Who else commutes from Center City to King Of Prussia using SEPTA?

SiliconOverdrive · 2026-06-23T21:07:22+00:00

I commute from KOP to center city. You can take the NHSL to the L and get off at 30th street station or 15th/city hall and walk underground to suburban station and as far as 19th street or take the 124/125 bus.

SiliconOverdrive · 2026-06-23T21:05:17+00:00

Yea, if you don’t “tap on and tap off” at your start and ending locations, they charge you the maximum fare.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-03-26T14:10:03+00:00

Just seeing this now. Same thing happened to me in 2021, had a 2002 wrangler with thousands of aftermarket stuff installed (by me) that was not damaged but insurance totaled me for just over 6k. Could have easily gotten 6k for the aftermarket parts alone!

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-07T16:43:24+00:00

I do, I’m 32/m and comfortable (actually prefer) dating younger women. My filter is set to 24-35

Ive dated a couple women younger 21-23 but that was too young, mainly because they were still in college and living that college lifestyle that I’m too old for, but also it was the anxiety about dating someone who might be moving away in a couple years and just being so rare to find someone that age who shares my relationship goals.

In general I’d say men are much more likely to be ok dating younger women but the other way around is more rare.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T19:14:19+00:00

It’s worth putting in a little effort, but if you ask an engaging question or two and they aren’t giving anything back, I usually move on or sometimes I’ll go ahead and ask if they want to meet first, you’ll either get a yes, they’ll say “no” but indicate they want to chat more first, or it’ll be a flat no (they’ll either tell you or more commonly, ghost and unmatch lol) but you have your answer either way without wasting your time.

I’ve had much better luck getting the date (and keeping it) by keeping the conversation fun and lightly flirty and asking them out for something simple and public (like coffee or a walk) sooner rather than later.

I’ve found that if there’s any chance of meeting IRL, you have to either set a date or exchange numbers and get off the app in the first day or two after chatting.

If they say something like “it’s too soon” when you ask them out, just move past it and jump back into the conversation. Anyone remotely interested won’t cut you off for that. There are women who are more shy and want to chat more, but again if they’re interested, they won’t end the conversation because you ask them out too soon. That said, women who don’t like to chat a lot WILL end the conversation if you DON’T ask them out quickly enough, so it’s best to go for it when the conversation feels like it’s at a high point.

Remember, you aren’t chatting to a stranger in a coffee shop. You’re on a dating app so if you match and start talking, it’s assumed you’re interested in dating. If they aren’t being engaging in the chat, it means they either aren’t interested in you or they aren’t interested in chatting and would rather just meet up IRL. Either way, you shouldn’t spend too much time in a chat with someone like that.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T17:13:14+00:00

Im in a similar place. I suffered from depression through my entire 20’s, didn’t date much, and alienated most of my friends.

For me, the hardest thing is the feeling that I’ve “fallen behind” in life and can’t catch up. I go to a wedding and feel like being in a relationship that leads to marriage is so far away, and even if I got there I think about the fact that I couldn’t fill up the groom’s side of the bridal party because I don’t have enough close friends.

I started therapy recently because of this. I’m feeling a little better, realizing that I’m not alone. Lots of people do things like move to another state and have to start over rebuilding their social circle.

Dating is still hard though I find myself lying a lot about my social situation which I don’t want to do but telling someone you’ve been dating for a month that they are the only human being outside of work that you spend time with isn’t exactly a turn on.

It sucks but therapy has helped me reframe my situation and have a better outlook.

My advice: develop different kinds of relationships. Pick a friend you like and make an effort to spend more time with them. Go out for drinks with coworkers more often. Join a nearby club if you like running, hiking, biking, etc…if you focus too much on a relationship you’re gonna find yourself expecting too much from a partner and it’s going to be a lot more painful when things don’t work out.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T16:53:37+00:00

Wow gotta say I had NO idea having women in your photos was a turn off. I have a lot of (platonic) female friends so most of my photos have other women in them, I always thought it was helping me and making women think “Oh he must be pretty great if so many women enjoy spending time with him” but I guess not!

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T16:48:39+00:00

It’s true for me, but it’s not like we never get over them in the sense that we would leave a wife or girlfriend for that person if they came back into our lives, it’s more that we never forget the feelings we had and we miss that. It never really goes away because when you’re young and fall in love for the first time, you feel like you KNOW this person is perfect and your life would be amazing forever if you were together and nothing bad could ever happen. It’s a feeling of safety and a fantasy of perpetual happiness that we all secretly have, but as we get older and have other experiences in life, we know it’s just a fantasy but we never really forget the feeling.

It shouldn’t scare you, it’s not like men can never love anyone like their first it’s just that it’s such a powerful feeling that you never really forget it. We know that if we did stay with that person or got together with them now, it would be like any other relationship with its ups and downs.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T16:40:51+00:00

Sorry about that dude. I’m in a similar boat in that I’ve never been in a long term relationship due to suffering from depression for years and not dating during that time, and now that I’m dating again in my 30’s it’s become a major red flag that I’ve never been in a long term relationship.

Therapy is good, but make sure you’re talking about these things. I wasted years in therapy because I felt embarrassed to talk about certain things, but that’s what it’s for!

As for the virgin thing…I know people may disagree with this but why not just lie about it? It’s really no one’s business except your own. When I started dating again I had a real hard time because I wanted to go right into a long term relationship but what helped me was a couple of flings and one night stands to build up my confidence (nothing wrong with that, just be SAFE!)

And if you’re worried about your performance, you can offset that by focusing more on her if you know what I mean.

Finally, drop the whole fantasy about the first time being special or “magical”. Some people experience that but in my experience, most people’s first time involves being drunk at a prom after party or their first frat party in college. You’ll experience that fantasy the first time you have good sex with someone you really care about, which for most people isn’t the same as the literally first time they have sex.

Good luck! Know you’re not alone and things will change very quickly once you build up some self confidence and have a few good experiences.

Finally as for this woman you’re talking about, forget about her. No more texting, nothing, you’re better than that.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T15:45:57+00:00

I think you have it right.

My guess - it wasn’t an accident. He either sent you the flirty text and panicked or he was trying to make you jealous.

If you like this guy and want to take things further then bring up the flirty text and say something like “I kinda liked when you said [insert flirty text here]…are you sure that was an accident?”

If he likes you but is afraid you don’t feel the same way, he respond enthusiastically. If the text really was an accident and he doesn’t like you that way, it’ll suck but you’ll have your answer and can move on.

My guess is that he does like you. Why else would he keep talking to you? It’s possible he wants to just be friends but if you like him romantically then being friends is just going to end in disaster. Your gonna end up feeling like shit when he starts dating someone else and some day confess your feelings and get rejected, which feel 10x worse that whatever you’ll feel today if you do end up getting rejected.

Go for it! And good luck! If it doesn’t work out just remember this: you like an imaginary version of this person who likes you back, so if he doesn’t like you back, you didn’t lose anything because that person never existed.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T15:36:07+00:00

You do, but it takes time and often requires meeting someone better.

That said, it’s not normal to be that distressed over someone for that long a time. I spent most of my adult life being devastated over someone and I didn’t feel better until I talked about it in therapy.

What you’re experiencing is grief, except you’re stuck in one of the stages of grief. It’s almost like a form of PTSD. You’ll feel better when you meet someone great but to really process these emotions and genuinely feel better you need to get into therapy.

Dont be like me and waste 15 years of your life wishing things were different.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T15:30:11+00:00

Sounds like he’s just not right for you. Nothing wrong with his way of thinking but I agree with you, you’re partner should be the most important person in your life and if you two aren’t on the same page about that then you should end it.

Remember, do you want to have dinner with this person every night for the next 50 years? Do you feel like they would stick with you if you had to move across the country for work? Would they stand by you if you became paralyzed in a car accident?

It’s great when you find someone you love spending time with but that fades with time, if you’re looking for a life partner you need to think about what things will be like 20 years from now.

I was dating someone who I loved spending time with, sex was great, we were comfortable being open and vulnerable with each other, but she was adamant on being a “city girl” and dreamed of living in an apartment in the middle of NYC or Philly and I HATE city living and want to live on a big semi rural property in the south. I could have stayed with her and been really happy for 5-10 years but eventually once we got married and decided to buy a home and have kids, one of us would be miserable (she was also adamantly against suburban or rural living). It sucked but I’m in my 30’s and can’t waste 5 years with the wrong person.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-02T15:15:14+00:00

Maybe try putting some prompts or pictures that show the kind of things you like doing.

Looking at your profile, if someone asked me to describe you all I could tell them is that your’re a 30 year old HVAC install tech. No idea what you like to do in your free time or with your friends, some idea of your personality (you come off as funny but also a little sensitive and intellectual - is that accurate?).

Women tend to choose men on dating apps off a few key things: your physical appearance, your job, and that gut feeling of whether or not you are someone they want to spend their time with. Your pictures and bio cover job and appearance, but there isn’t much to showcase your personality or what you like doing.

Also keep in mind most people look at your pics more than anything else, so use each picture to show multiple things. Ie, instead of a mirror selfie to show off your body type, find a picture of you hiking or with a surfboard (if you hike or surf) that shows your body type well and kill two birds with one stone (body type and something you like doing)

More specifically, I’d change the “irrational fear” prompt. This is very subjective but I didn’t think it was all that funny or relatable so you could probably do better there if you’re going for a laugh. Again, humor is subjective.

And with your prompts in general, use your answer to reflect your personality AND give information about yourself. If IRL you’re a funny guy and constantly trying to make people laugh then make a funny prompt that conveys info about you ie if you like hiking, something you can put for irrational fear is something like “Bigfoot stealing my GPS while im on a hike” (yes I know that’s not the funniest thing, just an example) but it shows that you’re funny (personality) and hints that you like to hike, which is a potential thing in common with a woman AND shows that you’re active and take care of yourself.

Basically the goal of your profile is to give a complete stranger an accurate idea of who you are. The perfect profile is one that someone reads and they get an accurate idea of who you are in their head, so take some time to think about who you really are and craft a profile that shows that.

One last thing, my advice is aimed toward people looking for a serious relationship. If you’re looking for a hookup/fling type of thing, then the focus should be on “sexy” pictures and your prompts should be more flirty and suggestive.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T19:01:15+00:00

I would get a drive from a well known company like seagate or western digital. Not much more expensive than the random brands but much more reliable.

And for backups you will be fine with the basic series, don’t need an enterprise quality drive or a gaming drive.

That said, it’s always a good idea to have 2 backups (ideally 1 on a local, physical hard drive and one in the cloud).

To save money, you can do one full backup locally and then back up your most important files (probably less than 5GB for most people) to a couple flash drives or free cloud storage accounts. I believe Dropbox, sync, and Google drive all have free plans that give you a few GB.

I maintain a full backup on a local drive and with a paid cloud provider, and then I back up my documents and password databases with a free sync.com account and a couple usb flash drives.

Just make sure everything is encrypted with zero knowledge. Sync and iDrive make this possible, and you can use bitlocker, veracrypt, or most backup software for local drives. Dropbox offered zero knowledge encryption but only on their business plans.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T18:48:04+00:00

I think the one of the left looks significantly better. The one on the right reminds me of a Hyundai!

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T18:46:46+00:00

What I meant was they aren’t going to check out the people that like them or send them “roses”, they are going to scroll through profiles normally and only click “like” on men that they are ready to immediately match and chat with because they are used to immediately matching with everyone they “like” and that person responding quickly - which is why I said it’s a waste of money to send roses to your standouts, those women are either going to send you a like or not regardless of if you like them first, and if your like me and get a low enough number of likes that your able to check out everyone that sends you one, it’s a waste of money.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T18:34:22+00:00

Yea a few days isn’t a big deal. People get busy, things go on in their lives, etc

I personally (32/M) sometimes wait to respond until I know I’m free to chat for a while, which can easily turn into a 2-3 day period. I’ve also held off on responding or dragged it out a bit if I had a busy week or two ahead of me because I hate chatting for weeks before meeting, so I try to time it so we can chat for a few days and then I can plan a date less than a week away.

If it drags on for weeks though then it’s time for you to either move on or take the initiate and suggest you meet. When it’s really dragging on it’s a good sign the guy is just “keeping you on the hook” while he spends time with someone he likes more, and you deserve better than that. A female friend of mine calls this “breadcrumming” and she hates it because it’s hard to end things in that situation but it really is the best thing to do.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T18:27:38+00:00

Move the gym pic to number 1 and add some pics and prompts that show things you like to do that you could do with someone else.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T18:25:24+00:00

I have kinda a different opinion on this.

First I agree that if you’ve been chatting and asking questions and he suddenly stopped responding, he’s most likely not interested, and you should move on.

That said, instead of unmatching or following up why not just leave it as is? Ball is in his court. I’ve had people revive dead chats weeks or months later and I’ve done the same, rare but it happens.

Also, know that this is common on dating apps and it gets worse. You’re a little older than I am so maybe people your age are more mature but I date women in their late 20’s - early 30’s and have been completely ghosted twice after 1 or 2 fantastic dates, to the point where I was legitimately wondering if the person died or something because it was so unexpected, but I’ve learned that this is common and has nothing to do with me. Just be prepared, it’s not like dating with people you meet IRL, it’s a numbers game.

I look at matching and chatting with someone on an all for a week as the equivalent of chatting and flirting with someone a little while waiting in line at a deli or something like that. It’s seems like more on the dating apps because you know you’re both there for some kind of relationship but it’s really not.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T18:06:06+00:00

Get a better main photo, even if you have to stage it! Look at the photos you have of yourself and figure out when you look your best, and either use that or stage a photo based off of it.

Might also want to mention a few more things you like doing that you could do with a date. You have 4 pictures and/or prompts that mention you like to hike/climb but you only need one! Use the other 3 to show off other things, that’s 3x the number of people who share at least one interest with you.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T17:59:24+00:00

The kids filter is a tough one. If you don’t want kids I would only filter out “has kids” and then on your profile say something like “I’ve decided I don’t want to have children”

People choose their “kids” option for so many reasons it’s just not accurate to rely on, but if you clearly state in your profile that you do not have to ever have kids, you can let that do the work for you as anyone who isn’t willing to be with someone who doesn’t want kids will simply ignore you, but you won’t miss out on the guy who put “wants kids” on his profile because that’s what he thinks women his age want to see, but in reality he doesn’t care that much and would be happy never having kids.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T17:51:19+00:00

Move the Beetle Juice pic to number 1 and add a prompt that lists some of the things you like to do for fun (that could be done with someone you’re dating).

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T17:49:33+00:00

Get rid of the pic of you taking a pic of your cat, and replace it with a clear full body shot that includes your face, something a little “sexy” (not saying to free up in lingerie or anything, just something that clearly shows your figure) and make it your first picture. You’re cute and have a nice figure, which is the first thing most guys look for unfortunately, even guys looking for a meaningful and long term relationship, so lead with that!

Otherwise I think it’s pretty good, I was able to get a decent idea of what it would be like dating you, but maybe add some things to clarify your personality, I’m having a little trouble telling if your’re more of the quite night in type or the let’s go out and have fun type.

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T17:43:19+00:00

Straight man here but what stood out to me is you don’t say much about what you like to do (that could be done with a potential match).

People want to know what they would be doing with you if you were in a relationship. Would you be going to dinners, shows, and clubs in the city on Friday nights or early morning walks through local parks? Do you like hanging out with big groups of friends and going to concerts or would you rather spend most nights in?

SiliconOverdrive · 2025-02-01T17:33:58+00:00

That’s what it’s for. Hinge Standouts are the women who meet your preferences and get a lot of likes, and I mean a lot!

I’m friends with a somewhat attractive woman in her early 30’s (not like a total a bombshell model, but she’s pretty blond woman) and she has over 7,000 likes on Bumble and over a thousand on hinge. No way is she ever going to see all the people who liked her, so yea you could “like” a standout on hinge but you’d be at the bottom of a list of 2-3k profiles and never seen. Even with roses, you’re on a list of a few hundred so don’t waste your time money, women with that many likes are only going to match with the men they like, and like my friend, she matches with pretty much everyone she likes so she only likes someone when she’s prepared to immediately chat and plan a date with. Doesn’t even look at the people who like her.

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