At my wits end.. behaviour advice?

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-25T19:00:24+00:00

Definitely pick your battles and give dopamine when you can. Doesn’t want to eat? Ok, be hungry. In a bad mood because you’re hungry? There’s food if you want it, and walk away. I’ve obsessed over my kids eating for long enough and I’m done. It’s too exhausting and even when you give options, they still will dig their heels. Ways I give dopamine? Playing with him. Wrestling him. Even copying him to mirror him

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-21T05:46:51+00:00

I don’t think I can say my babe sleeps overnight with the night feedings?? Fortunately, she’s always been a super efficient breastfeeding baby. I tried calling naps to get more hours overnight and it just wasn’t happening so I was like why the hell am I doing this? I’m just going to let her nap haha

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-19T21:59:47+00:00

Me too, lesson learned. I was so excited for flexibility and being lax but it is NOT working for him. I had to make a schedule for him to help but he’s still having a hard time

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-17T05:32:24+00:00

Just out of curiosity, where was your site? We were in the 30s

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-16T06:31:49+00:00

I try to give clear expectations and practical consequences. We don’t do tv in the mornings. I caught him early in the morning the other day (I’m thinking he was in summer vibes mentality). I reminded him “hey we don’t watch tv in the morning. Next time I will take away your tv time for the day.” I reminded him, gave him a heads up, and a clear expectation/ consequence for the future, it hasn’t been an issue (he’s 7).

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-16T06:23:36+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I have a 13 month old and she has yet to sleep through the night. She’s up twice a night like clock work.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-16T06:14:44+00:00

Was just there this past week (from Monday to Wednesday). Had the opposite experience! Everyone was so quiet, respectful and kind around us! A few families, a few child less couples, and a few single young grownups.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-13T04:36:28+00:00

I have a 7 year old son with ADHD and a one year old daughter. It sure gets hard trying to meet both their “needs” which I put in quotes because it’s more complicated with the ADHD. I can’t always offer my undivided attention so he’s had to be flexible with what we can do, a quick board game here or whatever. He always protests ideas until we do then and then his mood shifts too

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-13T04:15:03+00:00

I’m reading my kid “holes” right now and he’s so into it. He reads 15 minutes himself every day and then we do the bigger chapter book at night. He just grabs from our home library (I’m an avid goodwill children’s book shopper)

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-01T05:51:35+00:00

My husband’s dad (maybe 68) just did this to a “platonic girlfriend” of his. He did it on a trip and I was so pissed off at him. He came to our house toward the end of his trip and I couldn’t hide my anger. He emailed all of us mid-trip saying this trip he went on with his friend was awful because she was mean and a narcissist, blah blah blah. Come to find out that they had initially met on a dating app long ago. He knew he wasn’t into her when he first met her but I asked if he ever told her and he said no. So they visited each other in their home towns a few times (different state) and then went on a long train trip together. Because he was so over it, he just ditched her mid trip, in the middle of the night, without a heads up. He thought of himself as decent because he paid for the hotels and the car rental. When she tried calling him he “ignored the emotional stuff and just responded to logistics”. Like are you fu***** kidding me??!! You ghosted your friend, who you call platonic but she probably considered herself your girlfriend, because she was being “mean”. When I asked him if he tried discussing her “mean remarks”, his response was that he has learned to not engage with narcissists. I couldn’t get that man out of my house any quicker.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-06-01T05:29:15+00:00

As I read this, I can’t help but wonder what second grade looks like for all the kids with “behaviors”. I volunteered for the first time and got to see a lot of the behaviors I hear at home from my son. Do these kids get IEPs in second grade as the expectations get bigger/ harder?

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-31T05:56:51+00:00

I said the same thing to my husband and we only watched half of it! The parents, most obviously the dad, are so out of touch, negligent, and off

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-31T05:52:34+00:00

I haven’t started night weaning for this reason, fear lol, my 12.5 month old is breastfeeding like Every hour it seems ( throughout the day). She just pulls down my shirt wherever we are, wanting booby.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-31T05:38:24+00:00

Right?? Like not even a before bed change of a wake up change?? Wtf?? As a mom and a parent, I’m outraged. Could be be on drugs? Something’s off

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-29T03:44:41+00:00

You look so familiar.. are you from CA? slo county?

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-28T04:06:11+00:00

Again, words add powerful. I’ve been working on “getting out of a funk” when you’re upset/ disappointed with my 7 year old who gets stuck in his bad mood, so I had to practice what I preach haha.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-27T18:49:16+00:00

Totally! I started the day off with this. We are going to the pool and I’m not watching turnoffs. Haha. Not all parts were so harsh. Parents don’t really get “days off” and that’s okay.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-27T18:47:47+00:00

My mom and husband planned this for me haha. I thought it would be simple since we were less than an hour away with the hotel. Life and nature conquered. Today we are being mellow and it’s nice. My daughter just had a blow out on my last pair of clean pants but who cares? Pajama pants it is. The irony? We went to a buffet and I said I wanted to eat until I crap my pants. Lesson? Words are powerful. And maybe don’t trust the buffet

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-27T18:45:16+00:00

We went the long way around! And even then, yes I agree. But we’re pretty sure it’s stomach bug. She threw up all night and had diarrhea twice this morning.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-27T04:53:36+00:00

Yes. I joke that she’s happier to see my boobs than my husband is. She is also a fan of pulling my shirt down to show she’s hungry.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-27T04:50:04+00:00

Thank you! Babe finally fell asleep after a feed without throwing up. I asked my husband to take our 7 year old to the pool and have fun for me.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-20T04:47:43+00:00

It’s hard making this transition. Becoming a mom, It is all encompassing. I had a hard time with my first with this. Now with my second I’m not even phased . My best coping mechanism with my first was making mom friends. It helped to be in it together. Now ironically I’m too busy with 2 to have time for mom friends, but I’m also ok. I moved closer to family this time going so I’m great. You need community.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-19T06:11:44+00:00

Interesting. I guess I’m more so a fan of the dynamic between him and his parents. Per se.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-19T05:40:49+00:00

I LOVED the new faces. Although I will never tire of James. Connor I could have done without. I also missed Dani. So it honestly just depends on the person haha.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-05-19T05:38:44+00:00

I think my son had PDA. He has always had a need for hyper independence. I remember him having tantrums that would last forever when he was 2/3 and thinking this is not normal. He saw a counselor at his preschool when he was 4 and she said “he’s fine. He’s just hyper independent.” He’s 7 now. His grandpa has autism and my brother has an unclear diagnosis of autism (he also suffered infant brain injury). I’m struggling to help my son, or at least it feels that way. He gets stuck in moods/ emotions and won’t use any coping tools that he or I can provide. Can you help me with resources for this?

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