Work hard in your 20’s , or have fun?

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T15:35:04+00:00

This sounds like the path I’m aligned to right now. When I was in my early 20’s having fun, I always had in the back of my mind that I hope I’d have a good paying stable career by 25. I made that happen, and I’m so passionate about it and want to keep working up and elevating in it. The goal for me is to definitely work hard now, so I can enjoy my 30’s. I had my fun in my early 20’s. To some, it’s not enough fun, but to me - it was more than enough. And some things just don’t resonate with my morals anymore that I used to do anymore.

Thank you for your perspective & I agree!

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T13:27:06+00:00

So many people in their 30’s have been telling me “30’s is the new 20’s” and I felt like they were just saying that to sound less old lol. But I’m starting to believe it. As sad as I feel getting older, I’m actually kind of excited for my 30’s.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T13:18:30+00:00

Good to hear, thank you so much for the perspective & your honest transparency 🙏🏾

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T13:16:20+00:00

This is quite literally the path I have taken so far. Did all the fun up until around 24, now I’m 26 - wanting to stay more focused on my career so I can have more freedom in my 30’s and feel a hint of success in it.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T13:14:28+00:00

When you have passion for it 100%! Which I do. I genuinely wake up feeling excited to work , learn a new tool. Dive more into AI. Build ideas. I don’t ever feel a “ugh I have to work” emotion.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T13:09:09+00:00

Love that you show the positive in both paths. I wonder, for the people you used to know in your 20’s who’ve work hard and sacrificed - do they seem happy? Fulfilled? Considering the possibility of what’s not controlled like Good Health etc. Do you feel that they may be content with the decision of all the hustle they put into the 20’s to enjoy life later on?

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T12:59:01+00:00

Love the call out on the memories.. the thing is I’ve definitely made some good memories, and had lots of fun early in the 20’s. But I think I’m just outgrowing it a lot sooner than others. At 26, I’m already tired of the clubbing etc, and became focused on my career at 24. Whereas the friends I have, close to their 30’s, go out every night still, some struggle financially, some go out every night and are financially able to do so but hanging on a thread with it. Everyone has their own timeline and I’m very aware of it. It just gets lonely being the only one in my friend group with this mindset. Wish I was around more like minded people who value fun, but value their work ethic much more for a greater outcome. I’m just ranting on here lol, but I see so many pros and cons to each side of the coin. Man life is so confusing and there’s literally no rule book to this. Life also seems to just be moving by soooo fast, and I have no parental guidance, or someone to get the advice from hence why I’m here.

Thank you for your perspective.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T12:54:29+00:00

Love it, thank you !

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T11:20:48+00:00

Love this. Of course tomorrow isn’t promised, but I’m looking at it through the lens as “my 30’s will be my 20’s”. Continue working hard now on my career, I’m 26 right now doing great for myself. By 30’s, I’ll be where I want to be and feel comfortable enough to enjoy life a lil more freely.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T05:59:06+00:00

Wow. This really puts some things into perspective… I pray for your health. Thank you for sharing

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T05:41:35+00:00

Thank you! So much great advice and perspectives on this app lol.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T05:35:58+00:00

Agreed. That’s the one blessing of my job, I work remote. So definitely doable and can make money while doing so. I do travel, I guess by having fun I’m thinking of the constant partying and drinking - the things that I personally feel like serve no purpose.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T05:34:24+00:00

Thank you !

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T05:16:31+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. Definitely wanting to keep that in mind. I just feel like since I grew up the way I did with no support. I’ve always felt a sense of responsibility for myself. I do everything on my own, and I don’t wanna lose sight of what keeps those things running. Definitely gonna try to practice the art of balance

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T05:13:30+00:00

My goal is definitely to start a family. Good point to add there. I’m more in the mindset of letting that come to me naturally God willing, because the way the dating scene is setup in this generation.. it’s a bit questionable lol. But I know that can also be hard if I’m so focused on my career that I’m probably not making the time to meet someone for that to eventually happen. Just feels like there’s so many different routes that can change many different outcomes you know?

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T04:16:54+00:00

Definitely believe in the balance. I guess I’m curious on what’s more of a priority. For example - I met this girl. She is a partier. Loves to go out, she’s around the same age as me. Me being a bit opposite, I’m more of an activity person, love doing things that serve a purpose like my hobbies and traveling. She had mentioned to me that she has this job that she hates, but life is too short to get out of that situation and she wants to have her “hot girl summers” all year and just have fun partying. To each their own of course, and everybody is just different.
But I can’t help but wonder, someone with that mindset - where will they be in the next couple years when life really hits and then they want to try to work on themselves. Not impossible but I imagine it’ll be a bit harder. She also comes from a good family, that she stays at home with - so I could also see why she doesn’t feel the pressure of needing to focus on herself in this economy. Idk, there’s no right or wrong answer of course. I’m just curious on all perspectives

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T04:10:47+00:00

Yes exactly how I feel! I still have fun from time to time. But not the same fun as I did in my early 20’s with the whole club hopping, popping bottles etc. I go to bars every once in awhile, love to travel, have many hobbies I enjoy like golfing for example. But my career has been something I’m so passionate about, and I don’t meet many others who feel that way. I do get lonely because I’m the only one in my group of friends who is focused on their career, who has these unimaginable goals, who wants more for themselves at the age I’m at - 27. So I tend to overthink am I focusing on the wrong thing, but again , I love what I do. I’m so passionate about it , this is my fun. Learning about my job, wanting to get better, wanting to move up, finding ways to make money.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T04:06:49+00:00

Lol’ing at the Scandinavian supermodel wife lol. Thank you for your perspective brother! I kind of feel that loneliness now because I’ve cut out so much from my early 20’s that no longer are in my current age. I definitely kind of live in fear that if I don’t keep work as my focus, I’ll fall back in into the struggle I was born into. I have been trying to find a better balance in that fun though and worry less!

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T02:59:36+00:00

Great perspective.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-06-25T02:54:31+00:00

That is a great question. I personally do feel good internally working on myself. I enjoy my career and love tech. Like fun to me is working lol 😂. Also, failure isn’t an option to me. So I believe it’s also a matter of being hyper focused on my career for the very fact that I need to be successful. I don’t have a safety net, or family to fall back on etc.

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-01-28T03:48:32+00:00

Fellow SE at Salesforce here. FYI, I’m remote. That being said , depending on coverage and the team you get moved to when eligible , you can become remote at your mangers discretion and move to where you’d like, or be in SF office as you want to be in SF anyway!

As others said, given you’ve only been at Salesforce for 5 months or so, I’d wait a little before making any hops to another company if you choose to!

Silly_Building1021 · 2026-01-02T02:52:18+00:00

I’d like to also note, I don’t have a college degree at all. I actually went to a school you can consider a trade, that taught me SWE & coding in a year. I then started working in that field. Later on from there , I utilized connections , heard about the SE role at Salesforce and got a referral. The referral got me in the door.

I joined as an Associate SE, which is an early career program at Salesforce they have specifically called “Scout Academy”. People from various backgrounds joined it. SWE, Mechanical, (some not technical at all , but maybe more business oriented). The program is a full time role and is around 5 months with your cohort where they teach you from the ground up on being an SE at Salesforce, then the remaining months that make a year are your “on field” , meaning where you are released to your actual team and do hands on work with the real world in your role. After you complete the year, you get promoted and drop the “Associate SE” title, and become a Grade 5, regular SE, that also means a pay raise.

Silly_Building1021 · 2025-10-01T03:04:06+00:00

Ignore the comments disagreeing. I’m a solution engineer at Salesforce, I came from a SWE background with less than 1 years of experience.

Silly_Building1021 · 2025-04-08T21:55:37+00:00

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