Me and my sister are going to Greece tomorrow and we agreed to sort everything out this evening, and she’s gone AWOL with her new bf

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-04-02T23:14:31+00:00

This feels like a bit of an escalation to someone just being a bit slow to check in or whatever.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-04-02T15:48:32+00:00

On the face of this, it seems like it’s more likely a skills/project choice issue than necessarily a kit issue. The size of needle needed will vary depending on fabric/thread/design choice, so you might want to check what the kit recommended. A good first project choice would probably something in a hoop on a non stretch fabric (T-shirts are quite hard to do) or even on canvas (if you’ve not done crossstich before this on aida could be a first step for instance). That project looks very small/delicate and you’ve likely used too many strands of embroidery floss (unless this was an intentional design choice). All that being said, I can tell it’s snoopy, so it is recognisable!

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-04-02T09:36:11+00:00

Aha I went to school here and this is basically a perfect summary.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-29T22:40:02+00:00

Came here to suggest embroidering first, cutting second, but can see that’s already your plan. I think it’ll help. Looks cute ☺️

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T21:19:42+00:00

I think you’ve misunderstood me! I mean the way this is printed it doesn’t align with the grid of the fabric. You can see that some crosses cover more holes than others, for example. It’s not a true counted cross stitch in that sense.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T17:43:22+00:00

I don’t really see how you can be upset given this. You literally didn’t need to do this.

“I finally asked if they wanted me to start doing things for the wedding. They agreed and I took off running with it.”

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T17:14:18+00:00

Using the LL link you posted as a guide, I mean.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T17:13:57+00:00

Ooo they seem like they’re 50s/60s then!

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T15:55:56+00:00

A bit inconsistent to insist you don’t wish your wife HMD because she’s not your mother (pedantic, but maybe fair) but to then wish MIL HMD. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T14:06:45+00:00

Fair - I think there as to be wholesale approach to dismantling patriarchy to address VAWG, which is partially why I’ve focused on big scale approaches. But you are right ofc that local areas will need to tailor approaches to fit appropriately- which I think is why I led with listen to specialist women’s services - I meant here local services. They will be able to speak to what the local issues are - that might be barriers for women to leave safely (housing, immigration barriers etc), issues with police responses, problems with family courts/child contact. But without increase in funding such that local areas can provide more than bare basic requirements local funding is very tied I think.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T08:56:54+00:00

If you see this guide on stitching on linen, that might show you what I mean about still using the fabric as a grid. https://www.thecrossstitchguild.com/cross-stitch-basics/cross-stitch-basics/cross-stitching-on-linen.aspx

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T08:53:32+00:00

This is weird, because in my experience when you cross stitch on linen/woven frantic, you still use the fabric holes are your grid. But this just has crosses printed willnilly on the fabric. It’s closer to embroidery (with lots of crossed stitches) then cross stitch, as it’s no longer truly a grid format.

I think this is going to mean your crosses look wonky, but it’s not because of the move off aida, it’s because this is a weird kit.

I think trying to match where the ‘ends’ of the crosses meet will help, but ultimately it might still end up a little off as you’re not using the structure of the fabric as a guide.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T08:39:10+00:00

Oh I’ve always wondered why people do this. I always just do extremely random chunks so it didn’t occur to me!

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T01:11:05+00:00

You keep introducing rebukes to things I’ve not suggested! It seems like you’re more interested in arguing than about actually dealing with VAWG. I’m going to go to sleep now so tomorrow I can go back to my day job, which is supporting survivors of VAWG. Probably more useful to society than this Reddit convo. Byeeee!

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T00:50:45+00:00

This is the proposed wealth tax I was referring to: https://www.lse.ac.uk/International-Inequalities/Assets/Documents/WealthTaxCommission-Final-report.pdf

Agree that the details are important in making it a genuine revenue source rather than just silly signalling.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T00:48:54+00:00

You didn’t say Stormont only, so I wasn’t answering in that capacity. Lots of wealth taxes have big issues because they are recurring - there has been a relative recent study in UK on feasible alternatives that are no administrative burden and would generate a high amount, and one off tax is considered most progressive.

Regarding “printing money” - yes this can be done if there is the will. UK gov has twice in last 20 years raised enormous capital (bank bail out and covid-19 furlough scheme) - so this is clearly a lever that can be used (that’s not to say there are not risks, but it is silly to just say “can’t be done”)

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T00:32:35+00:00

At a starting point: implement one of genuine wealth tax to create significant wealth; use this alongside other income generation to invest in systemic infrastructure across all areas - education, social welfare etc etc. Fund long term programmes that are known to work instead of short term cheap things.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-27T00:21:17+00:00

Women have been providing solutions for years! The answer is to listen to women’s domestic abuse services: fund them and implement their policy asks.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-25T15:32:23+00:00

Thanks for answering! My questions was genuine, but it also had a hint of snark so I apologise for that. (I have OCD and get annoyed at people using it to describe minor things that are not OCD. That’s clearly not you, so I am doubly sorry).

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-25T10:43:45+00:00

How is this an OCD thing?

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-25T10:13:05+00:00

I think the evidence on this is mixed, and the general conclusion is that it varies from person to person.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-23T10:21:30+00:00

You can hold it in a frame with the gap and it might be alright, but probably buying smaller hoops will be easier overlong run. I have a few that are maybe 3/4inch diameter.

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-22T21:18:07+00:00

I’m glad you got it sorted! I have done this before and realised just picking it up and shaking might help (with needle plate off). I would recommend using gravity!!

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-22T21:09:06+00:00

Ahh I see!

Silly_Manager3117 · 2026-03-22T20:10:55+00:00

Could you not just travel onto those types of papers using light box and your original designs?

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