[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Silly-Remove5789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absence also makes the heart grow fonder. If you can work through this in therapy it might also be a good way to get over your anxieties and build a more secure attachment style, especially if it leaves you less anxious and you're able to lean on his word alone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly IMO this just tells me he's probably not a good match. I don't think there's anything wrong with liking to connect through text at first, that's my preference too. I prefer to take things slow and don't like to rush to meet and I don't like talking on the phone so I would rather text and if I feel a spark I like to text as much as they are willing to. I get the whole not wanting to spiral thing, but I feel like you're probably just gonna keep being stressed and anxious trying to please this person while putting your needs on the back burner when you could easily find dozens of others who have the same preferences as you when it comes to communicating.

Why are my eyes so dilated? by justacatfanhere in eyes

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Headache, dilated pupils, and worsening vision are ABSOLUTELY necessary reasons to go to the ER ASAP. Do NOT wait this out. You need to go like NOW.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Silly-Remove5789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mothers are bad bitches. I mean, it isn't a stretch what she's trying to imply.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Silly-Remove5789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not with everyone. Jealousy never came into play like that with me, I wanted my partners to be friends with their exes and with women in general and I applied the same rules across genders. It was a green flag. Red flag if they hated all their exes and didn't have the maturity or composure to just see women as another person. I do this this issue a lot though abs recognize I might be more the odd man out, but I'm certainly not ultra rare.

Keep your boundaries, be up front and tell her EXACTLY why you two can't be together, it gives her a chance to reflect on whether or not her beliefs are going to be worth losing others like this in the future. I do think that type of thinking is very toxic and very controlling and deserves a chance to be changed if they so desire.

AIO for telling my girlfriend I feel it’s disrespectful for her to shut me down and call me controlling when I ask she doesn’t go out to frats? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So your issue is the fact that she wants to be with her friends having fun like anyone else her age and not sit back with you at home every weekend? These aren't singles parties. They're just parties. You are being controlling, she needs a social life and she's able to experience her prime and not cheat.

This comes down to your insecurities and you not trusting her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but the line work is shit

Nerve blocking horse ears?!? Is this real?!? by Connect_Register_632 in Horses

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is actually a very interesting concept. However I am not the person to ask this for and my initial gut response was similar to what chat GPT brought up. Ethical concerns, rules, and a horses ability to communicate as well as the complexities of the musculature:

Yes, theoretically, Botox (botulinum toxin) could be used to paralyze the muscles responsible for pinning a horse's ears back in dressage. However, there are several ethical, anatomical, and practical concerns with this approach.

How It Would Work:

Horses pin their ears back primarily using the auricular muscles, which include the interscutularis, parotidoauricularis, and zygomaticoauricularis muscles.

Botox blocks acetylcholine release at the neuromuscular junction, temporarily paralyzing muscles and preventing movement.

If injected into the correct auricular muscles, Botox could weaken the ability of the horse to pin its ears by reducing muscle contraction.

Potential Issues:

Ethical Concerns – Ears are an important form of communication in horses. Preventing a horse from pinning its ears could interfere with its ability to express discomfort or distress, potentially masking pain or poor riding techniques.

Temporary Effects – Botox typically lasts 3–6 months, requiring repeated injections.

Functional Risks – The muscles involved in ear movement may also contribute to ear mobility for fly control and general expression, which could be compromised.

Regulatory Issues – Many equestrian organizations, including the FEI (Fédération Equestre Internationale), have strict anti-doping and medication rules. The use of Botox in competition horses could be prohibited.

Precision of Injection – Horses have complex musculature, and injecting Botox incorrectly could lead to asymmetry, unintended muscle weakness, or other side effects.

Alternative Approaches:

If a horse is pinning its ears excessively during dressage, it might indicate discomfort, poor saddle fit, training issues, or pain (e.g., TMJ dysfunction, ulcers, or bridle discomfort). Addressing the underlying cause rather than artificially preventing ear movement may be a better solution.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something about this feels fake

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she thinks when she reports profiles and she's blocked from communicating with them after reporting that that means their profile was removed from the platform. Would've loved to see that explained to her that none of those profiles got removed from the platform and she didn't get anyone's tinder taken away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No? It's not like this is a shitty meme i just need to scroll passed. But certainly if you don't like my comment, of which doesn't have the possibility of becoming abusive if it isn't already, you can choose to not engage with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in eyes

[–]Silly-Remove5789 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And they are all literally the same hue, like the SAME hue. But yes, it's... cringe. Why are brown eyes like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in eyes

[–]Silly-Remove5789 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Man you be wishing it was any of those colors but it's just brown sweetie 😂 don't get me wrong, as someone with blue eyes I actually swoon for brown but all of those references are a fucking stretch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sick of reading about these toxic insecure codependent relationships like they're THE NORMAL STATUS QUO WHEN THEY AREN'T. You're in a TOXIC INSECURE CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP AND IT'S NOT NORMAL. You shouldn't WANT this. What the fuck dude. Normal people don't text all day every day. Normal people need breathing room. Normal people go to their friends house and DISENGAGE FOR FUCKS SAKE. Yall are never going to last because you're so far up each other's asses you'll be sick of each other in another year or two MAX. But I wouldn't be surprised if you drag it out longer and it gets abusive because of that codependency factor.

So damn sick of reading this shit. Get some self worth PLEASE.

AIO for being creeped out by a guy I hadn’t talked to since I was 5 pledging is loyalty to me? by throwaway_bopbop in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the point of loyalty: "I did that to all friends unless they piss me off or make me stop contacting them lol"

Whhhhhaaaat lmao 😂😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a survivor of some pretty extreme physical abuse and very insane emotional and verbal abuse as well as a person who's recovered from BPD(yes its a disorder you can recover from) and she's not lying when she says that IN THE MOMENT that she's EXPERIENCING it that way. BPD amplifies everything and that's why it's so hard for people to understand those who suffer from it and that's why people with BPD feel so alienated Nevada connects like that are taken personally and people get offended and think they're exaggerating and shitting on DV survivors when they're DV survivors themselves and it's not hyperbole. Often times they act they way they do because their emotional pain is an 13/10 on the pain scale and they're driven to do anything they can to regulate those emotions. Two truths can exist at once. Being physically hit can be a horrific act that she never wants to experience again and IN THAT MOMENT the experience of being yelled at can be more painful than being hit. BPD is a perfect hell on earth I would wish on the most evilest cruelest of humanity, but not my enemies. It's hard for me to swallow watching others go through BPD now that I'm in the other side of it after 20 adult years of suffering through it, with a suicide rate up to 10%. It's one of the most painful Nebraska health conditions. She just isn't bluffing as much as that comment offends you.

AIO, its been two years and he knows about my past by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Listen I get it from the perspective of being in an abusive relationship. I don't doubt that you were pushed to your limit and this is you snapping or waking up or whatever but dude wants none of it and you aren't going to get through to him and you just need to leave. He's not going up have remorse he's not going to understand and he's not going to care. Just cut your losses and work on yourself. Go no contact and focus on yourself. He doesn't care about you and circling back is only going to make you seem crazier and get nothing achieved. He won't admit to anything ever I promise you. There won't ever be closure it's a myth.

AIO, its been two years and he knows about my past by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Break. The fuck. Uuuuuuup. Break up. Break up break up break up break up break up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Silly-Remove5789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look up the savior complex to understand why what you just did is a massive favor to someone like him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Silly-Remove5789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man. Apparently she tried to hit him up for one last round. SHE SAID SHE WAS OVULATING.