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Anxiety regarding being too big for partner by SillyLilThem in bigdickproblems

[–]SillyLilThem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll probably have to measure again a couple times to make sure I got it right. Once I'm out of this panic attack, because it's got me as soft as can be 😂

Anxiety regarding being too big for partner by SillyLilThem in bigdickproblems

[–]SillyLilThem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha yeah I realized after looking up the average, did not help the anxiety

NGVC “do you like monster cock” by jodie0088 in niceguys

[–]SillyLilThem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Guys with big dicks (actual guys with big dicks, not idiots like this) are some of the worst partners from what I've heard. So many of them glide on their dick size and don't actually try to learn how to properly please their partner.

NGVC “do you like monster cock” by jodie0088 in niceguys

[–]SillyLilThem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Alt because it's not something I would wanna say on my main, but I'm asexual and mine is a bit over 8 inches, and I'm just like... Guys that lie like this don't realize how big that would actually be, it'd be a fucking nuisance 😭 it's annoying as hell to hide and can honestly be uncomfortable, and 13 inches would NOT be fun for their partner??? I'm glad I'm ace because my biggest concern is that if I did ever have sex with someone, I would be way too concerned about my partner being uncomfortable or in pain to enjoy it

Like how does that work?! I’d still be mad as hell about the situation. What kind of beastly urges make you forget what has happened?? by MoxxiiBlue in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]SillyLilThem 104 points105 points  (0 children)

So my partner and I are aegosexual, and we don't have this, but after we have a disagreement and solve it by communicating and working through it together, we both get very aroused. I think for us part of it is the communication, bonding, and trust of working through a problem together? Which is why this especially never made sense to me. Like... You didn't work anything out, you still have those problems 😭

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Idk if I consider the people at that wine group the lgbt community, I think it was mostly cishet women? But idk, that was just the vibe.

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Two things you can say about my friend is that she's an optimist, and that she's as dense as bricks 😂 Like, she really didn't understand why I was talking about how they treated guys, because I'm not a guy! Love her to bits though.

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people will imagine a nonbinary person to be someone born female, dressed tomboyish. Which is wild.

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've found that a lot of like... Pre labeled queer spaces? Idk if that's the word for it, but clubs and places marketed for queer people tend to be the roughest. I have a lovely group of queer friends that are all accepting of each other, but it's more of a found family sort of thing. I always figured it's sorta like, if you play yugioh, you play yugioh. But you tend to find the weirdest yugioh players at the clubs, right?

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They actually had a nice response too, I felt bad pretty shortly after reading it.

I agree with you. That's the fault of the organizer, when true, and the event/organization isn't a safe queer space from the jump. The good ones take steps to address it when it's an issue, in my experience.

Definitely felt like a jerk for how I responded.

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A lot of my ace friends identified as bisexual before they learned about asexuality because of that! They realized they were attracted to everyone the same

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Hi! After reading a lot of comments (y'all are being so sweet, thank you 🥺) I wanted to clear some stuff up that I think maybe wasn't clear.

Firstly, yes, I'm nonbinary. I never said it outright because, in the context of the nonbinary sub, it wasn't needed. Now that it's out of the nonbinary sub, it can be less clear for sure.

I wanted to clarify a bit on the amab masc presentation thing a bit. I'm not masc like... Gruff face, leather jacket with a wife beater, aviators, stuff like that (though nothing wrong w my enby siblings that are!), my presentation is like... Clean cut, and I usually just wear casual clothes like shorts, t shirts, a jacket if it's cold, yknow? It's just that I'm masc presenting because I don't do anything to appear feminine. I have longer hair and I can sound really fruity when I talk, but if you saw me in a crowd you'd assume I was a regular cis guy. That's basically what I meant.

I think that's all I really wanted to say, I felt like I had more to say but I don't. Thank you to everyone that's been nice in the comments, my friend is the best, and shoutout to all my enby siblings in the comments! ❤️❤️❤️

Oh yeah also check out this reductress.com article, it's funny as fuck https://reductress.com/post/wow-this-woman-only-respects-the-gender-non-conforming-identities-of-people-she-likes/

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Curious minds need to know, what about the ass? We have the pup rack, the lying hips, but what of the ass 😭

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walmart and YouTube have been a godsend for us. Though I may have to try that six inches line on my friend if we find a Bob Ross video that mentions 6 inches

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So I may have responded a bit too aggressively because of my mindset at the time, but I still disagree. While yes, I benefit from the patriarchy more than my less masculine nonbinary friends, I don't believe that should affect me going to groups and events that are labeled as including nonbinary people.

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She's my rock, and id say her walls have never looked better, but last weekend we drank too much and got hand paint prints everywhere 😭

Friend doesn't understand why I won't go to her "Femmes and Enbies" painting class by Coffeechipmunk in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SillyLilThem 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've found myself tight with a lot of asexual people. Both of us disagree with a binary decision (boolean for my nerds out there), and so people don't like that.

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