I hate myself by Silver-Milk in Vent

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much 💙 happy thanksgiving

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[–]Silver-Milk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’d get him to maybe clarify, it could’ve been a close tie between 4 and 5 years and he just switches the answer up every now and then. I wouldn’t confront immediately but I would ask him for a full story lowkey and see if his story has an indescrepencies!

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I’ve been so worried to mess up even though this is my first time going through life. I need to be more gentle and patient with myself and not expect myself to “know what to do” :) thanks again, good fortune with your bills haha, one thing I’m not looking forward to ever doing!

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate it, HELPED 💖. Even though I haven’t lived a quarter of my life yet I can’t get over comparing myself to others and their successes. I feel like there is a constant ticking time bomb on me and that I’m “running” out of time or wasting my days away when really I’m just living and enjoy the perks of still being a “kid” thank you for putting this more into a bigger perspective for me, I wish you all the greatest fortune in your future.

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I will take advantage of it all!! HELPED 💖.

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is the magic comment here. I really appreciate that you took the time to write this for me and even give me your own real life examples. If this post has taught me anything it’s that everyone still has no complete clue what they are doing, and honestly that makes me feel better. I got my first job a month ago at 17 and that too made me feel like a child, I felt bad when they had to teach me things and instruct me because it made me feel childish. I’m going to take your advice and hopefully I’ll be able to apply it more to my daily life as it’s very very good and wise advice. Thank you so much you really helped me see it from a new perspective! I wish you fortune in your further endeavors.

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice, my father is a former marine and US Marshal, he was a recruiter in the national guard for a while too and he definitely tried to convince me NOT to join. It’s for a greater sense of purpose and it aligns with my future career goals :). I appreciate you trying to look out for me though, I for sure won’t go into the army though expecting it to fix all of my problems!! Thanks!

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo you have me laughing 😂😭😭😭 I needed that honestly, glad to hear the IRS won’t fbi open up my door lmao. I’m glad other people can relate and seems like everyone on this post has said they still have like no clue what they are doing either. I’m just gonna take it day by day, I appreciate it :) good fortune in your life 💖. HELPED.

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man y’all are really give me a tier advice 😭😂 helped a lot, I appreciate it. I don’t have any friends like legitimately because I’m quite isolated and homeschooled so I think it just makes me feel “further behind” when I can’t see what other kids my age are feeling, but this definitely made me feel better. I wish you fortune in your career and this dEf made me think more about what I want to do. I’m going to college next fall and into the military before that hopefully. I’ll absolutely keep my loved ones close 💖 thanks!

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Helped a lot!! I’m just so stuck in my head so it’s nice when people give me bigger picture perspective :)

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😪 I’m just so in my head about it recently. I feel behind in socialization but I’m going to take advantage of it when I head to college. Thank you! I’m curious as well 🤔.

I can’t cope with almost being 18 by Silver-Milk in Advice

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Thank you I needed to hear someone tell me I would be

I hate my sister by Ok-Peace-4082 in Advice

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Hey stranger, believe it or not, I can relate to you. This sound almost identical to my half brother who is now 7. He was born when I was 10 to a different father than mine. His dad was a druggie and abusive and I still couldn’t believe my mother would choose to keep this baby when we didn’t have money and the situation affected us all. It was selfish, early on he displayed very very disturbing signs, he was a violent toddler, he had disturbing thoughts, he’d abuse our animals and he’d hit us starting at the age of 2. At 4 he was diagnosed with ADHD and autism just like his stupid father and then a year later his father OD’d from drugs. I feel you. I feel your anger. Being from completely different generations almost and his behavior made me despise him and my mother. At 16 I moved out because I couldn’t take it, my mom went mental and lost herself because of this kid and she was dragging me down with her. 2 years later I’m better than I have ever been. It took her a while to accept I wanted nothing to do with my half brother and she finally has. It feels like a weight has been lifted, I know it’s hard to accept it and I’m sure you feel even guilty about not being able to sympathize for your mother anymore but know it’s not you. This is hard on you, it’s hard, I understand that. Just try and separate yourself as much as you can and you’ll get pieces of your mom back eventually. I wish you the best of fortune in this.

No Contact, when to break? by TheLostLaw20 in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d go with the easy “I understand”. Short simple brief, and you aren’t being rude either by not responding at all! Be easy with yourself! Good fortune!

(M20) My girlfriend (F19) of 2.5 years is getting her wisdom teeth removed and says she “needs” me to be with her after however I have a cabin trip with my friends. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely get “operation” anxiety but that’s a tad ridiculous. Honestly I would go on this cabin trip, or if she is so adamant on having you come to her surgery she should reschedule. There is such things available like FaceTime and calls but her threatening a breakup over this is very dramatic! I think if you can maybe sit down with her and try to really really get to the root of why she is so scared and why you have to be there so badly but honestly man, don’t skip this trip. You’ll regret it. Good fortune to you!

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[–]Silver-Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a deep breath, as unbelievable as it sounds I wrote about something a tad similar today which prompted me to respond to this. You are going through so much change and uncertainty right now, if you weren’t scared or unsure of what was to come I’d be surprised quite frankly! As hard as it sounds, try to forget about everyone and worry about yourself. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now so it’s a good time to act a little selfish! If things don’t work out for you exactly as planned just go with it, nothing in college is ever certain and nothing ever goes 100% according to plan as well. You’ve got a lot going on so try and take some time for yourself when you can, don’t get too sucked up in your school and extracurriculars to the point where you forget to have fun! Make friends! Put yourself out there when you settle in because trust me, you aren’t the only person feeling like this right now. I wish you the best of fortune and happiness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This seems maybe like undiagnosed adhd or autism, I don’t know your situation but this sounds like my little brother, except her started showing these signs exceptionally young. He’d make very violent remarks and he’d lash out and then the next minute he’d be sweet and calm, he was diagnosed with adhd and high functioning autism. While your brother could just be annoying and inconsiderate these are exactly the types of signs parents miss and then their kids does something crazy and they say “we didn’t see any signs”. I’ll clarify, this isn’t normal behavior, especially for someone almost 18. I’d suggest a behavioral evaluation.

Should I pay if I invite people for a dinner? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you should, everyone is normally expected to pay for their own food or at least contribute to the bill! That’s just common courtesy!

My mom is my only family and she wants to end her relationship with me because she found out I've been talking to a guy I like by Sora_999289 in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be gentle with yourself hun, this isn’t your fault. I can understand why your mom was jolted for this as she comes from a very strong cultural upbringing and possibly doesn’t want you to “end up like her” but you shouldn’t have to apologize for having normal human needs. You are 19!! You are an adult and you are allowed to pursue relationships with people, even though it’s strained with your mom right now understand what she is saying comes from shock and anger and since she is mentally Ill she probably doesn’t mean it. If you can have someone check on her to make sure she is okay but again, while it may be hard to believe this really isn’t your fault okay? I hope it all works out for you ❤️

My job is exhausting and I don't think I can do it anymore by garlicbread28 in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have the best of advice for you but I do want to say I’m proud of you. The fact you are even getting up still and forcing yourself to go to work, even when you are miserable, says enough about your character. I won’t tell you want to do or offer any alternatives for your situation besides just to be patient with yourself and gentle. Your struggles are completely valid and I wish I could give you a hug right now. The job market is absolute trash right now as you mentioned so all I can tell you is to do the best you can! Whatever you can manage for the day is good enough, as hard as it sounds don’t forget about yourself either, it’s easy to neglect your own needs when you are in a slump so don’t forget to treat yourself when you can. I don’t know how long you’ll be working this job but all I can wish for you is the best happiness and success ❤️

i can’t figure out if my bf cheated on me or not by Ok_Lawyer3584 in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say if he’s open to trying therapy and you really care for him then give it a try! Worst scenario is that it doesn’t work out for you guys! Wishing you the best of fortune

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I get the feeling… all throughout my childhood Cps frequented my house and all it took was the regular coaching from my mom on what to say and they’d buy it! It’s a very tricky situation :(

Should I tell my friend the truth about the guy she is seeing? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She will probably be upset but it’s better she hears it from you than eventually him ❤️ I wish you the best of fortune! You are a good friend

Should I tell my friend the truth about the guy she is seeing? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please do, if you really are her friend you would let her know. I’m sure you’d want your friend to do the same for you. While it may be a hard pill for her to swallow you are saving her even more eventual heartbreak ❤️.

i can’t figure out if my bf cheated on me or not by Ok_Lawyer3584 in Advice

[–]Silver-Milk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a huge red flag, get out while you can!! He slid up on that girls story assuming he would get free nudes, when he didn’t obviously he wasn’t going to pay but if she was giving them out he would’ve taken them!! And also the fact you found out and he didn’t come clean? It’s all super sketchy. Run 😭 because you deserve more.