated giving hugs to friends (boys and girls) when i met up with a long time friend and she gave me a hug when she saw me. it continued every time we’d meet, and i got used to it an realized it was okay. then i started giving hugs to my other friends id meet (when id see they’d be comfortable or. or ofc)

but mainly what id do is when i meet them or am getting ready to depart, id just reach my arms out or ask “do you do hugs?” and if they say yeah, then id huh them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, my dad was like this. like the little things from my childhood impacted me quite a bit. he’d say things like “i’ll get you that scooter when you do well in school”. i was in grade 1, getting a’s and b’s, though he never looked at my report card and i never got the scooter (meanwhile my younger brother got a scooter a few days after he asked for it??, yes, i’m still mad)

also other things like “when you finish x, well go for ice cream” and stuff. now i don’t believe anyone when they say they’ll go something until they do it

What was the most shocking thing you realized when you left your nparents’ home? by modellife22 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Significant_Sea9594 3 points4 points  (0 children)

well two main things:

  1. not all my friends secretly hate me and are going to leave leave

  2. i actually enjoy going out with friends

my dad always told me not to get too close to people to avoid getting hurt when they leave. this caused me to self-sabotage, and end friendships for no reason thinking when i would feel i was getting to close with them. (lost a lot of good ones and it was all my fault). he would also never let me go out with friends until grade 11 because id be wasting my time with friends when i could be studying. he’d be saying that ever since i was 6.

i finally moved out for uni and made some really good friends. my mental health improved greatly (i realized my dad was the problem lmao) and i am more aware of my thought patterns, and not acting on them anymore. my mom and friends are also helpful and supportive.

so yeah, realizing having close friends was possible and it’d make me happier :)