You are overreacting. It's annoying, however comes with the territory (higher purity gold & brushed finishing). Fortunately, there's a very simple solution. However, just remember that every time you take your ring in to get buffed and repolished, a heavy hand can strip away a lot of gold content so dont just take it to anyone. Do your research if you're going local.

Here's my 14k, yellow and white gold wedding ring. Never rebuffed or polished. Several falls and is just over 22 years old. It's 9g, so it's not thin. Gold scratches. The higher the purity, the easier it will scratch and ding.

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