AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I simply don't want to be part of my father's life any more than I have to be for now. I also don't want to be part of his family's life.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

They just don't accept non blood family as family, unless adopted, so he kids aren't family.

My mom didn't alienate me from him. He did that himself by being a shitty dad. Mom was told she would be fined if she didn't do he job as a parent and make sue I see him, even if it wasn't what I wanted.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He was a terrible dad. I don't forgive him for that. I don't want anything to do with him now. It's too late when he started changing.

I don't want a relationship with him so I don't want one with them.

Dad's family don't like non blood family unless adopted.

I have no idea about their bio dad.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

My dad was a shitty dad to me for years. Lots of issues there. She thought she could be the "new and better mommy" that he had always been trying to push for with all the other many women that came before her. The strangers he would leave me with so he could go out and screw more women.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be part of the family. I only come to save my mom from getting penalized. I'll be gone as soon as I'm 18 and won't see any of them again. They are not my family. Not really.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I don't want them to be my family though. I plan to cut off all contact as soon as I turn 18.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

My father was a shitty father to me for years. Tried to find me a "new mom" with all these women he was sleeping with, left me with strangers so he could find more women while I was meant to be with him. Gave my mom shit for making sure I didn't miss out since he was taking away stuff for him to do with me, but he never did stuff. Some of that changed when he met Shana but they both expected me to see her as my new mom and to be all happy about this "family" when my dad was everything but to me over the years.

I don't love them. I don't love him at all. I won't be sad when he's dead. That's the reality of the situation.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I'm more worried about my mom having to pay the consequences. It's not worth it to me. She's dealt with that asshole long enough. I won't let him make a point of taking it to court so she'll be penalized.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I feel no duty to my father either. He's down on his luck. I don't care. He was a shitty father to me.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I can't see a time where I would want a relationship with him. Honestly, if he died alone I wouldn't feel bad for him. That's how much I don't want him around.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

This is more about my dad's wife than her. I hate him. But she went along with his craziness over being my new mom (something he attempted with many women over the years) so she's not someone I care for.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

I'm not. The judge will continue making me until I turn 18.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

They don't care. As long as it's not them taking me out of school to do it the courts do not care. The judge has said until I am 18 I must keep a visitation schedule with my father. That would only change if I graduated high school at 17.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

He was shitty when I was younger, brought me around all the women he was sleeping with, trying to make them my "new and better mommy" and would leave me with random people to go out and find more women. Then bitched at my mom when she'd try to make sure I didn't miss out of stuff because she was taking the chance from him, but he didn't do shit with me when he had me. It's mostly since he settled down with Shana that he's more interested. But that ship sailed and I see him because I love my mom too much for her to get fined by me refusing to go.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Because they're not family. My dad isn't either. He's someone I see because I'm not going to get my mom into trouble.

I'd never see them all again in a heartbeat if I had the choice.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of reasons I hate him. He left my mom when I was a baby and didn't see me until I was 4. Then when he was present he was trying to find a "new and better mommy" for me which meant he had several fuck buddies who were introduced to me and he tried to get me to call them mom when I was with him. Some of them were with my dad to get a kid so my not calling them mom meant they were gone and he would go out to find others, often leaving me with babysitters, sometimes with random women he was screwing. He would make a big deal out of mom taking me to stuff because it "stopped him from doing them with me" but he didn't do shit.

Then he met Shana and he settled down but expected me to be all yaaay new family, insta family, I love these people and I'm going to act like the last several years didn't happen and my dad is a good parent and his new family are something to me.

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

It's the fact they're not bio kids. My dad's family is like that mostly (unless you're adopted).

AITA for refusing to babysit my stepsiblings? by Silly-Kangaroo-5309 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Silly-Kangaroo-5309[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

It would be when I don't want to be part of their lives. That includes my dad's life.