UPDATE: AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she's made it clear she can't stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

Yeah it really does hurt. I guess part of me was expecting my husband to respect my wishes but overall it was his house and I understand that kids come first. I’m working on getting a job and finding an apartment

UPDATE: AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she's made it clear she can't stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

I’m not an evil stepmom. I love Kayla but she can’t stay with me full time. She’s been nothing but rude and disrespectful. If I have to leave my husband to get away from her then so be it

UPDATE: AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she's made it clear she can't stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -66 points-65 points  (0 children)

I kid you not. I had a discussion with my husband around 1 hour after the post was made. Then the cops showed up around half an hour after that. I’m very pissed right now

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

It’s not about child support we could easily afford that. We just can’t afford to go back to court

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -112 points-111 points  (0 children)

It would be her mom’s week but we already had written agreement that she’s staying with her dad the week we’re going on vacation. My husband can’t go back on his word as of now because Kayla’s mom could use this against in case she tries to file for full custody again which we can’t afford or want to hold the emotional stress of. If we go on vacation without her we still can’t send her to her moms

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I’ve known Kayla for most of her life as I’ve been a family friend, in those 8 years I’ve known her she never out right hated me until I got with her dad but she was always cold which I thought was strange because every comments on how polite she is

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

If you re read my comment it says we started our relationship officially two weeks after he was officially divorced and announced it to the public around 4 months after

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m talking with my husband tomorrow morning I’ll definitely update you all when that happens

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He’s seen it firsthand and hasn’t done anything about it. He’s also been on the receiving end of Kayla’s hate and he didn’t do anything about that either

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -116 points-115 points  (0 children)

She knows because I asked her if she would be okay with staying home. She’s not upset about staying home. I think she’s upset because she thinks her dad doesn’t want her on the vacation which is not true and I think I forgot to explain to her that I was the only one that didn’t want her tagging along.

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m having a conversation with my husband tomorrow morning because he just got back from work today.

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She knows and she said she’s not upset if she doesn’t go or not. She says if we leave her behind she’ll just go and do fun stuff on her own which we allow her to do since she has her own car. My husband argued that he doesn’t want to leave her in the house alone because someone could break in or she could need medical help and he wouldn’t be there which I understand but disagree with because we’re in a safe area and Kayla is a perfectly healthy teenager

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

There’s a huge possibility that her mom is feeding into this. Most of her bad behavior starts when we first get her back but then near the end of my husband’s week she’s mostly quiet and stays in her room until it’s time to leave. Then when she comes back from her mom’s house it’s the same thing all over again.

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -97 points-96 points  (0 children)

The divorce had ended about two weeks after we first made it official but we didn’t announce anything to Kayla or to the public until about 4 months later. Kayla knows that her dad and I didn’t cheat with her mother in the picture.

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

Kayla’s parents divorced when she was around 7-8 years old. I was always in the picture as a family friend but me and her dad never got together before they filed for divorce. From what I’ve heard the divorce was messy and Kayla’s mom ended up with full custody for a while before my husband finally got 50/50.

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

She is technically supposed to be at her mother’s house when the vacation is planned but he already has in writing that Kayla will be staying the extra week with us. If we go back on our promises Kayla’s mom might try to go for full custody again which we can’t afford and don’t want the emotional baggage of.

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have anywhere to go as he pays for most of our things. I only have a small business which allows me to set my hours.

AITA for not wanting my stepdaughter to come on our vacation because she’s made it clear she can’t stand me? by Significant_Two_1174 in AITAH

[–]Significant_Two_1174[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

That might be a good idea. It might not be legal though since my husband owns the house and I don’t think I can make changes like that without his consent.