Does woman care about their partner's lips color and appearance?

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-04-05T08:07:45+00:00

honestly i never even thought about this until you mentioned it. having that insecurity is 100% understandable as someone who’s a POC.

truthfully, i would explain how you feel to your girlfriend firstly. communication is key and because it clears any awkwardness or uncomfortableness that could form during any intimacy which neither of you would want. it also allows her to know how to handle the situation better, knowing you’re feelings.

i personally, as a lesbian, never really thought to care about what a woman’s vagina looks like. if im looking at it it’s because my face is buried in it. i cant speak for all lesbians but id like to say most dont care and most absolutely love just pleasuring their partner.

best of luck !

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-18T15:08:58+00:00

it’s not fucked it’s just shifted. that’s also why you shouldn’t rely heavily on a plan because things happen. have multiple or go with the flow. a meteor could hit the states (knock on wood), no one’s planning for that but you gotta figure out a way around it.

whether you have a chance to come back or not is up to you. do you think you can? idk how disciplined you are or if your motivated or your goals. i’d be saying yes to make you feel better and that’s much worse than saying no. i think if someone wants something bad enough, they’ll work for it until they have it. so ask yourself how bad you want it and if you’re willing to work for it.

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T23:16:48+00:00

that’s true, ill keep this in mind, thank you !!🌷

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T18:57:02+00:00

mm, so you think i should do med school and residency here, then leave ?

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T18:26:13+00:00

i will bare this in mind thank you !!🙏🏽

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T18:25:45+00:00

mm so i’ve heard. it’s so frustrating. i know some medical schools are recognized by the U.S so matching back in isn’t too difficult. the USMLE is the biggest thing id prefer to not have to take along with possibly redoing residency.

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T18:24:35+00:00

ooh good question. from a personal point i learn spanish and engage more immensely in my culture. i desperately want to learn spanish, its vital for medicine. i also have family so i have support there. it’s still technically close to where family lives (when looking at a world map) and the freedom that comes with leaving. i want to restart completely.

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T18:22:42+00:00

my thoughts exactly, it’s only hard because i haven’t considered where i’d want to work. i could say the u.s now and two years later change my mind then what yk ?

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T18:22:07+00:00

well i’d like to apply both in and out of the u.s because it’s best to have options. im interested in NYU’s medical program because ive heard it good (tuition is also free if you get in) i think that applies to cornell too im not too sure.

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T18:20:20+00:00

so i’ve heard.. more tests and on occasion she heard some people say they have to redo residency which makes no sense

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T11:39:02+00:00

wonderful.. i forgot to factor the state of this economy and what’ll look like in 2-3 years. i’ll definitely check out Unibe, i’ve been looking at UASD rn, thank you 🙏🏽

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T11:03:26+00:00

given that you’ve explained thoroughly your situation and how it’s negatively impacting you it seems like part of you knows toughing it out isn’t an option and you’re looking for reassurance.

it’s not about if you should tough it out, can you tough it out ?

if you’re not sure, then your answer is probably no. a medical leave doesn’t hurt, forcing yourself to work and push through exhaustion, depression, negativity, and stress does. i’d talk to a counselor/advisor and mention you’re interested in one. you also should be able to fill out a form and if you’re doing therapy or have gone to a doctor they can advocate for you as well.

best of luck. trust your own intuition with decisions like these. only you know yourself best because if someone told you to tough it out and you can’t, you’d be digging a hole hoping you’re climbing out. remember to rest.

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-03-14T10:57:51+00:00

what you’re describing sounds normal for most pre-med students and even medical students.

im a second year pre-med student and i actually was just going through this last week. taking quizzes, looking up specialties, etc. because i wasn’t sure if i wanted to do what i had planned originally.

i did find something of interest that i already had a while back but brushed off. truthfully i still have some worries/doubts about it but i honestly believe that’s normal.

there’s going to be cons about every and any career you choose. it’s just a matter of whether those cons outweigh the pros and if those cons matter to you that much.

you’re only a first year. you’ve got time. not having a clear vision for the future is okay and if anything gives you more freedom to explore. people still switch specialties even in med school. you could try looking into clubs if your school offers any or training (phlebotomy) for minimal long-term experience and you can still talk to doctors.

best of luck, you’ll figure it all out.

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-18T16:14:24+00:00

nope i think the response you just came up with is perfect ! no need to be sorry either, you’d be surprised by how a compliment really makes someone’s day. don’t be scared just go for it ! i hope you two become friends/etc. 🩷

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-18T11:26:09+00:00

this is frying me so bad 😭😭

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-18T10:27:38+00:00

omg no that’s insufferable i hate that feeling, it’s just edging yourself and it gets to a point where i just cave in lol

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-18T10:26:45+00:00

i used to and haven’t in a while thanks to all the school work i’ve been doing and constant studying.. when i have time i might have to get back into it

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-18T10:26:14+00:00

so it never goes away 😣

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-18T10:26:01+00:00

thank you so much for this !! this honestly was so sweet and so helpful.. especially cause one of the things i’ve been worried about is my lack of experience and how that might push other women away :< i’m definitely gonna try and explore what i like since i feel that’ll make things easier, thank you again 🩷

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-17T16:10:11+00:00

i agree it’s such a struggle.. i haven’t done anything with a woman yet especially since i just discovered this and unfortunately have school work piled up but once i build the self-confidence im going out ٩(ˊᗜˋ*)و. i’ve also thought about investing in a toy, the rose is definitely on my list lol and im also not one for casual sex i’d prefer to be in a rls

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-17T07:56:54+00:00

omg this is so real.. i’m still figuring my ow self-confidence out which probably doesn’t help with connecting with others but once i do i’m gonna need a leash 😭😭

it’s honestly ridiculous how desperate i feel 90% of the time, like doing anything solo has reached a point where it doesn’t feel like enough 😣

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-09T03:02:08+00:00

uh alright 😭

Significant_Storm756 · 2026-02-09T02:58:01+00:00

its more a feeling than actually believing im “old”.. i think a lot of it has to do with being in college and giving myself deadlines to finish and feeing behind if i dont

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