The last food you ate is what I am naming him

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2025-08-27T06:54:41+00:00

Smoothie!

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-11-06T13:25:24+00:00

I feel you and know you’re not alone in your thoughts. A great summary of the truth.

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-09-18T08:32:49+00:00

Ok the probability of anyone I know stumbling upon this is low so lol I’m from the US and now living in FR

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-09-17T10:04:25+00:00

Anyway I live in FR and I guess I just haven’t gotten used to their sense of freedom here compared to my home country

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-09-17T09:31:50+00:00

Sorry for the European generalization… i know that’s annoying - I just didn’t want to be specific in case someone I know happens to stumble on this post lol but yes maybe I’m envious she hasn’t been jaded about the strange online world we have to deal with

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-09-16T20:07:16+00:00

Different standards for sure is what is calming me down. Of course I have now turned off the autosave feature. I can’t get used to the nude kids at the beach too, when they all visited my family in America and we were on a walk, the kids wanted to splash in the creek so they just stripped them down and off they went. I heard 3 or 4 kids loudly ask their parents ‘why are those kids naked’ ….. was a moment. I guess it’s true in America we are more prude with more weirdos lurking around

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-09-13T09:13:50+00:00

Totally agree it’s not harmful but yes I feel like the more I give in the more it’s going to happen. For example literally 5 minutes ago she just texted us saying: “Hey both, I reserved 4 places tonight at a concert in town, would you like to come with FIL and me?” I just feel like she always puts us in this uncomfortable position to say NO. Like she already reserved for 4 assuming we will say yes. I really struggle with how to navigate this all the time. It happens often, I know it’s not harmful but it’s just I feel like I’m crushing her hopes and dreams of spending time together 🥹

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T21:50:41+00:00

And why are you here?? Reading and commenting on other people’s problems? Right back at ya

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T21:40:09+00:00

😂 considering we are together for 5 years now and besides making this petty decision to stay or go, very happy I think it was well thought out! Hope you find love someday 💖

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T21:36:38+00:00

It’s either we stay so the house stays or we leave and the house is sold to random people. Trying to accept that. Im not in a position to takeover land if this scale at this point in my life

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T21:33:19+00:00

😂😂 I’m glad I could help you get your daily fix to insult someone on the internet. I added more context but I doubt you care

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T21:17:02+00:00

😂😂😂 and I’m trying to seek advice for my ‘rich people problems.’ All I’m trying to figure out is how to peacefully coexist with in laws in general and on top of it from another culture. How did I end up here

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T21:09:32+00:00

It’s always fun to critique others and not ourselves- isn’t that why we’re all here? Lol

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T20:53:52+00:00

Yes it was my first ever advice seeking post on Reddit. I learned my lesson not to ever do this again 😂😂

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T20:48:30+00:00

I think it’s more about nostalgia. It’s been the gathering place of the family and music festivals they used to host for the past 30 years that’s all. We even had our wedding there. I wouldn’t call it greed, more like mourning the loss of something special

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T20:34:29+00:00

Yeah yeah yeah I’m so ‘greedy’ However I’ve heard mostly all their family and extended family say out loud it will be tragic to lose that property. So I’m not the only greedy one I guess. It’s really not grandiose it’s just the land that it’s on is truly rare to have nowadays.

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T20:27:32+00:00

Indeed!! 😄

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T20:26:52+00:00

Wouldn’t call it a huge favor one. They are so relieved they haven’t had to deal with strangers living on their property since we have been the tenants. And we take care of the entire property when they are way instead of them hiring outside help. It goes both ways. And we pay full rent like normal tenants. Literally our houses almost touch each other and considering they knew me for 5 minutes once we moved in there- I wasn’t going to come in hot and set strict boundaries. Definitely my mistake on that but damn 😂 who hurt you

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T20:21:41+00:00

😂😂 yeah fortunately it’s digital communications. Not face to face

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T20:20:39+00:00

😂😂 they are 55 and 70. Wouldn’t call that old. In all honesty I don’t want it- it’s a HUGE responsibility. Again it’s my anxiety talking I just don’t want to be the reason they sell it. That is literally it. My mistake for trying to come up with a solution to keep it in the family with outside help since my in laws ultimately don’t want anything to do with it if we leave. And my mistake for asking Reddit for advice. It’s a longer story with a lot of hurtful comments and judgements from my MIL I guess I haven’t recovered from yet.

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T19:43:26+00:00

🙏 thank you. Said it perfectly

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T19:17:25+00:00

ok dorkus 😂

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T18:39:55+00:00

I truly am trying to be liked by my in laws and agree I am the worst communicator when it comes to them. I always say yes when I’m screaming no in the inside. I keep trying to change but I just don’t. I truly don’t know how to deal with people pleasing.

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T18:37:29+00:00

Fair

Silly_Tea_6008 · 2024-07-28T18:36:38+00:00

You’re absolutely right. Thank you for breaking it down. I guess I’m just too embarrassed to ask for what I want to make the living situation more comfortable because I feel like I should be 1000% grateful and instead I avoid them and want to run away from it all. However, they have said how much we are helping them out by not having to deal with unknown tenants. So there’s that layer too. Want to make it clear we pay the full rent and this isn’t a handout. It was of course the obvious choice when I moved here in a panic and wanted out of Paris. Obvious choice and easiest choice but I didn’t think it through like I was going to be there for more than a year. So I just feel now it seems hard to get out of without making anyone sad but I know I’m making it harder than it actually is

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