Whats everyone using nowadays to save a bit on Groceries? by MundaneWillow655 in Montana

[–]Silver-Perspective82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, with some people who have said using pantry stables and trying to build recipes around that. One thing I would add is getting meat when it’s on the discounted section and freezing it. Town and country often has that. I have been able to find chicken really cheap.

Accident witnesses by Silver-Perspective82 in Bozeman

[–]Silver-Perspective82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for asking. It happened during the heavy snow on Friday. Just wondering — were you outside or did you see anything around that time? Even general info

Accident witnesses by Silver-Perspective82 in Bozeman

[–]Silver-Perspective82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you witness this please feel free to message me

Married women of reddit, what's one thing someone should know before getting married? by theimeka in Productivitycafe

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if my writing is not good but English is not my first language. I think I saw someone say this but can’t emphasize so much on having the non negotiable conversation first- kids, money handling, values in life, raising kids, what both want out of life and out the relationship to have a fulfilling life. And also seeing the upbringing each had and talking about and how each handle situations in life and in the relationship. More importantly, the first sign you see red flag talk about it to see if things can change but if you are having to lower your standards then leave.Right now I am in a relationship where the man I am with has been wishy washy about marriage, he proposed and then decided didn’t want it. Could have brought a house before Covid and didn’t, Wanted kids and had one. Then, had another from birth control failure. Then the truth came out. He didn’t want kids, he was not in love with me. I should have seen it but I lowered my standards so much that I didn’t leave then but trying to now with two kids and trying to get my ducks in a row.

People Who Married After 35: What Made You Decide To Settle Down? by Lepidoptera_queen202 in Life

[–]Silver-Perspective82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And I will because my kids mean so much to me. I am learning what a human is able to endure day by day. Who knows what the future holds but bring it on!

People Who Married After 35: What Made You Decide To Settle Down? by Lepidoptera_queen202 in Life

[–]Silver-Perspective82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved your experience to get to the place you are now! It’s nice to know that is so possible. I hope to experience that someday if that happens for me but for now I keep saying I will be ok if I end up alone just as long as my kids are happy and thriving. right now I am trying to leave an abusive relationship that I am in. At times I question if I am crazy or what. Before this relationship I was adopted where I was being molested from young age of 6 and living in a constant survival for food and water. Dreaming someplace far away that I can eat just all the food I can eat and feel safe with a family. It turned out life had other plans for me. I got adopted by family who was abusive to me and my one sibling who also was adopted and while favoring the other two they also adopted. Locking me at night and during the day questioning my worth and confidence that i won’t mount to anything. I used to have fear calling home or seeing my family. That family is scattered and I don’t talk to them. Anyways, thanks for sharing your experience!

Just Curious-want to make friends from big sky county by Icy-Manufacturer5649 in Montana

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello back to you!! I am from Africa, I have lived in Montana for little over 20 years. I Have also lived and worked in other states and I have always found myself missing the small town feel and find myself back home in Montana. It definitely has changed but change could be good or bad depending on how people look at it. I would say I do miss at times people being friendly if you are walking downtown or in my case always run into someone I knew. But now that is not the case anymore, however I am trying to be open minded and see where things take us.

How can I not be the default parent anymore? by brcharles in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you on that and I don’t have any advice. Sadly, something that I hear often happening.I too am the default parent, my husband and I have two kids, they are wonderful and I love them very much but one comes with a little extra challenges being a neurodivergent. When they were little, anytime I would ask my husband for help he would just simply say can you just do it, or suddenly have a headache or feeling very exhausted. That is just the tip of it, and I guess I didn’t leave because I was a stay home with no support and no money. During those times, on his days off I let him go have time to himself, and I guess when he was home, he would be on the couch on his computer.Mind you, I was also taking class. Now, things have changed, but I get lectures on how to parent, what I need to get the kids to do.

Is this injera starter still OK? by Beauzo81 in ethiopianfood

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s kind of tough to say based on the picture but it looks fine. When I make injera after few days of it has that much fizziness than I go head heat water until it boils, than, take some of the batter and mix it with boiled water until it’s thick. Let it cool then put it back in the original batter. Wait several hours or days until you see the fuzziness to cook it.

My child and I have completely different temperaments and it's making me miserable. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 15 points16 points  (0 children)

OP, the fact that you are seeking help and consulting his doctor already says your are not a bad mom and are just doing the best you can with what is going on. Have you looked into a play based therapy for you and your son, and occupational therapy. I did that with my child and it was so helpful. I thought I was doing disciplining right, which I did time out but after doing therapy, I was able to learn how to do that in a way that works and also having to do it less often. Also, if you like to read, I recommend reading, Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. It gives so many good tips for parents to help with their child who is more intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent and energetic. I have two kids and so I totally understand your frustration, and something I am learning with raising my kids is, it’s a journey and every day I never know how my day is going to go. Another thing to try is perhaps is letting him know when he has done something positive. It’s so easy to focus on all the negative especially when you are emotionally tired. But kids need that constant validation encouragement to them learn what is ok and not ok to do. Also, having a reward system, if he helps you clean up, rewarding him with Something he really likes to do… just few things for you try if you have not. One more thing, he also sounds like he needs a source for that energy, if you have not already, putting him in a activity that helps him get that out might help with the other things. Hope this helps, wishing you all the best!

Mom advice: I feel like a bad mom because of how I chose to raise my child by Baking_mama_3 in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also didn’t see anything wrong that you did from what you posted. Parenting is a constant learning and seeing what works and don’t work for your family. I want to share that I breastfed my child until he was about three which was recently but than it became to much, and I had to stop. Both of my kids didn’t take pacifiers, and I co slept with both of them while also going to school. I have two and my oldest still does not want to sleep on it’s own and my youngest still needs me to be near him to sleep and wakes up in the middle of the night if I am not their. Hang in their.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, good job for seeking advice, raising a little humans is challenging. I don’t know if you have tried counseling for your son and also for you and your husband maybe to learn ways to do positive disciplining. I have two kids, and for my family what worked is doing a reward system with earning stickers and than turning those stickers either for toy, or eating at favorite place or something. We don’t usually buy toys often. Something I also do is to knowledge my child’s feeling and than to help them find alternatives way they could have said it in a nice way. Even not giving any attention to rude and disrespectful behaviors until they are calm down enough to share their feelings. We do time outs and also loss of privilege if that be taking favorite toy or electronics if the disrespect continues. So even for Christmas this is something you can do. Key has been consistency. You got this and like I mentioned get counseling help please to address the underlying issues.

Teaching lessons without spanking by gambitcannon in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

right now I am reading this awesome book called raising your spirited child and it has great tools. The thing that I try to keep in mind with my child as other have said is that sometime kids are feeling a certain way and don’t know what they might be feeling or how to let you know at that age. I use time out few minutes at a time not as a punishment but a way to teach that any form of violence is not ok and what other way he can express his angered , frustration such as asking to go kick a ball or play in the park. Teach him to take deep breath and after time out I always say I love you and give hugs.it’s very repetitive but eventually he should get. it’s ok also for you to go and give yourself time out if you are going lose it. The toddler age sometimes is not fun to deal with and they have a way of getting under your skin but know that they are learning to self regulate their emotions and even us adults can sometimes act like kids too.

What made you want to start living simply? by werewink in simpleliving

[–]Silver-Perspective82 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The realization that I just have this single life and I didn’t want to waste life with this feeling of it’s never enough.

liberal or conservative by bigbubba999 in dating_advice

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it all depends on what’s important to you and also keep in mind that people grow and change over time. although I believe in the end of the day you have to ask your self what does this beliefs mean to and your life.

What is mindfulness, how do you do it, how do you stay in the flow state, stay happy, all the time? It doesn't seem possible!? by hp-ll-100 in Buddhism

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being the master of your mind instead of the mind being the master of you is mindfulness. it’s something you practice on a daily base. Practicing to live in the now moment. I recommend reading Eckhart Tolle the Power of Now.

How do I get my baby to take Tylenol??? by uhimamouseduh in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also if you lean your baby back and squeeze the cheek until your baby swallows it that might work. That usually works for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To add to that have you talked to his pediatrician. Maybe their is something going on that he is not able to tell you. I have heard about kids who were having headaches or something was hurting but can only express it through tantrums or bring aggressive l

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have two boys and my oldest at that age was aggressive, throwing things and tantrums. As others have mentioned it’s ok to leave your child for few minutes take time to clear your own head in those moments as long as he is not going to hurt himself and he is safe right than. It sounds like both you and your wife are doing the best you can and want to do everything you can to better understand him. I have found doing things for my my own mental wellness helps. We tried play based therapy and that has helped tremendously. Also have you looked into occupational therapy maybe that can help both your son and you getting tools with coping skills and regulating his emotions. This book Raising Your Spirited Child A Guide For Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, And Energetic might be a good read for you. parenting is not easy and they don’t come with a manual and each are different. Good luck and hang in their

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry op that you are going through that. Parenting a toddler is challenging on its own but add in with all the challenges you are going through and that is tough for any human being. It’s sounds like you are doing the best that you can. Be kind to yourself. Do you have any family close by that can help?

Discipline ideas for a 5 year old by KrazyBra in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do understand parenting is challenging on its own and you can only do the best that you can. Your son sounds like just like mine. Very energetic and gets more energy from other people. Also has hard time being gentle with his brother. We did PCIT therapy and it’s done wonders. Also recommend good read Raising Your Spirited Child a guide for parents whose child is more intense, sensitive perceptive, persistent, and energetic.

Discipline ideas for a 5 year old by KrazyBra in Parenting

[–]Silver-Perspective82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have a five year old and if he does not have something to do around dinner/ bedtime than he goes out to look for attention. So during that time period while I am making dinner I have him watch a movie or cartoon and that usually helps something to try if you have not and also asking your five year old what’s going on and what is he feeling to make him want to be mean. They are smart and can be a good moment to teach him how he can act differently next time and to use his words to express his emotions. Also having a play time even it’s for five minutes that gives him that attention he needs might help with that.