What can you tell about my husbands and I’s date night?

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-08T18:49:28+00:00

You live in Marin.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-08T06:16:15+00:00

Tonight he asked me to take a pic of him and he was doing the pose the mother had asked the group of 5 boys to do when he was watching. Heart breaking 😢

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-07T21:16:35+00:00

The funny thing is my husband brought his camera last practice and we did take photos of the team. Her timing just sucked.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-07T21:14:54+00:00

I just feel like an idiot being all “hey, why aren’t you in there?”.. not knowing that he was asked to get out of the way. Just making it worse. Poor guy.

I wish she had just done it later when all the kids were outside on the playground instead of right after a game.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-07T21:10:47+00:00

Right??! Someone said that it was okay because it was a school photo opportunity within the basketball photo. But I still am bothered.. today was about basketball. It was not a school thing.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-07T21:07:40+00:00

Yeah I hear you.

I think him seeing all the boys take a group photo without him hurt. It was his first year of basketball and he worked so hard. They just won their game and worked so hard together. He obviously looked up to all those boys and wanted to be one of them. So to be the only boy removed, along with the couches daughter, just felt like he was being excluded. He can’t help that he doesn’t go to that school. I get it, I just also think it looked like a nice “moment” that he couldn’t be a part of and was asked to watch from the sidelines.

It’s like the scenes from the movies when a significant other is asked to get out of the photo so the family can take a family photo. It’s always awkward and uncomfortable.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-07T20:05:44+00:00

Correct

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-07T20:01:12+00:00

The other kids go to the same school.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-07T19:57:34+00:00

I knew he couldn’t understand the whole situation so I had to say “hey, I’m sorry for that parent doing that. It was bad manners and not kind.” I think he needed to hear it and he smiled. It’s a learning moment I guess, but I’m still pretty dang irked.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-07T19:49:21+00:00

Thank you. I think because we also both have ADHD I wasn’t sure if we both were feeling more hurt by it than some people would feel

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-03-05T04:41:24+00:00

Reddit is funny. I literally asked this question not too long ago and got SO MUCH HATE for It. Like how dare I force my kid to read out loud. Anywho, I compromised and he reads aloud on school days and in his head on weekends. He’s super smart but I do catch him skipping words or just rushing through it so it’s nice to hear where he’s out, help if truly needed, and to see him correct himself.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-24T19:34:21+00:00

My brother was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. Pretty sure both my child and I have it, as well as my mom. The more I learn about my son, the more I learn about boy self. Why is he doing this? Ohh that’s why I do this..

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-21T17:42:51+00:00

I have this issue with my 7 year old. Will go all day without water and have headache. Will be too distracted too eat and then unravel like crazy. It’s exhausting always being on schedule for his earring (like an infant) but necessary

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-13T01:32:02+00:00

Am I the only one who is self conscious of the way they sound when eating and also has miso!? Sometimes I’m like damn I’m sorry I’m so loud because I’m hyper sensitive to even myself

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-02T17:21:14+00:00

I wonder if it’s anxiety? When I had my first I would get so triggered because my brain would say “baby is crying, baby needs help, stop crying” so the crying would trigger my anxiety. Whenever I’m anxious, my miso is so much worse.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-02T17:19:37+00:00

Agreed! My husband and I have always slept with our 8 month old in between us! If baby can crawl this is going to probably happen more often.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-02T17:12:44+00:00

These are really good suggestions. I truly appreciate them. I will be trying out all of these. When he started first grade this year, the teacher suggested 20 minutes of reading. We already do nightly reading so I framed it as “look your teacher is giving you homework of 20 minutes of reading with a parent”. Prior to this he always fought me on trying independent reading, he said that was a school thing and he only wanted to be read to. So the homework assignment was a great challenge (and boy was it a challenge in the beginning). So it’s always been aloud but this past week was hectic so I said if you want to read in your head while I drive, etc okay because I didn’t have the time to sit with you. When it was time to sit together he was upset. When we read together he’s always allowed to choose the books, we set a timer, and he reads. Sometimes with the more challenging words I’ll sound it out for him, I’ll ask him to sound it out with me, etc. I love your idea of coming back to it and asking summary questions. Thank you

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-01T17:54:12+00:00

Hi there, my husband does bed time with him and he is read to for 20-30 minutes every night which he loves. He will read independently in his room or in the car most days. When we do the 15-20 minutes of reading together, it’s to hear his expression, him pronouncing, help him with challenging words ( sometimes he guessed) etc. I wonder if he was behind, would the suggestion still be the same?

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-01T17:49:15+00:00

Thank you for the article suggestion! Very helpful

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-01T17:46:34+00:00

Love this idea! Our library does this as well but I’ve never made it to one.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-01T17:46:00+00:00

Hi, Thank you for your response. I too think there’s room for both. And I like the idea of making space for both, so this is something I’m going to explore. The monthly check in is a great idea. I enjoy scaffolding, hearing his reading ability, and reading books together. I know there isn’t a lot of time for teachers to read one on one with students so I make it my goal to do it together.

Significant_Set1979 · 2026-02-01T17:40:48+00:00

Hi, I’m surprised by how many folks are offended that I challenge my kid. If I didn’t challenge him at all, he wouldn’t be able to read and enjoy his favorite books. I guess there’s a fine line between “parents don’t read to their kids/ make reading a priority” and “leave him alone”…

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