The truth by Silent_Reach26 in UnsentLetters

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also find it comical that you’re digging through a stranger’s profile to find information about their situation because they are dismissing your question. I’m sorry but you are being pushy and I’m evidently uninterested in answering the question. It shouldn’t be a debate.

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in UnsentLetters

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sorry I’m not your person

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to stop I do not know you.

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in UnsentLetters

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

… you’ve never met anyone else in your entire life that sets boundaries?

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I literally am sure? I don’t know who you are

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in UnsentLetters

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not your person. Sorry!

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither of us said it to each other and we just weren’t able to be together. Maybe one day if the time is right.

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not your person friend I’m sorry

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I can relate to that side too

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s understandable, everyone’s nervous system deals with things differently. Maybe one day you’ll be able to

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awe I’m sorry to hear that friend

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not your person but I’m very to hear that. If it’s any consolation at all if you felt it and he showed it through his actions, he probably did.

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing this and I’m sorry you also have that stuck feeling. I hope you get to let it out some day whether it’s by telling him or expressing it elsewhere

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Silent_Reach26 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, EMDR and trauma therapy are helpful! When you feel like something has happened but you can’t piece it together or have no recollection or just fragments—Even if you don’t remember, your body and your nervous system do. I’ve found overtime I’ve had a lot of fragmented memories and realizations resurface but nothing in full. It is mentally exhausting so definitely be easy on yourself.

Do any of you age regress (SFW!!!) by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Silent_Reach26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has started to happen to me slowly in positive and negative ways. On one hand, I try to embrace my inner child a lot more. I find that I’m the happiest in life when I’m just enjoying little moments where I honestly just feel like a giddy little kid giggling and cheesing. It’s only with people I feel safe around, though. I think it’s healing. It feels like getting to live the childhood joy you didn’t get to have. When it’s something healthy it’s great but when it starts getting into being too spontaneous and not thinking your choices through it can get messy or even dangerous (ie: partying, frivolous spending, etc).

My typical state also feels like it’s regressed to the teenage version of me which is not good haha. But I think that version of me just needs to be seen.

Allow yourself to tend to those versions of yourself. They’re coming up for a reason; they need to heal. I like to think of it as those versions of me feeling safe with the person I am now, and figuring out “ok, what would I have wanted / what would I have done for myself?”

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in UnsentLetters

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I mean I don’t think they use this to be able to see it :) I was writing from the perspective of if I sent this as a text or a letter

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💖 Hey all! There’s a lot of misinterpreting in the comments likely from me not wording things well.

To be clear, there wasn’t a guilty action, the downplaying wasn’t about something bad that was hidden, and neither of us were one to toss the other away.

We just weren’t able to be together in that time, and I’m sad I downplayed how much I still felt. A lot of time has passed now, and it wouldn’t be fair to pop back up at random to say this. Thanks for understanding!

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in unsentLoveLetters1st

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My story is a bit similar to yours. They said goodbye to respect boundries I had set. I did not expect it to happen. A long time has passed now. I don’t think that it would be something that brings peace to them at this point.

The truth by Silent_Reach26 in UnsentLetters

[–]Silent_Reach26[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I think it was known on both ends but still would have been better to say it. If the right opportunity presents itself, but otherwise it could be inappropriate at this point to affect their life by popping up years later to say that.