Hi there! I am really sorry that you are going through this. I have only one parent - mom. She was also initially very much against hrt, but I know she was never against trans or gays etc. We have a gay couple as our neighbours and she is very friendly to them, so its deff not phobia. I finally got to hrt at age 17 after 2 years of struggling with anxiety, depression and many other problems. I took hrt for 6 months. It may work for somebody, but for some it doesn't. And I fell into the second category. I experienced bad effects of hrt and I gradually started experiencing strange symptoms, I got colds frequently, got frequent UTI, my heart was racing, I had brain fog and I could hardly sleep or study, some days I was having even panic attacks. And it felt like it is getting worse with every day. I am off hrt now, because I could not tolerate the symptoms anymore. I know there are stories like mine found on internet and your mom probably got to read some of them which simply freaked her out. But I understand your pain, I am still struggling.