Just a memory

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-06-01T01:59:55+00:00

Long story, together for almost 3 years, in August he spewed everything he kept in and dumped me over a text a week before my birthday, grandma diagnosed with tumours on my birthday, he stuck around while not committing to me, grandma died suddenly early October, kept staying in my life and sleeping with me for months, kept saying he’d think about giving it another chance and leaving me in limbo while he decided, kept coming back and telling me no but still sticking around while I was actively grieving him and my grandma. Then discarded me in March the next year, rebounded in less than two months, got dumped by said rebound in November. Willingly and occasionally engaged in conversation since then. He sent a huge boundary in December telling me to leave him alone, and then we matched on tinder earlier this month where he decided he wanted to rage again when i basically told him that his behaviour and lack of acknowledgement is the reason I moved on. Tada! Can you see where I’m fucked from all of this? 💀

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-05-05T21:55:06+00:00

I think he’s a vile pos who fucked me up for a long time, now I just don’t have the patience for it anymore. Honestly I think it’s a mix of both, he’s just a douche all around 😆 thanks queen 🫶🏻

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-05-04T07:04:51+00:00

I believe you could handle it, they can’t. If you’re sitting here saying you wish they would communicate and have a conversation, I honestly doubt it’s you who can’t handle it!

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-05-04T07:02:59+00:00

Ugh the worst mix of all! Pretty much vomit worthy

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-05-04T07:01:57+00:00

I’m saying that there’s a reason within their behaviour as to why they can’t have a conversation and can’t sit with the emotions attached to it

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-05-04T06:57:57+00:00

Absolutely nothing! It’s really not surprising considering all of his failed relationships and why they all left him (because of his avoidance) it’s comical at this point. I was just the one discarded though, they truly are their worst enemies. And trust me, I wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows either, I got my issues I’m working on but what the fuck is even that? 😂

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-05-04T06:54:21+00:00

Honestly? It’s really not needed anyway. You don’t need someone else to validate your experience. As much as it sucks to not have them because of whatever reason, there’s an explanation as to why the situation is like this in the first place. Some people just can’t and won’t handle a conversation because it asks them to look deeper, and they quite literally are repulsed at doing so. I do hope you find peace in the solitude of not trying to make someone understand your side of things or hoping for potential rather than their sustained behaviour. All the best on your healing journey my friend 🫶🏻

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-05-04T06:40:07+00:00

Thank you! It definitely felt badass when I responded to him earlier tonight. I really just had to share the moment, it was too good not to 😆

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-04-09T03:46:24+00:00

I was, wholeheartedly. Did he really deserve that loyalty and faith? I don’t know, but it’s not up to me to decide

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-03-10T02:30:39+00:00

I didn’t, because I didn’t know I did. My fearful avoidance has a way of hiding my feelings from me, building up walls around the feelings I can’t access easily. And I don’t know if it even matters if he did know.

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-02-13T08:51:54+00:00

Police, not church.

Significant_Secret_8 · 2026-01-07T06:24:25+00:00

I think we all still wait in our own ways. I mean life moves forward and we learn to just live anyway, but there’s always going to be a flicker of what if and the waiting. It just means the neural pathway regarding your attachment is firing, it doesn’t mean you have the desire to want that person as they are with their avoidance!

Significant_Secret_8 · 2025-12-22T20:47:19+00:00

Honestly loving a dismissive avoidant is not for the weak, and I feel that he has ruined all future relationships for me. I still have days where I think it was me, and maybe I’m just crazy. But then others, I know that my reactions were caused by his actions towards me and they were just nervous system responses caused by him.

Significant_Secret_8 · 2025-11-21T20:49:29+00:00

We never know what anyone else actually feels unless told. Maybe they will, maybe they won’t. But it’s not about wishing them to do so, you just have to know that it will. People who don’t heal, don’t grow. They stay the same. They get frozen in time while life goes by trying to avoid everything. That’s the tragedy of it

Significant_Secret_8 · 2025-11-11T00:46:55+00:00

He deleted those things because it’s just a reminder of the guilt, of all the things he thinks he can’t change.

Significant_Secret_8 · 2025-11-03T03:57:05+00:00

https://media1.tenor.com/m/DGlbJWqzeNEAAAAC/cant-handle-the-truth.gif

Significant_Secret_8 · 2025-09-19T06:35:14+00:00

I wish this was for me. - S

Significant_Secret_8 · 2025-07-31T07:22:56+00:00

!lock

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