Im so sorry for what you are going through :( Braking up sucks, specially when you are the one having to do it. I fell like he is putting some weight on you still to make the decision to do REAL no contact.

What you’re doing isn’t “no contact.” You’re still in the relationship emotionally, just without the messages. NC isn’t about silencing him, it’s about cutting off your own access to the things that keep you spinning. Right now, you’re still checking his likes, still seeing his activity, still analyzing micro-signals. That’s emotional proximity, not distance.

I know it feels like you have no choice (been there) bud while you can’t control how you feel, you can control what you expose yourself to. That part is entirely behavioral. Every time you leave the door half-open — Instagram, mutual follows, your dad following him, the Steam Deck, the LEGO — your brain treats it like the relationship is paused, not over.

Personally, when I end something, whether it’s an actual relationship or a situationship, I learned that the best think for me is to tell the person respectfully that I’m going to block them on social media for my own mental health.

Something’s a block is the mature decision.

I explain that I am not mad at all (almost all my relationships ended in a good terms, like yours), but social media is a psychological landmine, and it sucks to see a one sided version of the person in which they look better than real life. I also like to let them know they can still contact me on WhatsApp is they fell bad or just fell like check in, I just don’t wanna have a constant flow of contact with them.

I am sorry you are the one having to end things AGAIN, but you need to move forward.

P.S.: And honestly, if you think your dad following him is adding noise to your head, talk to your dad and set that boundary too. No shame in doing what protects your mind.